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Shmogan09 · November 2012

sooner1981:
livinginashoe:
sooner1981:
dmsny:
Jessicameron:
lancyjo:

Then get to it. I'd start it, but I'm not nearly as clever or hilarious as you.

On a similar-but-not-really subject, where the heck has Sooner been? I'm not excited about the MIA status of so many of our regs.

I'm just gonna say it. She got a PM yesterday from what I can only assume is an AE, and I'm also gonna assume that person belongs to the FB group.

I was thinking the same thing.

So...is it true?

Dum Dum DUM.

Yeah, honestly, I don't give a flying flip about whether it is or not. I guess I don't see the point of participating in an open forum where there is another "secret" forum where everyone gathers to privately make fun of someone, but then act different in "public." I don't know. Just seems kinda like the FB group is apparently heading back to middle school, and my 30-year old self would rather not get all wrapped up in that kind of drama.

The funny thing is that in middle school, I would have cared. Or at least probably tried to change my (posting) style to fit in. But now, I just honestly can't work up the energy to care. I post topics and reply to posts that I think are interesting. Because I think they are interesting, I generally have a lot to say about them. If you don't think they are interesting, skip them. I like bringing some science to parenting discussions--but if you don't, then just ignore my comments.

I don't get why certain people feel the need to get their kicks by making fun of a person in a locked forum...at least if you honestly can't stand me/think it is annoying when I quote statistics and studies instead of "what feels right in my mommy heart"/can't handle that I say "all y'all" and "fixing to" on a daily basis/etc., say it in this forum, where I can respond (or, more likely, not respond, but just make a note to stop paying attention to your future posts!). At least then you would be acting a tad more like an adult...

By the way, I am not GBCB-ing, because I actually do like a lot of you and love having interesting conversations about different parenting issues that aren't always as honestly discussed among real-life friends. But, I guess now that the stuff about the FB group has come out, I am less likely to want to just "hang out" here and discuss vacation ideas, cute baby pics, cute things that our husbands do, etc. It just feels less like a community than before--and my real friends don't talk about me behind my back. (Kle taught me that if you use a smiley face, it means you can say whatever you really think, without any repercussions!)

I don't even know who is on the fb group or who is saying what because I can't remember anyone's real names.

I know you don't care what people here think of you but I think it is important that you know that a lot of people take value in what you say. You have given me things to think about on my views of vaccines and I thank you for making me question my reasons and delve further into them.

We are on tb to get advice and compare notes on things. Sometimes I agree with peoples "mommy instincts" but I also appreciate and sometimes agree with your statistical point of view.

I am also a very "wordy" person (as my husband so eloquently puts it) so the length of your posts does not bother me. (Again, not that you care, but I felt the need to shove my opinion of you down your throat anyways

Jen0204 · November 2012

sooner1981:
Yeah, honestly, I don't give a flying flip about whether it is or not. I guess I don't see the point of participating in an open forum where there is another "secret" forum where everyone gathers to privately make fun of someone, but then act different in "public." I don't know. Just seems kinda like the FB group is apparently heading back to middle school, and my 30-year old self would rather not get all wrapped up in that kind of drama.

The funny thing is that in middle school, I would have cared. Or at least probably tried to change my (posting) style to fit in. But now, I just honestly can't work up the energy to care. I post topics and reply to posts that I think are interesting. Because I think they are interesting, I generally have a lot to say about them. If you don't think they are interesting, skip them. I like bringing some science to parenting discussions--but if you don't, then just ignore my comments.

I don't get why certain people feel the need to get their kicks by making fun of a person in a locked forum...at least if you honestly can't stand me/think it is annoying when I quote statistics and studies instead of "what feels right in my mommy heart"/can't handle that I say "all y'all" and "fixing to" on a daily basis/etc., say it in this forum, where I can respond (or, more likely, not respond, but just make a note to stop paying attention to your future posts!). At least then you would be acting a tad more like an adult...

By the way, I am not GBCB-ing, because I actually do like a lot of you and love having interesting conversations about different parenting issues that aren't always as honestly discussed among real-life friends. But, I guess now that the stuff about the FB group has come out, I am less likely to want to just "hang out" here and discuss vacation ideas, cute baby pics, cute things that our husbands do, etc. It just feels less like a community than before--and my real friends don't talk about me behind my back. (Kle taught me that if you use a smiley face, it means you can say whatever you really think, without any repercussions!)

I think the way it was brought up in this thread makes it seem like there's a lot of bashing going on and there's not. Certain people - who have also said so on this forum - think your posts are long-winded and that they don't agree with you. If you read it I'm sure it would be no surprise to you at all. It's really not this big deal that this is making it seem like and I think by someone guessing that you were PM'd about what's being said on FB made it seem like there's a lot being said that's bad about you and that's not the case. Maybe people were a little more candid, but it was the same as here really - some people saying you're long winded and opinionated, other people saying that it's just your style of writing and you're very informative. Really nothing that would surprise you.

And it's not a secret forum at all. It was made private on FB, but there were posts here a couple of weeks ago asking if anyone wanted to join and some people even have stuff in their signatures about being admins and to let them know if you want to be added. It's largely the same group of people but when they switched over to the mobile bump I think that turned a lot of off from this site. I know on the weekend when I'm more on the go it's easier to check FB.

I hope this doesn't change how you look at this community or how you post because I know that many of us really enjoy your posts and I value the interaction. This was made into a much bigger deal then it is, but I don't blame you for being upset because I would be annoyed if it was insinuated that a bunch of people were talking behind my back.

ETA - And if you take a step back then I'll probably have the longest posts, and that's not a torch I want to carry Stick out tongue

kristin172429 · November 2012

Jen0204:
sooner1981:
Yeah, honestly, I don't give a flying flip about whether it is or not. I guess I don't see the point of participating in an open forum where there is another "secret" forum where everyone gathers to privately make fun of someone, but then act different in "public." I don't know. Just seems kinda like the FB group is apparently heading back to middle school, and my 30-year old self would rather not get all wrapped up in that kind of drama.

The funny thing is that in middle school, I would have cared. Or at least probably tried to change my (posting) style to fit in. But now, I just honestly can't work up the energy to care. I post topics and reply to posts that I think are interesting. Because I think they are interesting, I generally have a lot to say about them. If you don't think they are interesting, skip them. I like bringing some science to parenting discussions--but if you don't, then just ignore my comments.

I don't get why certain people feel the need to get their kicks by making fun of a person in a locked forum...at least if you honestly can't stand me/think it is annoying when I quote statistics and studies instead of "what feels right in my mommy heart"/can't handle that I say "all y'all" and "fixing to" on a daily basis/etc., say it in this forum, where I can respond (or, more likely, not respond, but just make a note to stop paying attention to your future posts!). At least then you would be acting a tad more like an adult...

By the way, I am not GBCB-ing, because I actually do like a lot of you and love having interesting conversations about different parenting issues that aren't always as honestly discussed among real-life friends. But, I guess now that the stuff about the FB group has come out, I am less likely to want to just "hang out" here and discuss vacation ideas, cute baby pics, cute things that our husbands do, etc. It just feels less like a community than before--and my real friends don't talk about me behind my back. (Kle taught me that if you use a smiley face, it means you can say whatever you really think, without any repercussions!)
I think the way it was brought up in this thread makes it seem like there's a lot of bashing going on and there's not. Certain people - who have also said so on this forum - think your posts are long-winded and that they don't agree with you. If you read it I'm sure it would be no surprise to you at all. It's really not this big deal that this is making it seem like and I think by someone guessing that you were PM'd about what's being said on FB made it seem like there's a lot being said that's bad about you and that's not the case. Maybe people were a little more candid, but it was the same as here really - some people saying you're long winded and opinionated, other people saying that it's just your style of writing and you're very informative. Really nothing that would surprise you.
And it's not a secret forum at all. It was made private on FB, but there were posts here a couple of weeks ago asking if anyone wanted to join and some people even have stuff in their signatures about being admins and to let them know if you want to be added. It's largely the same group of people but when they switched over to the mobile bump I think that turned a lot of off from this site. I know on the weekend when I'm more on the go it's easier to check FB.
I hope this doesn't change how you look at this community or how you post because I know that many of us really enjoy your posts and I value the interaction. This was made into a much bigger deal then it is, but I don't blame you for being upset because I would be annoyed if it was insinuated that a bunch of people were talking behind my back.
ETA - And if you take a step back then I'll probably have the longest posts, and that's not a torch I want to carry

I'm going to ditto this. And please know that the Facebook group isn't "exclusive" - anyone who is a member of our board can join. We just try and make sure that we know you from here, so we only take requests from this board to keep random Facebook people we don't know out (I know! Super tight security that no one could break... Smile )

mkarns · November 2012

This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous.
More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group.
To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht.
Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings.
People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

jldubb0626 · November 2012

sooner1981:
dmsny:
Jessicameron:
lancyjo:

Then get to it. I'd start it, but I'm not nearly as clever or hilarious as you.

On a similar-but-not-really subject, where the heck has Sooner been? I'm not excited about the MIA status of so many of our regs.

I'm just gonna say it. She got a PM yesterday from what I can only assume is an AE, and I'm also gonna assume that person belongs to the FB group.

I was thinking the same thing.

So...is it true?

I'll be a minority here and be straight with you, I don't like you. It's not that you type long posts and about 80% of stuff you say I agree with. My problem comes from how you can come across as better than others and how you have such strong opinions on things, and willingly tell other moms who don't agree with you that they are bad moms because they don't believe in the same things you do. (For example, the flu shot debate a few weeks ago.) And I find it slightly upsetting that a lot of women on here will call you out for medical advice simply because your husband is a pedi, instead of asking their own. Yes, that's not on you and you didn't ask for that, but it still irks me.

That being said, the FB group is not an outlet for bashing Sooner. And when stuff has been said in the past (which is far and few between), it's nothing that hasn't been said here before, to your face. We're not middle school teenagers who are using the FB group as a way to talk about you. And I think it's silly that you'd even consider that. I will admit I said something on the FB group about you once, but it was in regards to a mom on my July 13 board who believes in everything you don't and I shared with them her siggy followed by "I wonder how Sooner would handle her". You got a lot of props and positive feedback in that said post. Trust me, you have nothing to worry about when it comes to the FB group, but it's not like you'd care anyway.

lancyjo · November 2012

kristin172429:
Jen0204:
sooner1981:

Yeah, honestly, I don't give a flying flip about whether it is or not. I guess I don't see the point of participating in an open forum where there is another "secret" forum where everyone gathers to privately make fun of someone, but then act different in "public." I don't know. Just seems kinda like the FB group is apparently heading back to middle school, and my 30-year old self would rather not get all wrapped up in that kind of drama.

The funny thing is that in middle school, I would have cared. Or at least probably tried to change my (posting) style to fit in. But now, I just honestly can't work up the energy to care. I post topics and reply to posts that I think are interesting. Because I think they are interesting, I generally have a lot to say about them. If you don't think they are interesting, skip them. I like bringing some science to parenting discussions--but if you don't, then just ignore my comments.

I don't get why certain people feel the need to get their kicks by making fun of a person in a locked forum...at least if you honestly can't stand me/think it is annoying when I quote statistics and studies instead of "what feels right in my mommy heart"/can't handle that I say "all y'all" and "fixing to" on a daily basis/etc., say it in this forum, where I can respond (or, more likely, not respond, but just make a note to stop paying attention to your future posts!). At least then you would be acting a tad more like an adult...

By the way, I am not GBCB-ing, because I actually do like a lot of you and love having interesting conversations about different parenting issues that aren't always as honestly discussed among real-life friends. But, I guess now that the stuff about the FB group has come out, I am less likely to want to just "hang out" here and discuss vacation ideas, cute baby pics, cute things that our husbands do, etc. It just feels less like a community than before--and my real friends don't talk about me behind my back. (Kle taught me that if you use a smiley face, it means you can say whatever you really think, without any repercussions!)

I think the way it was brought up in this thread makes it seem like there's a lot of bashing going on and there's not. Certain people - who have also said so on this forum - think your posts are long-winded and that they don't agree with you. If you read it I'm sure it would be no surprise to you at all. It's really not this big deal that this is making it seem like and I think by someone guessing that you were PM'd about what's being said on FB made it seem like there's a lot being said that's bad about you and that's not the case. Maybe people were a little more candid, but it was the same as here really - some people saying you're long winded and opinionated, other people saying that it's just your style of writing and you're very informative. Really nothing that would surprise you.

And it's not a secret forum at all. It was made private on FB, but there were posts here a couple of weeks ago asking if anyone wanted to join and some people even have stuff in their signatures about being admins and to let them know if you want to be added. It's largely the same group of people but when they switched over to the mobile bump I think that turned a lot of off from this site. I know on the weekend when I'm more on the go it's easier to check FB.

I hope this doesn't change how you look at this community or how you post because I know that many of us really enjoy your posts and I value the interaction. This was made into a much bigger deal then it is, but I don't blame you for being upset because I would be annoyed if it was insinuated that a bunch of people were talking behind my back.

ETA - And if you take a step back then I'll probably have the longest posts, and that's not a torch I want to carry

I'm going to ditto this. And please know that the Facebook group isn't "exclusive" - anyone who is a member of our board can join. We just try and make sure that we know you from here, so we only take requests from this board to keep random Facebook people we don't know out (I know! Super tight security that no one could break... )

+1 (Or is it two? IDK.)

sooner1981 · November 2012

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

Yeah, I get that you were talking about me behind my back. What I don't get is how that is supposed to "NOT hurt [my] feelings." Would it be better instead of 2-3 long posts a day, I wrote 15 short ones like a lot of other people do? Are we all only allotted 500 words, so we must think very carefully about how we use them throughout the day? Is it bad for the environment to use more words than someone else when having a discussion? Just curious.

On your point that I bolded. My FFFC (since I haven't gotten to post one yet) is that I guess since I don't understand how it makes people feel better to "vent" to other moms about how they can't handle my posting style, I also don't get why people vent about their husbands on the Bump. Why spend the time and emotional energy to vent your spleen about your relationship difficulties with the person that you are supposed to love and trust more than anyone else in the world, instead of spending that same emotional and time investment to sit down with them and have a heart-to-heart about what they are doing that is causing strive in the marriage. I guaran-dang-tee that if women spent half the time and energy actually working on their relationships that they did in venting about their relationship on the Bump, there would be a lot more happy marriages out there.

(And no, I am not talking about venting about "OMG--DH just farted and I had to clear out of the room. What makes man farts smell so bad?!" I am talking about the countless posts involving miscommunications, different expectations, repeatedly hurt feelings, different parenting styles, lack of intimacy, etc. Talk to your husband--don't just air out your marital strife on the Bump and expect things to magically get better.)

Yahtzee--super long post, righteous attitude, gosh, if I could only find some scientific study to throw in there for good measure. Oh well...

n8swife · November 2012

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

mkarns · November 2012

Oh and I'm an Atheist, not Agnostic. That's why non denom is not a solution for me.
I was a Christian for 18 years so I know what I'm missing. I miss the positive energy people project when they think it's for a greater good. It's something you can only find in a church.
I miss the bible stories, the fascinated kids, the hymns.
But, I do not believe. Not any more.
Not the same way a Christian believes.

runrinserepeat · November 2012

mkarns:
Oh and I'm an Atheist, not Agnostic. That's why non denom is not a solution for me. I was a Christian for 18 years so I know what I'm missing. I miss the positive energy people project when they think it's for a greater good. It's something you can only find in a church. I miss the bible stories, the fascinated kids, the hymns. But, I do not believe. Not any more. Not the same way a Christian believes.

I guess the way my bro explained it to me, he meant non-denom in the sense that it's not at all religious. At least, that's how it sounded when he explained it to me. but I think everyone has to do what they're comfortable with.

And regarding a previous post, not all of us can vent about our DHs here ;-) I have no choice but to tell him to his face when he's pissing me off. That's pretty much how it's always been though.

pennyandandy · November 2012

redheadscu:

It was horribly stormy last night, and an overgrown rosebush on the front/side of the house was scratching really annoyingly on the window. So, before bed, my DH went outisde in his Southpark pajama pants with a flashlight, and hacked off the offending part of the rosebush with a katana sword. How cool is that? The best part is, he got the katana sword for $1 from the knife show on cutlery corner a few years ago, when he bought a package deal of 100 knives for $100, and gave them out as Christmas presents to all the men in our family. (which people loved btw. Who would have thought?)

I am just glad that someone else has a DH that loves Cutlery Corner. Dear Lord, my husband used to DVR that crap and watch them back to back. Ridiculous.

sooner1981 · November 2012

n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

Oh, yes. She was definitely one of my faves, too. Who wouldn't want to be with her dreamy boyfriend Logan But I also really liked Stacy and Claudia (mainly because I thought it would be pretty sweet to have a room full of candy...).

For the record, I have never thought that the FB group is a secret society or an "I hate Sooner club." I just found it surprising to know that it was being used on occassion as an online outlet to snark about the original online forum. Very meta. And, at least in my case, very unecessary. Feel free to snark about me all day long on this forum. I guarantee people's anonymous opinions won't hurt my feelings--but I don't see the point of seeking validation by talking behind people's backs.

mkarns · November 2012

sooner1981:
mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

Yeah, I get that you were talking about me behind my back.  What I don't get is how that is supposed to "NOT hurt [my] feelings."  Would it be better instead of 2-3 long posts a day, I wrote 15 short ones like a lot of other people do?  Are we all only allotted 500 words, so we must think very carefully about how we use them throughout the day? Is it bad for the environment to use more words than someone else when having a discussion?  Just curious.

 On your point that I bolded.  My FFFC (since I haven't gotten to post one yet) is that I guess since I don't understand how it makes people feel better to "vent" to other moms about how they can't handle my posting style, I also don't get why people vent about their husbands on the Bump.  Why spend the time and emotional energy to vent your spleen about your relationship difficulties with the person that you are supposed to love and trust more than anyone else in the world, instead of spending that same emotional and time investment to sit down with them and have a heart-to-heart about what they are doing that is causing strive in the marriage.  I guaran-dang-tee that if women spent half the time and energy actually working on their relationships that they did in venting about their relationship on the Bump, there would be a lot more happy marriages out there.

(And no, I am not talking about venting about "OMG--DH just farted and I had to clear out of the room.  What makes man farts smell so bad?!"  I am talking about the countless posts involving miscommunications, different expectations, repeatedly hurt feelings, different parenting styles, lack of intimacy, etc.  Talk to your husband--don't just air out your marital strife on the Bump and expect things to magically get better.)

Yahtzee--super long post, righteous attitude, gosh, if I could only find some scientific study to throw in there for good measure.  Oh well...

 

You are too much.

Shawnee11507 · November 2012

What does GBCB mean?

I don't really have any confessions to add. My best is that it was my birthday on Tuesday and I let DS try some of my strawberry ice cream.

sp212 · November 2012

I paged Sooner yesterday- to ask a personal question that I can't find an answer for that I thought she might know the answer to- but she hasn't answered me. Hello Sooner, hello?

I didn't say anything about FB anything. Y'all threw yo selves under the bus. ha ha

mkarns · November 2012

kleMcK:
mkarns:
Oh and I'm an Atheist, not Agnostic. That's why non denom is not a solution for me. I was a Christian for 18 years so I know what I'm missing. I miss the positive energy people project when they think it's for a greater good. It's something you can only find in a church. I miss the bible stories, the fascinated kids, the hymns. But, I do not believe. Not any more. Not the same way a Christian believes.

I guess the way my bro explained it to me, he meant non-denom in the sense that it's not at all religious. At least, that's how it sounded when he explained it to me. but I think everyone has to do what they're comfortable with.

And regarding a previous post, not all of us can vent about our DHs here ;-) I have no choice but to tell him to his face when he's pissing me off. That's pretty much how it's always been though.

Ha! Besides you'd have nothing to write about because uws is perfect right? RIGHT?! LoL ::looks around for him::
I was just using it as an example. MH gets complaints to his face if I have them. Except for the sick man thing. When he fakes illness I fake concern. HAHA

sooner1981 · November 2012

sp212:

I paged Sooner yesterday- to ask a personal question that I can't find an answer for that I thought she might know the answer to- but she hasn't answered me. Hello Sooner, hello?

I didn't say anything about FB anything. Y'all threw yo selves under the bus. ha ha

Once I heard that, I was just too curious not to follow up! I thought I responded to you. Hang on, let me go back and see...

lancyjo · November 2012

Shawnee11507:

What does GBCB mean?

I don't really have any confessions to add. My best is that it was my birthday on Tuesday and I let DS try some of my strawberry ice cream.

Goodbye cruel bump

Aria tries everything I eat... including junk food.

MrMrsandBaby · November 2012

n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

runrinserepeat · November 2012

MrMrsandBaby:
n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

I only read babysitter's little sister. I guess that makes me Karen.

jmccall79 · November 2012

n8swife:
jmccall79:
pinkshades05:
Jess, how do you know she did?
Because they paged her...
So someone paging Sooner means it's an AE from someone in the FB group?

Oh, no, I didn't mean that it was someone from the FB Group...I'm not part of it, so I don't even know who's there. Was saying that she knew that she received a private message because someone paged her.

MrMrsandBaby · November 2012

kleMcK:
MrMrsandBaby:
n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

I only read babysitter's little sister. I guess that makes me Karen.

Who the flip is Karen! I never read that so I'm guessing Kristy's little sister?

sooner1981 · November 2012

MrMrsandBaby:
n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

Oh, yeah. Claudia's fashions were always way too cool for me! I remember one time my mom sitting me down for a little reality check to make sure that I knew it was not normal for all the 14 year old Babysitters and certain of their "charges" to get to take a 2-week cruise around the world without their parents. Before then--I am pretty sure I thought that could happen to me once I was old enough to start babysitting (oohh...glamorous!)

MrMrsandBaby · November 2012

sooner1981:
MrMrsandBaby:
n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

Oh, yeah. Claudia's fashions were always way too cool for me! I remember one time my mom sitting me down for a little reality check to make sure that I knew it was not normal for all the 14 year old Babysitters and certain of their "charges" to get to take a 2-week cruise around the world without their parents. Before then--I am pretty sure I thought that could happen to me once I was old enough to start babysitting (oohh...glamorous!)

Way to crush a young girl's dream...damnit mom!

sooner1981 · November 2012

sp212:

I paged Sooner yesterday- to ask a personal question that I can't find an answer for that I thought she might know the answer to- but she hasn't answered me. Hello Sooner, hello?

I didn't say anything about FB anything. Y'all threw yo selves under the bus. ha ha

Okay, my response was eaten. I just responded again!

allisons1014 · November 2012

sooner1981:
MrMrsandBaby:
n8swife:

mkarns:
This is all way too long to read in the mobile. But let me tackle this from what I can gather. Sooner there is no Secret Club. This isn't the Babysitters Club. We have a FB group and it's no secret, you have just opted to not join. We have talked about you on the page, but it's nothing more than what has ever been said on this public forum. Your posts are long and you have a tendency to get righteous. More people enjoy them than not, and for every one person to mention it there is another who takes up for you. Such is life. There is no We Hate Sooner group. To the person who told you thats how it happens, they can eat sht. Nobody wrote anything out of malice. If anything, it goes on the FB page as to NOT hurt your feelings. People vent about their husbands on TB because their husbands aren't going to read it and it's a way to get it out without controversy or hurtfulness. That is no different.

I wish this were The Babysitters Club. I would be Mary Ann. She was my favorite.

And i will be Claudia because I love that name and wish I was that cool!

Oh, yeah. Claudia's fashions were always way too cool for me! I remember one time my mom sitting me down for a little reality check to make sure that I knew it was not normal for all the 14 year old Babysitters and certain of their "charges" to get to take a 2-week cruise around the world without their parents. Before then--I am pretty sure I thought that could happen to me once I was old enough to start babysitting (oohh...glamorous!)

Stacey was my fave..I'm betting that Kristy was no one's fave. I can see the cover in my head for Mary Anne loves Logan...great, great series. Wasn't there a movie too? I vaguely remember a movie but the books were my favorite.

HattieLove · November 2012

Jen0204:
sooner1981:
Yeah, honestly, I don't give a flying flip about whether it is or not. I guess I don't see the point of participating in an open forum where there is another "secret" forum where everyone gathers to privately make fun of someone, but then act different in "public." I don't know. Just seems kinda like the FB group is apparently heading back to middle school, and my 30-year old self would rather not get all wrapped up in that kind of drama.

The funny thing is that in middle school, I would have cared. Or at least probably tried to change my (posting) style to fit in. But now, I just honestly can't work up the energy to care. I post topics and reply to posts that I think are interesting. Because I think they are interesting, I generally have a lot to say about them. If you don't think they are interesting, skip them. I like bringing some science to parenting discussions--but if you don't, then just ignore my comments.

I don't get why certain people feel the need to get their kicks by making fun of a person in a locked forum...at least if you honestly can't stand me/think it is annoying when I quote statistics and studies instead of "what feels right in my mommy heart"/can't handle that I say "all y'all" and "fixing to" on a daily basis/etc., say it in this forum, where I can respond (or, more likely, not respond, but just make a note to stop paying attention to your future posts!). At least then you would be acting a tad more like an adult...

By the way, I am not GBCB-ing, because I actually do like a lot of you and love having interesting conversations about different parenting issues that aren't always as honestly discussed among real-life friends. But, I guess now that the stuff about the FB group has come out, I am less likely to want to just "hang out" here and discuss vacation ideas, cute baby pics, cute things that our husbands do, etc. It just feels less like a community than before--and my real friends don't talk about me behind my back. (Kle taught me that if you use a smiley face, it means you can say whatever you really think, without any repercussions!)
I think the way it was brought up in this thread makes it seem like there's a lot of bashing going on and there's not. Certain people - who have also said so on this forum - think your posts are long-winded and that they don't agree with you. If you read it I'm sure it would be no surprise to you at all. It's really not this big deal that this is making it seem like and I think by someone guessing that you were PM'd about what's being said on FB made it seem like there's a lot being said that's bad about you and that's not the case. Maybe people were a little more candid, but it was the same as here really - some people saying you're long winded and opinionated, other people saying that it's just your style of writing and you're very informative. Really nothing that would surprise you.
And it's not a secret forum at all. It was made private on FB, but there were posts here a couple of weeks ago asking if anyone wanted to join and some people even have stuff in their signatures about being admins and to let them know if you want to be added. It's largely the same group of people but when they switched over to the mobile bump I think that turned a lot of off from this site. I know on the weekend when I'm more on the go it's easier to check FB.
I hope this doesn't change how you look at this community or how you post because I know that many of us really enjoy your posts and I value the interaction. This was made into a much bigger deal then it is, but I don't blame you for being upset because I would be annoyed if it was insinuated that a bunch of people were talking behind my back.
ETA - And if you take a step back then I'll probably have the longest posts, and that's not a torch I want to carry

All of this. I would like you to stay, Sooner. You did come up on the facebook group, but it wasn't supposed to be a secret or talking behind your back. I honestly didn't even know that you weren't a part of the group.

jja0812 · November 2012

Allisons.. not quoting bc of mobile, but yes there was a movie. Schuyler Fisk played Kristy. When I figured this out years later, I had to rewatch it. I looove SF!

mkarns · November 2012

FFFC 2 is I've worn combat looking boots to work 3x this week. I love them. Nobody has complimented me on my new boots. I assume it's because most people think they're ugly.

sooner1981 · November 2012

Hattie, Jen, Laura, Lancy and everyone else whose responses I cannot see right now--at the risk of belaboring the point (which would be soo "Sooner" of me! Smile ), I want to clarify that I never said I was planning to leave. Just that I was surprised that people were snarking behind my back, instead of to my face. But honestly, I enjoy discussing interesting topics with all y'all. I definitely won't be leaving--and don't want you to think I was doing one of those "beg me to stay" posts. Because that is not my style!

Let's get back to talking babies. Mine puked five times last night. First tummy bug ever, and she got it this week from our friend's kid--who they swore up and down had gotten over the tummy bug he had last week. And right now, I realized that I am all of a sudden feeling really hot and nauseous and all-around crappy. Is it inappropriate for me to lock my door (I am one of the only offices that has a lock--thanks, pumping!) and sleep for the rest of the afternoon? Can I do it in the name of public safety, because I don't want to contaminate the courthouse this afternoon? Haha...but seriously, I could use a nap right now.

lancyjo · November 2012

HattieLove:

All of this. I would like you to stay, Sooner. You did come up on the facebook group, but it wasn't supposed to be a secret or talking behind your back. I honestly didn't even know that you weren't a part of the group.

HattieLove, you're another reg that's been a little too MIA for my taste. Please fix this, mmmk? Wink

pinkshades05 · November 2012

My next confession is that I've been letting Nat have some of my chocolate covered pretzels (tiny pieces at a time) and some peppermint oreos. Come on, it's not Christmas without those!!

jldubb0626 · November 2012

I have some today.

I think you're heartless if you don't care about the women on this board. I'm not saying that you should care about what they think of you in regards to trivial things, but I find it hard to believe that people here have zero worries about what happens to these wonderful women and their LO's. I've been with some of these ladies over a year now and I really wish I could meet a lot of them IRL because I think they are amazing women.

On a lighter note - I'm slacking big time in the momma category. I have yet to take Eli's 10 month pictures.

lancyjo · November 2012

jldubb0626:

I have some today.

I think you're heartless if you don't care about the women on this board. I'm not saying that you should care about what they think of you in regards to trivial things, but I find it hard to believe that people here have zero worries about what happens to these wonderful women and their LO's. I've been with some of these ladies over a year now and I really wish I could meet a lot of them IRL because I think they are amazing women.

On a lighter note - I'm slacking big time in the momma category. I have yet to take Eli's 10 month pictures.

Call me naive, but I think we all care about each other. At least among the regs and semi-regs, I think everyone genuinely cares about the well-being of everyone else. We might not all be BFF's, but we all care about each other. IMO, anyway.

I have taken Aria's 9 month pics (see siggy!), but I haven't taken her 9 month footprints. (I have taken her footprints every month, and will put them in a scrapbook with her monthly pictures after a year. I'd love to do this as a yearly thing until she graduates high school. We'll see though.)

ssimon621 · November 2012

sooner1981:

Hattie, Jen, Laura, Lancy and everyone else whose responses I cannot see right now--at the risk of belaboring the point (which would be soo "Sooner" of me! ), I want to clarify that I never said I was planning to leave. Just that I was surprised that people were snarking behind my back, instead of to my face. But honestly, I enjoy discussing interesting topics with all y'all. I definitely won't be leaving--and don't want you to think I was doing one of those "beg me to stay" posts. Because that is not my style!

Let's get back to talking babies. Mine puked five times last night. First tummy bug ever, and she got it this week from our friend's kid--who they swore up and down had gotten over the tummy bug he had last week. And right now, I realized that I am all of a sudden feeling really hot and nauseous and all-around crappy. Is it inappropriate for me to lock my door (I am one of the only offices that has a lock--thanks, pumping!) and sleep for the rest of the afternoon? Can I do it in the name of public safety, because I don't want to contaminate the courthouse this afternoon? Haha...but seriously, I could use a nap right now.

The secret about the stomach bug is that you feel better, but somehow the germs stay forever. I had it on Nov. 6 (Election Day), DH got it exactly one week later, and Skyler got it exactly one week after him. With that said, I think it stays in your system for a while after the symptoms are gone. So they probably really thought that their LO was all better.

allisons1014 · November 2012

Jessicameron:
Allisons.. not quoting bc of mobile, but yes there was a movie. Schuyler Fisk played Kristy. When I figured this out years later, I had to rewatch it. I looove SF!

I honor of all Feb Mammas that loved The Babysitter's Club books...I shall go home and search Netflix for the movie. DH is out of town this weekend so I will be watching it (that is if it's on there)! Who wants to join me after we put our LO's to bed? 8 p.m. eastern time?

Also, perhaps if we picked a classic like the orginal BSC book for our "book club" maybe we'd actually all read it and discuss it.

n8swife · November 2012

allisons1014:

Jessicameron:
Allisons.. not quoting bc of mobile, but yes there was a movie. Schuyler Fisk played Kristy. When I figured this out years later, I had to rewatch it. I looove SF!

I honor of all Feb Mammas that loved The Babysitter's Club books...I shall go home and search Netflix for the movie. DH is out of town this weekend so I will be watching it (that is if it's on there)! Who wants to join me after we put our LO's to bed? 8 p.m. eastern time?

Also, perhaps if we picked a classic like the orginal BSC book for our "book club" maybe we'd actually all read it and discuss it.

I think we should do that! I actually emailed my mom and asked her to have my dad get the box out of their attic that has all of my BSC books in it so I can read them again! I need to have a daugther someday that will appreciate the awesomeness of BSC.

sooner1981 · November 2012

allisons1014:

Jessicameron:
Allisons.. not quoting bc of mobile, but yes there was a movie. Schuyler Fisk played Kristy. When I figured this out years later, I had to rewatch it. I looove SF!

I honor of all Feb Mammas that loved The Babysitter's Club books...I shall go home and search Netflix for the movie. DH is out of town this weekend so I will be watching it (that is if it's on there)! Who wants to join me after we put our LO's to bed? 8 p.m. eastern time?

Also, perhaps if we picked a classic like the orginal BSC book for our "book club" maybe we'd actually all read it and discuss it.

And maybe Little House on the Prairie books, too! I had a serious crush on Almanzo Wilder from those books--and I sometimes think my husband might have been him in a former life Oh, and Nancy Drew...

Heck, does anyone remember Sweet Valley Twins? I think my parents were worried that I might never, ever make it to "serious" books because I think I read that entire series (weren't there like 100 books) one summer. Like, that is all I read for close to a year. Those books and the Babysitter's Club were the child equivalent of chick lit for grade-school girls!

coybig · November 2012

kleMcK:
And regarding a previous post, not all of us can vent about our DHs here ;-) I have no choice but to tell him to his face when he's pissing me off. That's pretty much how it's always been though.

wait... you don't complain about me on here? Guess I hadn't noticed... I just skip over posts I don't like Stick out tongue Wink

jldubb0626 · November 2012

lancyjo:
jldubb0626:

I have some today.

I think you're heartless if you don't care about the women on this board. I'm not saying that you should care about what they think of you in regards to trivial things, but I find it hard to believe that people here have zero worries about what happens to these wonderful women and their LO's. I've been with some of these ladies over a year now and I really wish I could meet a lot of them IRL because I think they are amazing women.

On a lighter note - I'm slacking big time in the momma category. I have yet to take Eli's 10 month pictures.

Call me naive, but I think we all care about each other. At least among the regs and semi-regs, I think everyone genuinely cares about the well-being of everyone else. We might not all be BFF's, but we all care about each other. IMO, anyway.

I have taken Aria's 9 month pics (see siggy!), but I haven't taken her 9 month footprints. (I have taken her footprints every month, and will put them in a scrapbook with her monthly pictures after a year. I'd love to do this as a yearly thing until she graduates high school. We'll see though.)

I think everyone does in general as well - I didn't mean to imply that we didn't. It was a blanket statement.

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