I have read it is not OK for a relative to throw a shower for you. Mother, sister, etc.
I was wondering if that included MIL, SIL, etc. ? It seems to me like it would, sine the reason you don't have family member throw it is that it is "gift grabby".
So is it just friends who should throw you a shower?
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I have only had friends offer because its understood that family doesn't throw them here. I've been to one or two family hosted ones and its fine.
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This is true for me...although I've attend many that are thrown by the MIL, or MTB's mom or sister, etc. In my family (and I thought proper etiquette - according to my mom) is that no close family members (meaning mom, sisters or SIL, MIL) should host it. My second cousin hosted my bridal and baby shower. A coworker hosted another and a friend from church hosted the third one. Same with my bridal showers...I had 3 (second cousin, bridal attendants, and my DH's step-sisters).
The idea was that since families should take care of their own, the mother throwing her daughter a shower was no different than the daughter doing it herself. (If the daughter couldn't afford it, the mother would have to help, so throwing a shower to "avoid" that obligation was rude.) Obviously this wouldn't apply to a cousin or a sister-in-law, since that relationship carries no dependency burden, so I wouldn't agree that showers wouldn't have been hosted by *any* family - just that they wouldn't have been hosted by family on which the MTB or FTB had ever been dependent.
Nowadays, with families more spread out and less reliant on one another, the no-mothers-hosting rule may be a little outdated. Still, my family is so close - physically, financially, emotionally - that I would be very uncomfortable having my mother host my shower. I know she wouldn't even consider doing so. My shower(s) have been / will be thrown by people like god-parents, old family friends, cousins, etc.
This...my mom, MIL & sister are throwing me the shower but that is because they all offered and my BFF is in another state.