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WWYD? RE Related

KGS2003KGS2003 member
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This is a P&R because I am at work .  I will check back later in the day when I am off. 

 As you all know I went to see my RE on 11/21 to set up the protocol for our next IVF at the beginning of 2013.  When I saw him, he said they would take a look at the financials to see if they could cut their fees a bit more for us and then, they would send me a new fee schedule and a calendar to start priming for the ET some time in January. That was two weeks ago.

I have not heard from his office once in the last two weeks.  At first I was ok with  not hearing from them because Thanksgiving was the day after I saw him but now I am starting to get a little pissed off.  We called them the Monday after Thanksgiving and were told the RE hadn't given them his plan yet. DH thinks I am overreacting because we aren't planning anything until 2013.  Umm I have to be on BCPs and schedule bloodwork before anything can happen.  It's not like I am new to this. 

I am worried that the level of care we received from them in 2010 and 2011 will not be the same if this is how our new cycle is going to start with them.  DH says I just worry too much.  I DH right?  Would you be upset after two weeks of nothing?  I want to call them tomorrow and say WTF!  DH thinks I should wait. What would you do?

Thank you so much for your opinions.  I trust you all and know you will give it to me straight.  So if I am being stupid just slap me and tell me so.

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  • delinodelino member

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    I would call.  I'm not a patient person.  When my nurse said she would speak to my RE and look into if there was a way to do a cheaper IVF, I think I called once a week for a couple of weeks and then eventually gave up.  Plus, like you said, you have to have bloodwork done and start BCP's.  Clock's a tickin!

    3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
    IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
    Natural BFP #4 on 9/7/12 gave us our miracle on 5/18/13
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  • SmootiepieSmootiepie member

    I would call, but I would try to be nice.  Something like "I know it's the holidays, but it's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard anything."  And probably bring up the fact that you'd like to know when you need to start the BCPs.

    GL hon, I've been thinking about you a lot lately.

    Me (28): fine, DH (28): MFI
    Married 6/21/09
    Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
    BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
    Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

    Current Status: Pursuing Jan '15 IVF w/ ICSI
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  • sammer818sammer818 member
    I would also call. I'm not patient in the least, and if you are supposed to do the IVF in January, then you really need to have your plan in place, don't you? I might try a slightly different tactic than "WTF" but that's just me Stick out tongue I would just be frank with them and lay out your concerns - 1. you are supposed to do this January, and you will need to be on BCP and have bloodwork done and are concerned about rushing things. 2. I don't konw how comfortable with financials you are, but if you are getting reduced fees, maybe you need to know the amount as soon as possible to take steps to ensure you have enough funds at the time payment is due (I have no idea how that works, so maybe it's not an issue). That's my opinion. You gave them their time after the holiday, but we have a whole month now until the next one. No excuses for not calling you back!

    TTC since April 2010
    BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
    June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
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  • hungryhippohungryhippo member
    imageSmootiepie:

    I would call, but I would try to be nice.  Something like "I know it's the holidays, but it's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard anything."  And probably bring up the fact that you'd like to know when you need to start the BCPs.

    GL hon, I've been thinking about you a lot lately.

    My approach would be similar to this, but that's not a reflection of how I'd be feeling inside. I'd be pissed too. 

    It does sound like you are questioning his care for you in general. Are you thinking of switching REs? It's hard to say if I would switch, but if you are not confident about him in general, that would make me nervous about doing another round of IVF with him. 

    I'm sorry you are in such a tough spot. 

    I also sent you a message elsewhere before I saw this, so you can disregard my question about whether you've received your calendar. 

    TTC #1 since January 2011
    BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
    BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
    After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
    Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!! 
    BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
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  • KGS2003KGS2003 member
    Thank you for your replies. I am going to call them tomorrow. 
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