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Stupid sex question...sorry. TMI...

ChristyMLChristyML
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I don't know where to put this post... 

I am about 10 weeks pp, and my husband and I have already had sex once, but it hurt SO bad...we tried again yesterday, but it hurt just like the last time...

Is this normal? I mean, I felt like I was wet enough...and we used a ton of lube... Also, I thought that after you had a baby you were really stretched out "down there"...

Has anyone successfully (meaning, without pain or discomfort) had intercourse yet?

TIA 

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Re: Stupid sex question...sorry. TMI...

  • kieannbkieannb

    I havn't been given the okay for sex yet, so I am not much help... but I did hear that it is pretty common for it to hurt the first few times after having a baby.

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  • hcbrownehcbrowne member
    My OB said it is very normal to hurt at first and to try and relax as much as possible b/c tensing will make it a lot worse (obviously). 
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  • chapstix7chapstix7 member
    It still hurts for me. :(
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  • ChristyMLChristyML

    imagechapstix7:
    It still hurts for me. :(

    Noo! :( BTW, did you get your son's outfit from Amazon? 

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  • Cherry3142Cherry3142 member
    I'm 10 weeks pp too and have been having the same problem, apart from I couldn't even handle it the first time. I asked my doctor and he suggested "warming up" in the shower and going from there. 
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  • jennygirlmtjennygirlmt member
    I hurt to the point of tears for a yr the first time around. I'm afraid to try yet for that reason :
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  • inateapotinateapot

    First time we didn't even come close to finishing it hurt so bad. Second time was better - and my husband is super patient & willing to go slow. By the third I was enjoying it. 

    Like other said - lots of lube and patience. You know your body & if it hurts, it hurts. Everyone is different and heals differently. Just keep trying slowly and I'm sure you'll be back in the saddle in no time. :D 

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  • puppy_love6969puppy_love6969 member
    Im too scared to try :(
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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821
    It did hurt for a long time after, but not horribly. I could no longer do quickies...I needed a lot of foreplay. I know people say you stretch out, but if anything, after DD I felt a lot tighter like DH couldn't get in there (TMI, sorry). I haven't tried yet after DS, I am only 6 weeks PP and still spotting.
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  • KisstyKissty member

    Ouch! Ouch! Ouch!  Still.  You would think things got larger but no.  Or my DH slipped the doc an extra $20 to add a stitch. LOL                                         Seriously though it is still uncomfortable.  But I'm gonna keep going at it.  It was almost 7 months without.  It was just too uncomfortable (for both of us) during pregnancy so when I was given the OK it was Go Time.  So from what I've read this seems normal. 

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  • iamheidi28iamheidi28 member
    The first time it hurt when he went in ( I had stitches) but I was also really nervous. We did it a few days later and it was a little uncomfortable but felt amazing...after that it was back to normal;) The first 5 times though I was on top so I can control the pressure and angle. It will get better...and being on top is VERY helpful
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  • stgn01stgn01 member

    After DD it hurt really bad.  It felt like he was ramming a steel rod in there.  For some reason, it didn't feel better until after I got my period (about 4 months pp).  We used lube and lots of foreplay, but it just didn't feel good.  I also had a second degree tear and had stiches.

    This time I haven't had any problems.  Felt good the first time and every time since.  I also didn't have any stiches this time, so I think that helps.  Just hang in there.  It gets better, I promise.  If it didn't people wouldn't have more than one kid, right? 



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