My daughter is 3 weeks old and my husband is a marine. As a military wife I'm stuck out here in the middle of no where Georgia with no friends, and no family. He's not even deployed, but he goes down to work for days on end leaving me here to deal with our new baby plus all of the normal household responsibilities, and recovering from a csection. Now, I'm sure this sinario is all to familiar to a lot of you, but that doesn't make it easy... When he's working he's getting his 3 hot meals, and at least 8hours a night plus maybe a nap here and there, he's got time to watch TV and socialize and just play for days on end he's got a pretty easy job at this particular base. In the mean time, I have a screaming 3 week old and all I do is feed her, change her, and sit here with this stupid breast pump We're having breast feeding problems, that's another story. But she eats every 2 hours, I pump every 3 hours, and it takes me an hour to pump... It's this awful exhausting cycle. I don't even get to eat any more, partly because I don't have time to grocery shop. My house is filthy, and I'm about to die from exhaustion. And he tells me that he is going to get off work on this day and that he will be home to help for a couple days. So I get excited and then he tells me that things have changed. This last week I've have 1/2 a night off... That because he got home last night at 1am and he's leaving again today after dinner. And I didn't even really get that 1/2 a night off because he was getting frustrated with her, and in my opinion, was being too rough.
Sorry that the baby is screaming in your ear, for once. SHE'S A BABY, that's what they do.
So I took her and took over the rest of her feedings and diaper changes for the night, while he slept some more...
And on the rare occasion when he is home, and he is helping with her, he's playing a game on his stupid phone, or he sets her down to watch TV! And he will just sit there on his phone and let her cry and just not do anything about it. If you were gone for 6 days straight, day and night, wouldn't you want to spend your time off with your baby? Not angry birds?
I know, I need to get use to being the main caregiver for our baby, I know that I need to deal with it. But I really don't know how. Maybe it's the hormones that are just making me want to smack him into next week, maybe it's the lack of sleep, or maybe I'm just overwhelmed; but I don't know how long I can run on empty. Everyone keeps telling me that it will get better, and that ill get used to it, but it's just not, it's getting worse. Every time I see him get frustrated with her or not paying attention to her I just want to cry with anger.
How do I deal with this?!