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RussianMommy
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Ok, Moms, I gotta ask...
RussianMommy
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why do you tell me your child's age in months?? after they turn 1, can't you just say "she's one"
someone just said "27 months" -- no, she's 2!!
LOL - sorry, but this bothers me so much and yes I needed to make a post for it 
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Re: Ok, Moms, I gotta ask...
I find that until they are 3 or so months can make a huge difference in development. If one child is 1 and one is 18 months they are going to be pretty far apart in what they can do and understand. It just seems more accurate until they are maybe 2 or 3.
EDIT I have two nephews and two cousins who are all close in age but from 4-8 months apart. To have said they were all one when they had all reached a year wouldn't have seemed right to me.
I get that if you aren't speaking to the doctor it's likely you won't care to be that accurate but I do find a lot of mothers compare. That annoys me. Many times they'll ask how old one child is so they can see if their child does more or less or if their child is bigger. (which so many people think means better for some reason)
but to the average person who doesn't have kids, they don't care about months
i think 27 months is a little much
I guess one point is, if you hate when people use months but you know most mothers will give the age in months, stop asking the age of the baby. If you don't really care about how old they really are, don't ask. Problem solved, you won't ever have to hear how many months someone is.
Even before I had kids I would have expected to hear the age in months before a certain age. I generally stopped at 2 but it doesn't bug me past that age.
EDIT I guess I just prefer it in months.
But seriously, if it bugged me I just wouldn't ask anymore. I find it annoying when other mothers would ask my child's weight or what he can or can't do yet. I hated people always trying to compare. I just stopped giving specific answers and avoiding the questions to cut down the annoyance.
Then she's odd or maybe just really, really into sharing?
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You will.
You will the first time someone who has a one-year-old tries to compare their 23-month-old to the abilities of your 13-month-old. It happens. They are both 1, but the differences in development are note-worthy, especially to other moms.
That said, I generally stopped using months after DD's 2nd birthday. After that, I just rounded up or down to the nearest "half."
And to a mom who understands 12 months & 20 months are 2 entirely different ages, they don't care who gets "irritated" with moms answering in months.
Personally, I usually start saying 2 once they hit their 2nd birthday. But before that I do say, "13 months," or "22 months." You'll get it eventually when someone asks you how old your 18 month old is and you blurt out 18mos as opposed to 1.
hahaha I so understand how you feel. I don't say that at all. When My daughter turns one she is ONE! lol I never understood that either.
hahaha I so understand how you feel. I don't say that at all. When My daughter turns one she is ONE! lol I never understood that either.
This. I feel like after 2yrs, you can round up or down to the nearest half and be pretty accurate, because I kind of agree with the OP, you can say 24 months, but 27? It just sounds odd and overly specific.
This, exactly
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Like PPs, now that she's 2 I'll just round up or down. DD turned 2 in September, so I tell people I have a 2 year old. Not a 26 month old. When she was 1, it would depend who I was talking to how I noted her age. Other moms, I'd say 19 months. Non-moms, I'd say 1 and a half. Obviously before she turned 1, I'd list it in months.
It doesnt really bother me if other moms state their 2-ish year old's age in months, since in my own mind that's how I figure DD's age anyway. After age 3 is when I'd start giving the side eye.
This. When I worked at the pediatric wing in a hospital the chart listed their age in months until they turned 2. But I still recognize the difference between 2 and 3, just don't want to deal with the months system anymore.
I feel you on this one!
HOWEVER, when someone asks me how far along I am and I say "23 weeks" they look at me like WTH?! And then I have to give them the months (after I do the math LOL). I have more sympathy for moms now and their giving baby-age in months.
I totally agree with you! I'm probably different though because when people ask me how pregnant I am, I always say 4 mos., 4 and a half mos., 5 mos, etc... LOL I hate it when people do that, instead of making me count out my months couldn't the woman say either 2 or 2 and a half?
Well, you might think it is much, but it is the way a mother will think of her toddler, because that is how she, her husband and the doctor talk about the toddler. Doctors need to know the age in months. And at that age, months make more of a difference than years. It's like talking about your pregnancy in weeks vs. months. Some people may be more interested in how many months along you are, but you and the doctor talk in weeks. So, generally the answer is given in weeks.
You don't have to like it. It doesn't affect you at all.
I did it till maybe 18-20 months and then I would say stuff like, "he'll be 2 in April" unless I was talking to another mom or on TB or whatever, where they are more used to hearing months. After 2 I find it sort of odd, but don't care if people do it.
But I put it in the same category as when people ask how far you are along, and people respond with weeks. Non-parents/non-pregnants don't really give ashit.
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I definitely see where you are coming from, I've kind of always felt the same way being childless. I know I'll feel different once I'm part of the mommy club but I think people should pick and choose with months vs years depending who their talking to. Same with being pregnant, for my good friend who just had a baby I'm 18 weeks... for my Grandpa I'm 4.5 months. Haha makes it much easier
One thing that drives me nuts is the constant montly annoucements on facebook... I know your child is another month older and its gonna happen the next month and the next and the next... but I don't think an annoucement is necessary for EVERY month.
Totally agree. DD2 is 28 months now, and she is so different now than she was when she had just turned 2. I know there will be a lot more changes before she's even technically 2.5 years. When people ask, I generally tell them that she turned 2 in July, although at this point I could probably say she's almost 2.5 years. It depends on who's asking. If it's someone with kids around the same age, I'm more specific than if it's someone without kids.
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I get the same look for saying how far along I am in weeks.
Also, I stopped telling DS's age in months after he turned 2. If people want the specific months or want to know when his specific birthday is, they can ask. I don't volunteer the extraneous info. Plus, saying "He's 2 and a half." Just feels a lot easier than saying "He's 32 months old."
Not exactly on topic, but back before I was pregnant, I always felt the same way when pregnant ladies told me they were "17 weeks" - or worse, "19 weeks and 3 days"! I'd be struggling to do the math in my head ("17 weeks means... what, like four months? Yeah, okay...") and searching for a thoughtful response.
Now that I am pregnant, it doesn't bother me - naturally other pregnant women assume I'll know what "17 weeks" means automatically, and I get that. But back when I was an unmarried young college student? Just tell me you're "about four months" or "due in April". So what I mean is, know your audience!
I agree with OP that the same thing goes for your kids' ages... Fine, give the other moms at the park baby's age in months (they get it), but give your single friends the standard "she turned 2 in August" (they just want to know when her birthday is).