Are you ever really ready for a third?

jaymicans · November 2012

Hi I've been on other boards for a while and stumbled across this one. Im 31 w/ a 10 yr old from a previous marriage and a 2 yr old from my current marriage.

My question is can you ever really be ready for a third? Both my husband and I are on the fence about a third. I often question if we might be missing something if we don't try for a third because I had my oldest 10 yrs ago before most 30 something yr olds my age have even had their first.

kcisthebombdotcom · November 2012

This is kind of a silly question. I don't think anyone is ever really "ready" for a child whether it be their first, second, or 10th child. What makes ttc the third so different?

With that being said, there are certain situations where it's not the best time, like if you'd really be struggling to make ends meet with the added expense of another child. Or if you want to conceive on a whim because you have baby fever because your youngest is growing up too quickly. I would really look into why you want another child and if it's for a good reason (and you're ready physically/emotionally/financially) then go for it.

ks3pink · November 2012

We never got a chance to struggle with that decision. We got a two for one deal the second go round! My advice is to be aware twins can happen to anyone, if you want one more make sure you can handle two more!

criswithnoh · November 2012

Is anyone even really ready for their first? It's going to be crazy no matter which number it is. Unless you're a Duggar and you have built-in mini-moms.