Is your husband able to take off work for the a/s scan and gender reveal?

Wmomma22 · November 2012

Just wondering how many ladies are having their husbands there, or those going alone... My husband is in the military and this month his work is hard to get away from with a lot always going on this time of yr and for the next couple of months, unless it were an emergency of course, anyway im pretty bummed that he probably wont be able to make it to our ultra sound and find out the sex, he was deployed in another state when i found out with our first, and so it would be awesome for him to experience this time around.

JSS1002 · November 2012

Yes, both DH and I are lucky in that our employers are very flexible regarding things like doctors appointments, etc. Neither of us even have to take time off, we just go.

teddib20 · November 2012

That sucks that your husband won't be able to make it. Maybe you can think of a cute way to reveal it to him, sort of like your own little gender reveal party?

MrsD1 · November 2012

Yes, DH will be going to the anatomy scan. His company is very flexible and he's able to get the time off no problem.

Can you reschedule it for a day/time that he can make it?

libfish825 · November 2012

We were spoiled by my pregnancy with DD. DH had two days off using the week so he came (because he wanted to) to every Dr.'s appt and u/s.

He just started a new job that gives him weekends off, so he is going to use flex time to take a half day for our a/s. As for the dr's appts, he wants to flex-time for those too, but I am trying to remind him (1) how boring and repetitive they get and (2) how often they are, later.

Could you do something like have the u/s tech write down the sex and put it in an envelope so you and you DH could open it together?

cymtz13 · November 2012

We scheduled ours for the afternoon so that BF could make it. We want to find out together. Hopefully your hubby gets to go with you.

kristinrvb21 · November 2012

teddidan:
That sucks that your husband won't be able to make it. Maybe you can think of a cute way to reveal it to him, sort of like your own little gender reveal party?

I was thinking the same thing. This way you guys still have a special moment.

mypalbabs · November 2012

Yes, we're going together. Specifically booked it for a day where we could both easily be away from work.

shellmom22 · November 2012

My husband has come to everything with me. He's not in the military though. Maybe someone on the Military Families board might have more experience to share with you.

Otherwise I liked PP idea of having the tech write it down and you two opening it together. That way you still get to share the special moment together.

tondraluv · November 2012

JSS1002:
Yes, both DH and I are lucky in that our employers are very flexible regarding things like doctors appointments, etc.nbsp; Neither of us even have to take time off, we just go.nbsp;

Both MH and I are lucky enough too, my job is very family oriented.

Wmomma22 · November 2012

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Can you video tape it and watch it together at home? The tech can but the sex in an envelope so you both still get to find out together.

This is a good idea, they did tell me they could do a video, so that would be neat so that we watch it together and find out the same time

Lhyacinth888 · November 2012

I am a SAHM so I coordinated my appointment to go along with DH's and for our primary babysitters schedule- my MIL.

I love the idea of them writing it down so you and DH can share it when he comes back or even just telling him a special way. I hope he is able to make it.

kateb171 · November 2012

Yes, MH will be able to be there...but I like the idea of the video and finding out together! I know my friend waited until 23 weeks so that her DH would be home because he's a pro snowmobiler and was gone out of state, but she didn't want to find out without him!

SaraSmile19 · November 2012

My husband will be there, he has come to all of my appointments so far. It's funny when I think of how hard it was to get time off when he was in the Air Force and now that he works for the Federal government he gets plenty of leeway to attend appointments with me (using flex time, of course.)

However, I have been scheduling all my appointments in the morning (as early as possible), so that way he can go to work afterward, and only has to use a half-day.

JSS1002 · November 2012

tondraluv:
JSS1002:
Yes, both DH and I are lucky in that our employers are very flexible regarding things like doctors appointments, etc.nbsp; Neither of us even have to take time off, we just go.nbsp;
Both MH and I are lucky enough too, my job is very family oriented.

We just have the "honor system" here about stuff like this: dr's appts, "gotta meet the plumber," sick time, etc... we just take it, it isn't counted, nobody keeps track, as long as you tell your manager in advance and if you are working from home, you stay on top of email, etc.

Mrs.Leah.Maria · November 2012

DH will be able to be there, but he'll work late that day to make up for the time out of the office.

TnArichmond · November 2012

MH has a very laid back, under-the-table job, and he will be coming to the ultrasound. Since it's in the afternoon, we are planning for both of us to work in the morning, he will pick up DD and meet me at the dr, then go to celebrate with a dinner as a family with our son/daughter/brother/sister to be :-))))))))

brevans02 · November 2012

I'm hoping so. He's self-employed, so it basically depends on what comes up w/ his job. He missed my a/s w/ dd due to the ultrasound being rescheduled, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that if I give him enough notice, he'll schedule himself appropriately.

But we're not finding out baby's sex.

Miss Bri · November 2012

My boyfriend wont be able to make it and he hasnt decided if he wants me to have the doctor write in an envelope what we're having and open it together, or if he's ok with me finding out before him. If he's ok with it, after the appointment I plan to buy either a pink or blue onesie, wrap it, and surprise him at work with it Party!!!

meheron80 · November 2012

Hopefully H will ve there. With our 1st he made it to both but he was also on 24, off 48 with the firedepartment.

He now works for homeland security in the fire training division and can be deployed any moment. 1/2 his team is on the east coast right now for Sandy. With the first us he found out a few days before he could go. Cross our fingers he gets to go to this one.

EIsieMae · November 2012

My DH is out of town for work, so he won't be at my a/s. my best friend is gonna go with me, in case I get any sort of bad news.

DH and I were gonna do something special when he got home to announce the sex to ourselves. But he decided to have me call him right before the tech tells us what the baby is. Apparently we have no patience:]

NicoleSB80 · November 2012

We also purposely booked it late in the day so DH can make it but I'll be nervous anxious all day long.

If your cant be there. Can you record some of it on your phone? And have the tech write the gender and open that together? Then you still have a special moment and DH can see baby movif about.

SlopesShredder · November 2012

DH is a SAHD, so him & DS will be coming along for the a/s! So excited!

RachaelMarieB · November 2012

My DH is a paramedic so he works 3 twelve hour shifts a week and just happens to have off the day I am scheduled to have the ultrasound. So we are lucky he can share the moment.

babyonthebrain2010 · November 2012

H has the day off anyway, but we are only about 50/50 whether he will come with or stay home with DS. If he had to work that day, I don't think he'd take the day off to come. It's just not that big of a deal to us, I'll call him as soon as the scan is over and let him know what I know

molly&dale · November 2012

H has been to 2 of my 3 dr appts. He didn't go to the last one, bc there was no ultrasound so nothing for him to really do. He will definitely be going to anatomy scan which is in about a week and a half. Last night he was saying that hes so excited just to get to see the baby again. Made me really happy bc baby was a huge surprise and I think it's taken him a while to get excited about it.

pinottoparenthood · November 2012

I am really glad that my husband will be able to come. He doesn't take off of work for every doctor's appointment, but he's been able to get off work to come to all our ultrasounds. Our A/S on Wednesday is our 3rd U/S. I am so excited to share that moment with him. Sorry your husband can't make it :-( But I would definitely wait to tell people until you get to tell him in person and celebrate it together!

Poppy715 · November 2012

H will be there. I scheduled it for late afternoon. I'm off by 4 most days so it wasn't to big of a problem for us. He works until 3:30 so won't need to use PTO or work overtime to make up for lost time at work.

sparty11 · November 2012

Yes DH was able to go to our appt. Not sure he would have listened if they told him no. But his employer has been very flexible. To make it special you can have your US Tech put the US copy of the gender in an envelope and you open it together. But make sure you look away at the time of the tech seeing the gender. Then it is still something you can share and experience together. Good luck with your appt and looking forward to hearing how you reveal to your husband.

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colleenh01 · November 2012

I completely understand your situation. My husband is a detective and although we did schedule the ultrasound on a normal day off, things often change on a dime depending on crime or trainings, etc. So with that said he could not make it, and rescheduling wasn't really an option since it would be weeks until I could get in. I told the tech to have me look away when she was checking the sex, and she printed a picture of the parts with the gender typed on there, and put it in an envelope that I brought. I waited which is no easy task until he got home so we could open it together. Perhaps that is an option for you? Good luck, and hang in there!

arteri · November 2012

DH and I both took the day off (the day before Thanksgiving). We have a lot going on that day anyhow. It was DH idea after our 12-week US, he was bummed that I had to go back to work. I think he wanted to bask in the glow all day LOL

GeorgiaGirl1230 · November 2012

Oh no, I hate it for you guys Mine is military also, and had it been 4 months ago he never would have been able to make it, but we're lucky he started a better schedule and he's getting to.

Can he take a day of leave just to make sure he can be there?

bumpuser5078523 · November 2012

I double checked with H before I made the appointment so he could go.

Sorry your husband will miss it.

Trish&Pete07 · November 2012

My Dh is planning on being there. This is the u/s he likes. He doesn't come to any other appointments unless I specifically ask him too, and I have never really seen the point.

The problem with DH coming to the u/s is that we are on opposite ends when it comes to finding out the gender. DH really really really wants too, and thinks we should because we found out the last 2 times. I on the other hand do not want to know. Not sure if this is our last one or not, but probably is and I want the surprise. We knew with the other 2 and this time I feel like, other then clothes (if it is a by) there is nothing I will need to buy. We have until Friday to decide one way or the other. Hopefully baby won't co-operate anyways.

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