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December 2010 Moms
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Feeling stressed. Need to vent.
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I am 6 days late. I'm usually super regular except for earlier this year I was 4 or 5 days late. Three pregnancy tests say negative, so I don't know what the heck is going on. We hoped to start TTC in February after we know how we stand financially. So I guess we wouldn't be too far off, but I'd still like to have things figured out first!
Our furnace is out and I'm huddled up next to a space heater while I type this. We have a home warranty, but they are taking their sweet time getting it fixed for us and we might be in the cold for 2 weeks.
We need a new car and I've been puttin off shopping for one until after Js bday. DH found a used CRV, which is a great deal, but we have to decide on it by Friday. I kind of want to shop around to see what our options are, but H thinks we need to jump on this.
And Christmas is a whole post by itself. Short version: I told my dad my perperson budget this year. He made me feel like I was being super cheap, and told me 'well I hope you're not embarrassed on Christmas when you see what other people give you." ugh. The difference is that he has 5 people total to buy for and I have 18. So I can't up my budget without upping it 18 times! I hate that Christmas is about giving gifts in my family. Grr!
There's more, but that is all I can say right now. I already feel like a massive whiner. We are lucky to have each other and all be relatively healthy.
Our furnace is out and I'm huddled up next to a space heater while I type this. We have a home warranty, but they are taking their sweet time getting it fixed for us and we might be in the cold for 2 weeks.
We need a new car and I've been puttin off shopping for one until after Js bday. DH found a used CRV, which is a great deal, but we have to decide on it by Friday. I kind of want to shop around to see what our options are, but H thinks we need to jump on this.
And Christmas is a whole post by itself. Short version: I told my dad my perperson budget this year. He made me feel like I was being super cheap, and told me 'well I hope you're not embarrassed on Christmas when you see what other people give you." ugh. The difference is that he has 5 people total to buy for and I have 18. So I can't up my budget without upping it 18 times! I hate that Christmas is about giving gifts in my family. Grr!
There's more, but that is all I can say right now. I already feel like a massive whiner. We are lucky to have each other and all be relatively healthy.
I used to be a big deal. Now I'm just old.
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Re: Feeling stressed. Need to vent.
Vent away. Sometimes just getting it out there helps. Everything you mentioned is definitely stress worthy and strung together would make anyone want a pity party.
I can totally relate on the Christmas thing. We aren't spending as much on everyone as we normally do either. We've even opted out of gift exchanges this year because of our budget.
Big (warm) hugs! Vent away, my friend, vent away. We all need that sometimes. I can't believe you are in the situation you are with the whole gift-giving thing. I would feel discouraged, too, if someone told me that!! What the heck?! What ever happened to "it's the thought that counts" and "Christmas is a time for love and family."
Sigh... a bunch of scrooges! Hang in there - lots of December love coming your way.
I hate that Christmas seems more about gifts too. I actually love giving gifts rather than receiving though. I love watching people open my gifts and smile. My btch sister actually said to me the other day "I spent so much on your family already. I spent xxx amount." I was like wtf does it matter how much you spent? You should buy gifts cause you want to, not cause you feel obligated or want sht back.
Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your post lol. I think everyones family has at least one piece of crap holiday ruiner.
Big hugs halo!! I hope you're heater gets fixed soon and that you get the bfp/bfn answer you need and want right now.
I answered your post on the CRV but think it's a great choice. We love ours and if you got this one, it would be one less thing to worry about. Your DH works on Hondas right? I'd let him handle this one. :-)
I'm really sorry too about the present issue. No one should make you feel that way. Can you have J make some homemade presents? I'm totally going to have C help out this year I think.
HUGS. I am so sorry you got all this going on.
Who the heck leaves a family with a 2 year old without heat for 2 weeks in December...grrr.
I hope AF doesn't keep you guessing much longer.
You know I think down deep almost everyone knows it is the thought that counts when it comes to gifts and not matching what is spent.
I am also thinking stress may be the culprit.
Babycakes - seriously, why do people feel the need to tell how much they spend? The only purpose is to brag or to make the other person feel like they should spend more. The only reason I even mentioned to my dad how much I am spending is because I told him what I bought for my brother and he asked why I didn't get him more! sheesh.
Trip - Every time DH is on the phone with them I make sure to remind him to say something about us being in the cold with a 2 year old! I honestly don't think it helps, though.
Thanks everybody, I appreciate the commiserating.
And the Christmas thing, your dad isn't being fair saying that to you. We cut out a ton of gift giving last year, and cut even more this year. We just have way to many other expenses in our lives. One thing I found that helped was announcing the year before (when T was born) that we were asking to not receive gifts the next year, and that we would not be purchasing gifts either. All of our family and friends that we said this too were completely receptive and many also felt relief because they can't afford it either.
Everything will come together - I hope your heat gets fixed soon, and whatever you decide on the car will work out. Chin up mama!!!
I hope your heat gets fixed ASAP!! Just use this time to get in some family snuggles under the blankets
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hugs to you, girl! you know you can vent away here as much as you want/need! FX your heat is fixed soon, the car situation works out & AF shows up for you! And try not to worry about the gift situation - if people don't realize it's the thought that counts, then really it doesn't matter how much you spend on their gift - they'll still be ungrateful regardless!
Wow, I can't believe your dad said that. Talk about not getting the spirit of the season.
We cut back our holiday spending a lot this year too, but it was by mutual agreement of everyone in the family. It seems like everyone has a lot to save up for this year.
Hope AF doesn't keep you waiting too much longer. GL!