Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Latching a baby while lying down (after C-section)
I didn't have to lay flat after either of my c/s.
I was flat coming out of surgery but as soon as I got to recovery, they adjusted my bed so I was a little more inclined (not sitting straight up, mind you). I was able to BF as soon as I got to a comfortable position with the help of pillows.
Is there a reason they are going to have you flat on your back for a few hours after surgery?
ETA: As far as the medications, let the staff know that you will be breastfeeding and they'll make sure you get drugs that are safe.
Thanks for your replies!
The last time I had a C-section I had a horrible recovery, even though it was a scheduled section b/c my baby had been breech. Following the CS I was completely groggy and throwing up every hour for the entire first day. I could barely sit up and was in a lot of pain after the drugs did wear off.
I guess I'll just have to ask the anesthesiologist to address all this, this time around. I did mention to my OB how horribly groggy and sick I was during my first CS and he thinks the anesthesiologist back then may have given me something to calm my nerves, bc I was shaking so hard from being nervous about the whole thing.
I should note that in general though, I do tend to react very strongly to drugs in general. I've had surgeries in the past and have had the same sort of reaction where I'm groggy all day and throwing up. One of my family members who is a doc says she hasn't seen many patients quite as ssensitive as I am...
That's too bad. I'd definitely speak with your doctor and anethesiologist to see if there's anything they can do.
I'd ask to speak to the lactation consultant as soon as you feel well enough to try breastfeeding. The side-lying position isn't too difficult once you're latched. The LC will definitely be able to help you out.
Actually, it wouldn't hurt to get in contact with an LC before your baby is here. You can explain what you anticipate and she may be able to give you some positioning suggestions now.
I agree with speaking the the hospital LC before you deliever. I know I've contacted mine a couple times and they are MORE than happy to help!
Also, I agree, with my previous two c/s I was sitting up when people came in and visited to see baby and to hold baby. They said as soon as I get to recovery a nurse will be there to help me bf immediately. As soon as baby is born and done with her apgar, she is imm placed on my chest for skin to skin and wheeled to recovery
If I'm not able to do skin to skin they have dad do skin to skin and carry her down the hall to recovery with me. 
Ask to sit up if you are able. It will make the world of difference.
I agree with PP about consulting the LC as soon as you can, if not before. For me, I was at a slight recline in recovery and they had me do the football hold to get DS positioned correctly. The football hold keeps the baby away from your stomach so they are not right on the incision. It helps to show your DH how to hand the baby to you or place him/her in the correct position to bf.
I found it was horribly painful to be laying all the way flat or on my side for some time. I just propped myself up with pillows and lived in the recliner when I came home. It was just too hard to get up if I was all the way down.
GL!
This was my experience as well. About 30 min or so after surgery they propped me up and taught me the football hold. Two days later the nurses helped me with different positions using pillows to help support the baby. Definitely get in touch with an LC as they're a wealth of information.