We have a regular dinner playdate w/ do a group of DD's friends. We got to Chik Fila and then the kids play. DD's been getting ruder, more defiant and more impatient w/ me in particular, but also generally. Last night, at our playdate, DD was behaving OK w/ her friends - very rambuctious as normal, not listening particularly well, but nothing really bad either (so - basic 4 yo behavior). We sat at a table next to the play area (one mom was feeding her baby) while the girls (3 4 yo, one 2 yo litle sister). Things were OK for awhile, Friend #1 came out crying b/c she said her nose got bumped (long story about the slide, but a few hugs from mom and she was fine). Then my DD came out b/c Friend #2 said they didn't like her kitty. I told her to ignore it and go back and play. Then Friend #2 came out and said DD wouldn't move in teh slide and her mom told her to go back and play. I saw Friend #2 shove DD, but I didn't see what happened right before that. I went in and told both of them no shoving (to which they both started telling me who did what when and how it wasn't their fault, blah, blah, blah.
Anyway. . . then a few minutes later, I see DD shove friend #2 (and again, I don't see what happens right before). I walked in and told DD we were leaving. She cried/screamed and told me how it wasn't her fault, etc. I literally had to pull her out of the slide and just carried her out of the Chick Fila and put her in the car.
Then, of course, she spent the whole ride complaining about how she didn't get to apologize and she wanted to go back and say sorry and then she justifying how she really didn't do anything wrong - and also threw in to tell me she hated me, hated school, hated each of her friends, her teachers, she also told me she was going to poop on my car, etc. I ignored most of this.
When we got home, she was obviously still upset but it was close to bedtime. I did let her sit w/ me and watch Team Umizoomi while she calmed down and we really didn't talk about it anymore until we were getting in to bed.
She was still mad I didn't let her apologize - which I guess I should have given her a chance to do.
I don't know. .. thoughts? I feel like I'm doing a lot wrong here and am very worried I'm creating a brat. Be nice, but tell me what you think.
On the other hand, before things got ugly in the play area, she was being really helpful - passing out napkins to everyone, sharing her fries w/ her friend who was still waiting for her food, reading a book, etc.