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April 2013 Moms
Need advice - Baby shower related
Mobile bumpies: Need Advice - Baby shower related
Ok guys, this is sort of silly, but I am a little stumped on what to do. Input would be awesome! I have had 5 people offer to throw me a baby shower (all on my side) which I think is somewhat normal to have the woman's side of the fam offer to throw showers. Im a FTM, so this is all so new and exciting! But the predicament is this: my DH has a HUGE family. We are talking 125 people, so that's alot of women out of that 125. Not that I plan to invite them all, but I am a little stumped because I made a guest list for my friends and family and I am at like 60 people (if the women bring their kids).I think that alone is sort of a lot of people, so I don't want to invite more and put that burden on my aunt who I've chosen to throw the shower. I realize I could have 2 showers, but nobody on his side has offered to throw one and I don't see it appropriate to have someone on my side throw a shower for his side of the family. I know it all is very petty in the grand scheme of things, and I SWEAR I am not a shallow person. My main concern here is that I will come off as spiteful if I only invite like 5 people I am close to from his side? As much as I'd love to have everyone together, I don't see it being an enjoyable shower if they are loads of people. I also don't see it fair to ask anybody who has offered to throw the shower to literally plan such a huge shower! I don't really know what to do. Advice? WWYD?
Thanks guys!
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Re: Need advice - Baby shower related
BFP #1: 5/10/12; 5/22/12: pregnancy deemed not viable (probably CP)
BFP #2: 8/2/12; Due date: 4/14/13, DD born 4/5/2013
BFP #3: 11/2/14, Due date: 7/7/15
Unless your two extended families are really close, I'd only invite the women from your family, your closest girlfriends, and those 5 women from his side (your H's mom, grandmother and sisters (and if there's 1-2 other women that you are REALLY close with)).
I suspect that once the word gets out that those very few women from his family were invited to your shower, SOMEONE would step up and offer to throw one for his side of the family. Great if so, and no big deal if not.
2 showers sure would make it a lot easier. Can you talk to your MIL to maybe drop a hint at how difficult it would be to expect someone on your side of the family to cover the shower for everyone? That might be all it takes to get the ball rolling. I come from a very large family too and we did 2 showers for my first. One for my huge family and one for my friends. Both had offered to host the shower so I wasn't in that awkward situation, but I think you could probably coax someone on his side into hosting one for that side of the family. They have to know how big of a family they are.
What I would NOT do is only invite a few from his side of the family. That could lead to some crazy drama that you just don't want to deal with. Find a way to invite everyone or get someone on his side to host a second shower.
Oooo, good idea!
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