Who doesn't feel guilty about working?
I feel so bad for everyone who wishes they could be a SAHM but can't, yet I don't relate. We could fairly easily afford for one of us to SAH (we would have to cut extras like maxing our retirement, nice vacations, and cleaning service though), but both of us working feels best for our family. It helps that we both have 40 hour a week jobs with only occasional overtime and short commutes.
The only thing I really dislike about working so far is pumping. I would rather be able to nurse my baby in person... otherwise I've been fine. Probably helps I also had a working mom who had to return to work when I was 6 weeks old.
Re: Who doesn't feel guilty about working?
I could only SAH willingly if we had enough money to have a regular mother's helper - like at least 10 hours a week.
My mom did primarily SAH when I was about 3-9 years old but she was also an Army Reservist. Honestly since I'm not a huge baby person that sounds a lot more appealing to me.
My mom was a teacher, so she was home w me all summer and home by 4. I don't usually get home til 6 and only get 3 weeks off a year, so my time with my kid(s) will be significantly less. I do feel guilty when I would pass a soccer/baseball game on my way home from work and would think 'I'll never make it to take my kids to games, I'll be lucky if I can catch the very end of a game'. That, I do feel guilty about.
But as far as sahm full time permanantly? No. Part time permanantly? Absolutely. I feel like one of the reasons I haven't been sleeping well at night is bc my mind isn't as stimulated during the day, so it's just not as tired at night!
I was soooo ready to go back to work after I had my first child. I went back at 6 weeks pp and wouldn't have changed anything.
This time around, I had absolutely no desire to go back. I am now a SAHM.
I'm excited to hit some financial goals this year and ill be hustling for a raise. Having C makes me want to have our forever home now so I'm angling for putting down a significant chunk of change on a bigger house in the next two years
This. We do need both incomes but we can swing me working part-time for at least the next 6 months. So I went back to work after 4 weeks and even at less than 30hours, it's tough, but I love it. Like Starry, I absolutely LOATH pumping and trying to keep up the supply with his feeding demands, especially since my job is so busy that I don't get that much time to pump.
I actually feel sort of guilty for NOT looking forward to the days I stay home all day with LO. Don't get me wrong - I love him but DH works from home and holds a lot of teleconferences. Our condo is tiny so I am confined to one little room which is not set up really well for things like nursing. And I have not been able to take him out that much since it has been cold and everywhere inside has been crowded. Now that he's got his shots and hopefully the crowd dies down after the holidays, hopefully I can get out more on the days I am home with him.
i have not returned yet but I never had any intentions on SAH.
I want a 3 or 4 day work week(30 hours) and will do that once I go back and I plan on coming on changing schedule 730a- 3p I work in healthcare so it shouldn't be a problem.
Hubby is going to stay home with B thru March when I go back and will start DC after
I complain a lot about wanting a new job but right now its the perfect set up since I live less than 5 mins to work. I am still waiting for offers though
I'm going back at 4 months pp to a new position (promotion) this is weird for a lot of canadians to do because we get 12 months with half our pay but it's going to work out better for my family and H is going to stay home for the remaining 8 months. He gets a top up so why not? Lots of people like to tell me "how crazy I must be to wanna go back so soon" ... drives me nuts. being a SAHM is sooo not for me.