Do you judge me?

CinemaGoddess · December 2012

Target jeans ruined Christmas.

Target ruins everything.

iheartsippycups · December 2012

LOL @ "shame on you"

I will be taking $50 worth of toys & putting it from her, don't worry those who judge me.

iheartsippycups · December 2012

CinemaGoddess:

Target jeans ruined Christmas.

Target ruins everything.

And here I thought more people would have judged me on the target jeans

MirandaHobbes · December 2012

No. I've done this. Got a PBK gift card and used it on a frame for a picture (for me). Also, I've used a PBK gift card from a friend to purchase gifts for DS that I've put under the tree "from Mom and Dad". ha!

edit: I did this when DS was a baby. Now he's old enough to know better.

MommaG123 · December 2012

robinsokj:
I'll be the lone dissenter here.
When people give me money to go to my kids I make sure that's where it goes. Whether it be in savings, 529, toys, what-have you.
I mean, if you needed food for the family that you otherwise couldn't afford, then sure, take the $50, but this is icky to me

This is kind of where I'm at.

I mean if you were going to buy yourself the clothes regardless then whatever. But if you wouldn't have bought it and were then like "hey now I can buy myself something" then yeah I judge a little.

missymo · December 2012

CoffeeBeen:
missymo:
CoffeeBeen:
I don't get the people who are upset about this.nbsp; Am I missing something?nbsp; Like, say she bought a 50 art easel for LO.nbsp; If she takes the easel back to the store, returns it, and buys the same easel with grandma's 50.nbsp; Would that be acceptable?nbsp;

Lol! I usually agree with you to the letter, CoffeeBeen, but I gotta dissent here. I don't think parents are supposed to pocket their kids Christmas money as payback for all the presents they already bought.

It's not like OP is a horrible person or anything! However, the gift was meant for her kid, not for her.
I know, I feel like a turncoat or something.  Prepare to internet battle, missymo.
Since she said she overspent, I'm assuming the kid has multiple presents.  It's not like Grandma is suddenly footing the bill for Christmas.  Just one present.  Seems like a reasonable distribution of parents vs. grandparent gifts.
And so long as they say, "Hey Grandma, thanks so much for the easel!  LO plays with it every day!" and LO knows that the gift is from Grandma, then that gift is from Grandma.
How is it so different from if Grandma had given the $50 before all of the Christmas gifts were bought?

Well, it's different because Grandma DIDN'T give the money before the gifts were bought. :

I will not disagree with CoffeeBeen! I must leave this thread.

CinemaGoddess · December 2012

iheartsippycups:
CinemaGoddess:

Target jeans ruined Christmas.

Target ruins everything.

And here I thought more people would have judged me on the target jeans

lolololol.

I'd wager at least 90% of the people on this board shop at Target.

CoffeeBeen · December 2012

missymo:
CoffeeBeen:
missymo:
CoffeeBeen:
I don't get the people who are upset about this.nbsp; Am I missing something?nbsp; Like, say she bought a 50 art easel for LO.nbsp; If she takes the easel back to the store, returns it, and buys the same easel with grandma's 50.nbsp; Would that be acceptable?nbsp;
Lol! I usually agree with you to the letter, CoffeeBeen, but I gotta dissent here. I don't think parents are supposed to pocket their kids Christmas money as payback for all the presents they already bought. It's not like OP is a horrible person or anything! However, the gift was meant for her kid, not for her.
I know, I feel like a turncoat or something. Prepare to internet battle, missymo.
Since she said she overspent, I'm assuming the kid has multiple presents. It's not like Grandma is suddenly footing the bill for Christmas. Just one present. Seems like a reasonable distribution of parents vs. grandparent gifts.
And so long as they say, "Hey Grandma, thanks so much for the easel! LO plays with it every day!" and LO knows that the gift is from Grandma, then that gift is from Grandma.
How is it so different from if Grandma had given the $50 before all of the Christmas gifts were bought?
Well, it's different because Grandma DIDN'T give the money before the gifts were bought. : I will not disagree with CoffeeBeen! I must leave this thread.

Agreed! This is tearing us apart, I can't bear it any longer! ::gets the hell out of here::

TrixieMonroe · December 2012

I don't judge you, but I think you're having a bit of guilt over it, hence this post.

[Deleted User] · December 2012

ougrad1:
RayRay007:
ougrad1:
Yes, that money wasn't intended for you. You could have opened a little savings account for him. Shame on you-seriously.

Or put it towards an iPad.
ew....burn.

Lol!

madamsmurfette · December 2012

Yes. I don't think you needed to go out and buy the kid another gift, but the $ was meant for him. I think you should have put it in his savings account.

thisplaceisstupid · December 2012

sippycup.. you ruined your childs christmas and you're going to hell, all for some target jeans. i hope it was worth it.

CinemaGoddess · December 2012

It wasn't even 50 items from the Target dollar aisle.

hmp1 · December 2012

missymo:
Honestly, a little bit, yeah. I would have put it in my daughter's piggy bank or college fund if she had enough toys. I would kinda be pissed if I found out my sister took 50 I sent my nephew and spent it on clothes for herself. I don't judge too much over it, but it's not at all what I would do.

Meh. If I gave a toddler cash, I wouldn't expect the parents to spend that exact $50 on the kid. If I really wanted it to be used towards the kid, I would have asked what the kid needs/wants or sent a gift card to a children's type store. IMO, a cash gift is really more for the parents to offset other expenses for the child until the kid is old enough to understand Grandma sent $50 to go shopping with.

If I sent the kid $50 and s/he got nothing for Christmas, then I would be pissed if it was spent on jeans for the mom.

MrsGoodkat · December 2012

I don't judge because I see both sides but I probably lean more towards the side that says it was money intended for your LO and since you'd already spent money on gifts he was receiving anyway, the $50 should have gone to him.

But it's all good 'cause it'll come back to you when he's in college and needs spending money. You'll just have to dole out an extra $50 to make up for what's not in his bank account.

Ms Adler · December 2012

Not in the slightest. I wish my family would give me that option so that every year we don't have to find places in our small apartment for how much crap they buy.

chardonnay24 · December 2012

Only a little. I probably would have stuck it in his college account or something. But really, as long as you stick her name on one of the gifts and tell her that he really loved the ____ she got him, it's fine.

iheartsippycups · December 2012

thisplaceisstupid:
sippycup.. you ruined your childs christmas and you're going to hell, all for some target jeans. i hope it was worth it.

LOL

robinsokj · December 2012

Did no one else catch the ew burn instea of oooh burn? Bc that was the best part of this thread

[Deleted User] · December 2012

robinsokj:
Did no one else catch the ew burn instea of oooh burn? Bc that was the best part of this thread

Oh, no. I caught that & LOL'd

Wufroggy79 · December 2012

No.

Wufroggy79 · December 2012

sofamonkey:
ougrad1:
RayRay007:
ougrad1:
Yes, that money wasn't intended for you. You could have opened a little savings account for him. Shame on you-seriously.

Or put it towards an iPad.
ew....burn.
Lol!

Thumbs up!

Snapdragon750 · December 2012

EDIT: Nevermind my post, I thought they sent you a gift card but I re-read and it was cash. Not judging.

ridesbuttons · December 2012

Yes.

But here's the caveat.

DH and I have plenty of money. So taking their money and spending it on us when it was intended for LOs is (IMO) 100% wrong (for us).

If a person give $$$ intended for LOs, it goes to LOs.

I have a dear family friend who gave my DS1 $100 with a note (mind you, DS1 was 9 months old at the time and my dear, dear family friend was in her 90s) that said "work hard at your life, but remember to have fun too".

I put the $100 in his bank account. I put the note in my diary.

If I ever had a daughter, I'd have named her Marion.

robinsokj · December 2012

mbenit4:
I don't get the ew vs ooh thing. It did seem odd but not LOL worthy JMO.

Shocking

MommyKayla11 · December 2012

Nope.

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