So I saw my baby for the first time yesterday and my hubby was out of town. I did manage to take a video for him but I feel bad for seeing our baby without him. Today he is just being a jerk telling me that I'm not helping him with his car insurance (which his car was backed into and the agent wont call me back).He asked me to call her again today but it slipped my mind. He comes home in a couple days but he really makes me feel like it is my fault she wont call me back. It's bad enough I have morning sickness, cramps, and mood swings like they are going out of style. I need to keep it together for my 3 yr old daughter but I feeling like crying, screaming, and ripping his head off all at once. I dont really feel happy anymore about having this baby. What should I do?
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So is he being mean to you because you saw the baby and he didn't? Or is this two completely different things? I agree with PP, you can't control if the agent calls you back, and if he is so worried he could call to. Besides asking you if you have called, how is he acting like a jerk? It seems like you are having a lot more problems if he is annoyed about the car insurance and you don't feel "happy" about the baby anymore because of it.
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Was there a medical reason to see the baby? Because usually they make you prepare for it, like drink water. Or you could of asked to wait, he could be upset that you didn't think about it. It is his baby too, I would understand where he was coming from- especially if it is his first child.
But either way, you both need to sit down and talk.
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Dude, my husband would be LIVID with me if I had an u/s without him present. He'd be PISSED.
And pregnancy doesn't excuse you from being a functional human being. Maybe he feels that you're taking advantage of it.
Really sounds like we're only getting one side of this story...there are factors missing that would really help in understanding the situation...
Like, did you have this appointment BEFORE he went out of town for work? Was there an option to have it scheduled another time? Did he know you were going to see the baby at this appointment, or was it a surprise when he found out? All these things would make a difference in whether he has right to be upset or he's being a spaz.
As for the car insurance thing...seems like if he can call you to b*tch he could probably call an insurance agent himself.
You definitely could have scheduled your u/s appointment around his trip. Did he bring this up ahead of time or did he only get pissed afterward? IMO if he told you it was important to him ahead of time and you went anyway because you just couldn't wait a few more days, he has a right to be kind of peeved at you and you should be a bit more understanding.
I understand that first trimester you feel like crap and have crazy mood swings, but you've got to realize that about yourself and be fair and understanding to DH when he's really legit upset about something.
It doesn't sound to me like she intentionally scheduled an u/s when her husband couldn't be there. It sounds like she went for an appointment and her doctor decided to do it then. Either way, it's immature to be "LIVID" or "PISSED" about it.
And why is it her job to take care of his car insurance in the first place? OP, did you wreck his car?
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Geez, i'm sorry I don't have much advice..I cannot even come close to relating to this whatsoever...If it were to happen to me where my dr randomly sent me in for a US, my hubby would not care the slightest, hes so laid back and care free though, and sure there have been plenty of times where we've asked eachother to do something and forgotten but we don't call eachother names and create world war three over it....we appologize and get it done. Don't take this offensivly but this post just reminds me how much I freaking love my husband.
I feel like there's more to this story.
You say you don't feel like having his baby now because you're having an argument over calling insurance? Because that seems a tad dramatic to me.
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Yeah, this...
You're having a bad day, and therefore you don't feel happy about being pregnant? Wow.
I've always had a choice as to u/s at the OB's office. If I knew I'd get an u/s at a particular visit, I would let DH know, and he would choose to go or not, depending on his schedule. If the OB popped the option of having an u/s on me, and DH wasn't there, I would definitely decline. Not just my baby, but also his. Takes two to tango. And if the roles were reversed, I'd be a bit upset, too. It's inconsiderate.
The OP's attitude is shiiity in general. She said she would take care of something, and then didn't do it.
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An ultrasound is done for medical purposes not for fun. It's very nice if both parents happen to be at the appointment when they perform one but both parents not being there is not a good reason to decline having one. I find it bizarre that your husband would be pissed about you having one done without him. Disappointed that he missed it - sure, but pissed?.... seems over the top.