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Need encouragement and advice for starting CIO....ughhhh

karadenisereidkaradenisereid member
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LO is 13mos....she was a great sleeper in her crib until she was teething. So when she would cry at night I would bring her in our bed...needless to say this has been going on for a few months now and NEEDS TO StOP.  Hubby and I are in agreement but its going to be rough hearing her cry.  I know the CIO method has worked for many and Im hopeful, but scared for me, giving in to her. Her Pedi and several of our friends have assured us that it will only last a few days.

Bedtime routine is usually bedtime bottle, reading or just snuggling and "talking" just to quit down and PJs..but then she gets into our bed.  So I suppose I can keep routine the same, but place her in the crib.  When we tried this in the past she will not sit or lay down will just stand there hands on the rail and just scream......this is the point that I need help with..................please!!!!!

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Re: Need encouragement and advice for starting CIO....ughhhh

  • vlong4vlong4 member
    We literally just let DS CIO last week. It was rough at first but got easier each night. With DS, the issue wasn't going to sleep in his crib, it was staying asleep in his crib. I made sure we began the whole process on a non-school night for DD. DS screamed for 40 minutes the first time, twice in the same night (once at 2:30 and again at 4:30). The next night, it was only for 20 minutes, the third night it was about 5-10 min. By the fourth night, he was able to sooth himself. Went through the same with DD. Hang in there! It does get easier after the first night.
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  • NotSharknadoNotSharknado member
    If you're going the CIO route for sure I wouldn't worry about standing at the crib rail. They will lay down eventually. We did at 8 months old and I was scared shiitless. Looking back now it was the best thing for her and the rest of the family. It took 3 nights. First night was 20mins of crying, second was 10mins or less and the third was 5 mins of just fussing. We couldn't do the check ins because it made things worse. Of course keep your routine, we are at the point now where we say "Time for night night" and she gets off my lap gives kisses to Dh and her brother and walks to her room. It's not as scary as it seems. If it's too hard to hear the crying then go outside provided Dh is in the house. It's worth it. If you're going to do this you have to be committed. If you let them cry for 30 mins then give in, they sat there and cried for nothing. To me that's worse than following through, KWIM? You can do it, just remind yourself that they need their sleep and this is what's best for the entire family. Good luck!
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  • NotSharknadoNotSharknado member
    Agree what pp said, that first night will be rough because they will wake in the middle if the night and you will have to CIO then also. First night dd woke at 4am and I went in the nursery to give paci and told her it was time for sleep and walked out. Do not pick them up. She cried for 40 mins. After the first night she sttn.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

    We are in the same boat, spazz out and bring to bed for everyone's sanity. I have to re-sleep train every time there is teething or a cold. It stinks when you are in the moment, but really, they will not cry forever and they are not dying. DD usually lets the banshee howling go on for about 10 minutes. Then she puts herself to sleep.

    I know it sounds lame, but do your best to ride it out and just sit there. It goes against every maternal instinct you have, but they do need to learn. We are going to resleep train tonight too. So, I feel your pain!


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  • kayjay10kayjay10 member
    We did CIO around 13 months and now DD is a great sleeper (11-12 hours a night).  You just have to remember that if they aren't wet, hungry or hurt, then they are just fine and wanting you to hold them.  They can't cry forever and they will eventually get tired and lay down.  We still give a paci at night though because that helps her put herself back to sleep when she wakes during the night.  GL and don't give in!!  I promise it works if you will let it!
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  • preggersin2011preggersin2011 member

    It's hard to walk out of the room when you put your LO in a crib and they start a tantrum. My LO has always calmed down within 5-10 minutes of being placed in her crib. If she is still fighting towards 10 mins, I will go back in and rub her belly or back until she falls asleep.If that doesn't work then I'll rock with her a little while. I think anything longer than 10 minutes is cruel.

    You can also try putting her to bed where you have been for the past few months and then moving LO into the crib. 

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