Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Preconceptions of Posters: Part Deux!!
Lol at lucky dad.
You win the interweb, two days in a row!!!
I have to change HilarityEnsued's pic. I'm sorry.
I have been addicted to Friday Night Lights lately (TY Netflix) and I am sorry but I think of her EVERYTIME I see the character Tami Taylor on screen.
HilarityEnsued
I have a huge MILF-crush on Connie Britton. My wife makes so much fun of me for it. It's okay though- she loves the guy who plays Dean on Supernatural so we are even.
Wonkatalia
SookieFrackhouse68
Kitiara5512
RTV you're really making a crapy Thursday morning so much better. And from now on these pictures will be in my head whenever I read the posts.
Oooo, do Cruel!
Score!
And, that's totally mbenit.
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
Cruelsound
kmawb (in the nicest way possible)
Redhead, yes. Cute and quirky like her, I wish.
Yep, that's her alright.
Libby1978
LoisLane23
I just did an edit. Its a better pic of her anyway.
Hmmmm. My only hang-up with this one is she's like 5 freaking 4. She does look good for her age though.
Hmmm... not too sure how I feel about that one, you've got some 'splainin to do RTV!
In the meantime I will take in the spirit in which it was intended and laugh (quite frankly I didn't think I was a frequent enough poster to even merrit a preconception picture so thanks for that RTV).
But I will give you bonus points for getting my height pretty much dead on (I'm only 4'10" and she was 4'10.5") and I do wear glasses so there's that too (although my glasses are way cute!).
Today is Day 2 of "code freeze". Starting 2nd Wed of every Nov until 2nd Wed of Jan... everything is locked down. Can't patch. Can't update. Can't change anything. The risk of impacting our customers (merchants) during the busiest season of the year is too great (I work in the CC auth division). So- we go on a code freeze.
We are supposed to use this time to do some documentation, dev testing, etc.
Or look up pics of hot women.
smerka
jess60
So predictable. I knew you'd post this for me. LOL
Pretty sure I had nightmares from the villian in this movie. The rest of it was great though.
If it makes you feel any better, mine was 65. Senior citizen in the house!!!
BlueRidge8 (I better becareful- I don't live too far away from you)
Sookie: Jenna Fischer
Kirks: Kristen Bell.
/GAVEL
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
I secretly admire you from a distance.
At least your pic wasn't of someone who was 85!
iStockphoto didn't even pay me for that shoot, yo. And they just left me in that desert with that stupid blackberry GPS that never worked. That shirt? shows sweat stains after 20 minutes.
I missed your pic. Who was it?
The Gavel Hath Been Gaveleth
KirksMcGirks
SookieFrackhouse68
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
DH is a security analyst for a popular home decor retailer and they have the same thing. He literally has one thing he has to do for 2 months which will take him all of four hours.
I do have a soft(haha TWSS?) spot for brunettes.
Are you two going to kiss?
Mine too.