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I have a confession. On a Monday.
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I get all stabby when people address mail Mr and Mrs (insert DH's name here). My name is five letters long and I'm not DH's property. Just write my godddamn name.
/end vent.
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Re: I have a confession. On a Monday.
I prefer to go informal when I send my Christmas cards.
My grandmother did yell at me once because I addressed her card to her name and even though my grandfather was deceased at the time I was still supposed to address it to Mr&MrsGrandpa.
Like "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith"? Or "Mr. and Mrs. Smith"?
The second is only weird to me if you don't have the same last name. The first is just tremendously outdated.
Agree...
It's not the maiden name thing. It's like the Mr & Mrs. Charles Deerborn
The first one is what makes me stabby. I dont mind the second one as much.
still no issue with me....
I'd do John Smith and Jane Doe on the address label. I'd mention in the invitation that children are welcome if you're inviting them to an event.
I know. It doesn't bother me.
Yeah, the first one is awful. The second one I wouldn't mind if I had DH's name, but I don't, so even that irks me. But it's usually from old people so I let it slide.
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
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I mind less when my grandmother does it because of the generational thing. People around my age-- not so much.
I just think it's outdated. Women are not property anymore. That's my only beef with it. It takes the individuality out of the couple.
As a married woman with a different last name, I'd suggest John Smith and Jane Doe. No Mr. or Ms.
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
Just address it to The Sinners.
I would have done Smith-Jones Family
This literally made me LOL.
Eh, I think for a formal letter Mrs and Mrs. Smith is appropriate. I dont think Mr and Mrs. John Smith is ever appropriate.
Whoops. This is how I addressed xmas cards going to couples. Anyone with kids got a "The Lastname Family"
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lolol
+1
I have bigger things to worry about than how my mail is addressed. Like, does the card inside contain money!?
Me, too. I never really notice/care what people write on stuff we receive, though. I'm usually just happy to get mail that's not junk or a bill.
Zing. Haha.
ETA. My stance. I don't mind it. I actually kind of like it. And no, I don't feel like MH's property.
+1
Mr & Mrs (husband's name) doesn't bother me in the slightest.
It does bother me that everyone assumes I went back to my maiden name after my divorce when I didn't. I do regret that now, 5 years later, but still, it's not my name.
It just seems like a stupid thing to get upset over. I'm sure everybody has other real issues to be pissed off about instead of the right way to address a invitation or card. Because people who send them this way are doing it the "right" way, no matter if you like it or not.
Touche. LOL
+1
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This.
This is us. Most people just address it to The "DH last name" Family. I'm fine with it.