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babyangel88babyangel88
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Im new here and just want to get stuff off my chest.

My Baby's Dad left me when I was 7 weeks pregnant and he left because I didnt get an abortion. So he's in a different state. He wants nothing to do with me or my child. So what now? Im 12 weeks and Im so emotional about all of this and its hard to take in. What do I need to know about being a single mom? Will only my name be on the birth certifate? What do I tell my baby when he/she grows up?

Please Help, thanks

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  • letzgoracing81letzgoracing81

    I would assume that you are going to need him to step up and provide for this child financially.  Probably not going to be an easy....but first thing you will need to do is get a patermity test done so his name will be on the birth certificate.  I imagine he won't submit one willingly...probably have to get a court-ordered one set up.

    I am so sorry you are doing this alone...it has to be rough.  Do you have family/friends to help out with stuff?

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  • keychain01keychain01

    I know this is a very stressful time, so I would take your problems as they come. 

    What do I tell my baby when he/she grows up? Right now thats not an issue. Forget it, cross the bridge when it comes. And when the time does come, you will know what to do.

    Will only my name be on the birth certifate? Still a little early in the game, but you need to find out what your state laws say. You weren't married so you may not have a choice. (check this out for yourself)

    Im 12 weeks and Im so emotional about all of this and its hard to take in. Take care of your pregnancy, its your number one concern. Build a support group. Read up on things (What to expect when your expecting, The Complete Single Mother are GREAT books to start with)

    So what now? Build yourself up emotionally. You will need it, and yes....seek Child Support. Seek out resources. Sometimes churches have support groups, and even your states Child and Family Services have groups that meet up. I found groups even at libraries! Make this a positive experience for yourself and your child and what better way to start than now! Believe me it will get harder, its you attitude about all of this that will determine the outcome. Not sure if any of that helped but its what got me through the tough times. Good luck!

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  • mimimimimiiiimimimimimiiii member
    I had the same problem as you, I'm 15 weeks now. my bay's dad and I was decided to keep the baby while I was 5 weeks. We had a small fight (not about the baby) when I was 12 weeks and he told me he wants me to do the abortion, coz he doesn't want the baby to ruin his life, he future and he can't afford it. Other wise he gonna break up with me, but I decided to keep the baby. So he broke up with me. And I think even though I'm gonna be a single mom I would still put his name on the birth certificate and if the baby ask about the father I would tell the baby things just didn't work out with him and we can't get along with each other as how we were before I was pregnant. It is how it is and I'm sure when the baby grow up he/ she will understand,
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