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June 2013 Moms
Baby Shower Guest List Q? (XP from BS board)
So, my shower is scheduled for March 2 based on the advice from the MoMs on the multiples board that an early shower is a good thing when carrying multiples. I am putting together the guest list for the hosts and am wondering what to do regarding a certain group of women that I am not particularly close with, but whose husbands are all like brothers to me.
We aren't that close these days b/c most of us have moved away and seperated, but I grew up with these guys and invited them to my wedding/were invited to theirs (as a guest of the groom). However, as for their wives, I can only say that I talk to only two of them and it is still a bit strained and none of them invited me to their baby/bridal showers.
I am thinking of inviting the two that I am more friendly with and leaving the others off the list, although I would love it if all of their husbands came (although I am not sure if the hosts are planning a co-ed shower or not). But, I don't want to be rude by inviting some and not all.
What should I do?
ETA: the shower is going to be in my hometown where most of them live and they are close with one another...
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Re: Baby Shower Guest List Q? (XP from BS board)
This.
A baby shower is more relaxed than a wedding. People get all up tight about not being invited to a wedding. I think a shower is for your close family and friends. You aren't friends with them. If it's co-ed, then maybe because you are friends with the guys. Otherwise, I'd leave them off the list. Ask yourself, do you really care if they get upset if they aren't invited?
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As other PP's suggested: I'd invite them if it's co-ed but not invite them if its not. I personally have been invited to a baby shower of a gal I'm not close to, but who's hubby my hubby is close with. It was really awkward. Especially since we aren't part of the same group of friends, meaning: i didn't know anyone else so it was a drag.
Only invite the people who really care that you are having babies =D
I only invited close friends to my shower, people I see regularly and keep up with. I felt weird inviting acquaintances because if I don't talk to you regularly or hang out with you, why should you come bring me gifts, KWIM?
And if you're friends with just the husbands, and not the wives and it's not a co-ed shower, they might feel awkward at the shower if they really don't know anyone.
I actually know people who think it's an insult to not go to something they were invited too. It answers my question at some wedding "what are you doing here?" lol That'd be the only thing keeping me back from just inviting people and leaving it up to them lol