Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
mrsf123
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Re: She DDed again?!?!
ATTENTION SCAGATORGIRL: please stop being an idiot.
ETA: It's no surprise the supporters of puppies and rainbows have 50 posts or less. The Bump hasn't chewed and spit them back out yet.
bananatiff - I find it ironic that you have anything that says peace and love on your forum signature.
I apologized on a previous post, but I will do so again. I didn't realize what DDing meant. Even though my post was apparently not worth a new thread and this one is, I deleted it because it seemed to be doing more harm than good.
I am not willing to continue to participate in these cat fights. You win. I will no longer post threads. I did enjoy most of my week and a half on here.
I wish everyone a merry Christmas and a safe and beautiful pregnancy.
Well then just stop deleting your posts, grow up (you're going to be a mother for pete's sake) and learn your lessons. You're perfectly welcome here, but not everyone will like what you say all the time and sometimes the shiz hits the fan. WHen it does, back off, think about why strangers on the internet may have been offended by what you said and move on.
Well I tried to type a decent response to her several times and ended up with an error because she can't stand behind the crap she posts.
I think God was trying to interfere with her posting.
I am not sure..... jeeze louis! Sorry for that!
I noticed that too. Haha!
We I have more than 50, I guess it's my turn then...;)
Well I am new to the bump. Is the number of posts you have directly equal to your "cool" and "tough" factor? Man, that means I am ultra lame and a super sensi. You, on the other hand, are the coolest, toughest person I have seen on here.
Whelp, no arguments here.
Yall are gonna scare off the newbies! (me being one) Cant we all just get over it! We all come here for the same reason, and we all have a right to say what we feel. So lets put our hormones in check, and appreciate that we are all here on the August 2013 board!
I don't know that having the most posts is something to brag about?? You might as well be saying " I spend more time sitting in front of the computer than you!"
Ummmm, you don't know my lyfe!!!11!!
HAHAHAHAHA....amen!!
Perhaps, but I just feel like making assumptions about it
Doesn't it feel good??
Is this what you had in mind?
or this?
::pats jlotero on the head:: there, there, it will be all right.
It could just be that people have been on here for a long period of time and have contributed to a lot of people's posts, not necessarily that they have so many posts because they spend a lot of time in front of a computer.
Could be, but I like to assume about other people, you guys should be familiar with that word given your posts from earlier today
Anyway, I can't sit in front of the computer anymore, I have to work. Thanks for keeping it real everyone, this has been fun!
I really don't care about all this other shiz, but if you ever need a bump bestie, I'd like to apply. For serious.
Love is multiplied: DS #1: 1.5.99 ~ DS #2: 9.23.11 ~ DD 8.29.13
m/c 11/12/12 - sleep tight baby bean.
Bitty Baby #4, please stick around - we already love you so very much!
Ultrasound 11/4 - TWO HEARTBEATS!!!
I am just lurking on this board as I am from the Feb. 2013 board and I wanted to put in my two cents.
First off, this is going to be a long 9 months if all of you ladies keep acting like this. So someone made a mistake or offended someone. It happens, it is the internet--so what? Build a bridge and get over it. I have had posts in the beginning that I deleted because the poo flinging got so ridiculous it was the only way to put an end to the madness.
Secondly, if you guys don't start banding together as women expecting babies around the same time on this board, what is the purpose of having your own birth month club? Are you planning on slandering the entire 9 months or running people off? Seriously. Your attitudes are going to ruin it for everyone who views this board and you might not get the advice, experience or support that many of you are here for.
And as for MUD, (for you newbies that stands for Made Up Drama) you'll see it everywhere on any board. But you seriously shouldn't want to be known as the bit*hy board that no one wants to post on. It truly isn't a good title to hold.
People come to these boards to get advice, support, and answers to things that they might not be able to talk to other people about. Don't take that away from the women who are actually trying to seek camaraderie with fellow mommies experiencing the same thing at the same time.
Ok, what the heck happened? What was the post about that was deleted?
Or is the same person who deemed God in charge of giving and taking away babies willy nilly?
I don't remember seeing anyone make fun of people's belief in God. People were offended about what she said about God's plans and that he doesn't make mistakes.
This exactly.
the "original" post isn't gone. it was my post.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
Um, ok. Seriously?
This. Ikr?!!
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