Whenever someone loses, it hurts so bad.

october_artist · December 2012

So last month, my cousin lost her pregnancy at 12 weeks. She has a 3 year old at home and although we aren't super close, I feel she is dealing with it quite "well" considering....I never thought I would be so very upset....I was absolutely crushed for her. As in full tears, stomach ache, just torn up over it.

And now, I just found out about another loss that has happened to someone I was so strongly praying for. I am so very hurt for her over this! As in again, tears, stomach ache, etc.

Ugh. This just sucks. I hate that this happens...

and there is no reason to this post, I'm just so sad - I wish this sort of loss didn't have to exist.

Anyone else just immediately get that drop out of your stomach feeling when you read/hear about a pregnancy/baby loss? It brings me right back to seeing my ultrasound where there was no heartbeat and I hate that other people have to feel that too, and sometimes more than once....

JulyMomma2U2 · December 2012

I could have wrote this myself. It's so awful that loss is so common... Devastating. I'm sorry for both of your friends.. And for all of us who have had to go through a loss...

ewilliams1127 · December 2012

When my bestie lost her last one to ectopic I lost it. I felt like I was reliving my loss, on top of praying so hard she got to take home this baby. Shes had 3 losses (1 @ 12 w) and the other two ectopic. I feel like her IF struggles were mine and i even had my calendar set for the shower. I really thought this was THE one.

It does suck. I cry too and I think it's normal (at least I hope it is otherwise I might need to start therapy:).

adoxyinherear · December 2012

Agree with PP... even knowing it's common doesn't help with the hurting. You wish there was more you could do. *hugs*

SharonB222 · December 2012

That's a healthy reaction and I expect your hurt will diminish over time. I had a range of strong emotions during RPL but when I lost my 5th pg I became --- unfeeling (PTSD?). So when a friend has an early loss I have to make an effort to be empathetic. Not cool, but human I guess. I expect this too will diminish for me. Hugs for you and your cousin in this difficult time.

Izabella22 · December 2012

SharonB222:
That's a healthy reaction and I expect your hurt will diminish over time. I had a range of strong emotions during RPL but when I lost my 5th pg I became --- unfeeling (PTSD?). So when a friend has an early loss I have to make an effort to be empathetic. Not cool, but human I guess. I expect this too will diminish for me. Hugs for you and your cousin in this difficult time.

I have the same respnse... its kind of like a dead feeling inside. Probalby because it does take you back to that place where it feels like the whole world just stopped. And when its someone you care about it just hits too close to home. I do think its a protective thing.

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