I went to a birth trauma workshop last week and it brought up a lot of memories from my son's birth.
While I have a very pro-VBAC midwife with an extremely high success rate, I feel like talking to her about trying to make accommodations for me if I do end up needing a c-section. The things I'd like are to not have my arms strapped down, and if the baby's apgars are high (my sons were 9 and 9), I'd like him on my chest and not in the other room while they stitch me up. Those two things (arms strapped and the separation) were the most traumatic part of the c-section for me.
I'm worried that in some way I will be undermining my chances of having a VBAC if I do this, though. I feel like if I make a fuss about this and she agrees to these terms (unlikely, but worth a shot), I'm setting myself up to be ok with a c-section. Am I crazy? Someone set me straight. :-)