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Would you switch?

Blsd4givenBlsd4given member
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I'm not overly thrilled with my agency right now... or, at least my licensing worker.

It took forever to get the background checks (BC) back (still waiting on MH's since June). I called her on Oct 24... Said she'd call me Monday (Oct 29). She didn't. MH had to text her on Tuesday, the 30th for a response. In his message, he asked about the BC and a child we had sent an inquiry about. She responded regarding the BC and completely ignored the child question. She responded again on Wednesday, the 31st regarding the BC.

The next day (Nov 1st), I send her an email asking about what the process looks like if we chose to wait for a child to become available instead of foster-to-adopt. (She knows we're considering this. We haven't hidden that.) No response. 

Fast forward one week (Nov 8th)... I text her and ask about MH's BC and if she saw my email. No response.

Now, I know she has her cell phone on her... as she made a big proclamation in our PRIDE classes that she always has her phone... and loves when she can text fps.

I've been emailing agencies about finding available children. Most haven't suggested anything beyond what we're already doing. One agency has a diffinitive program for Adopting Waiting Children though... And they sounded like they'd be willing to help. They responded quickly asking for contact information... But we haven't received a response since then. (A week ago).

So... what do you think? Am I being impatient? Or do we need to move on to a new agency? Or maybe this is God's way of telling us "No"?
Me: 32, DH: 45... TTC #1 since May 2010
July - Nov 2011: Testing with OB... OB said everything looks good
March - Sept 2012: Moved to RE.. 4 treatment cycles - responses of one or no follicles
09.03.12: Diagnosed Poor Ovarian Response.. DE IVF only option
Feb - Nov 2012: Pursued Adoption. That door slammed shut.
12.23.12: Surprise BFP (first ever)... 12.25 - 12.31: Natural M/C
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  • Foster1MomFoster1Mom
    If it was me I would start talking to other agencies. Does not hurt to network and see what else is out there. I would not handle that situation well either. I find some workers are amazing and some are just a waste of space.
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  • herrayherray
    Yes, I would begin looking around.
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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    I don't think that you're impatient or that God is saying no - I just think this agency might not be right for you.  I would talk to the agency with the Waiting Child program, at least to find out more info. 


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  • IRRIRR member
    If you have already invested money (forget the time) with this agency I would start by asking to speak to a supervisor and then see what happens.  GL
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  • elissaann26elissaann26 member
    I would talk with a supervisor and be honest with your concerns.  I would include that you are considering going elsewhere and see what they say.  If they seem ho-hum about things, then I'd definitely start looking elsewhere.  But if they are upset by your concerns and will take action to get things moving, then I'd give them a chance.  GL!
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