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Anyone else having to deal with everyones annoying opinions on c-section (rant)
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I'm having an elective c-section based on the size estimate of my baby and the complication that could arise should a natural birth go wrong (things like brain damage, permanent nerve damage and broken bones) I also know his size is an estimate and could be off by several pounds but I'm not willing to take the risks.
I know I've made a decision in my sons best interest but some people (mainly my husbands friends some even men) Keep saying rude things like doctors say those things to scare you, fat squishes so he'd be o.k. Did you see the business of being born elective c-sections are unnecessary. And you'll regret it afterwards.
It's really getting under my husbands skin and I just keep telling him it's none of their business. And how would we feel it our child suffered brain damage because we decided to go with our natural birth plan Its not worth it. If he comes out 8 pounds instead of 10+ I'm not going to regret it because I know i put his safety ahead of my own wants
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Re: Anyone else having to deal with everyones annoying opinions on c-section (rant)
I elected for mine. I got a lot of flack for it too. My answer to the question, "Why are you having a C/S"? was always, "It's just better for me". With the head tilt and the eyebrows lifted. Most people assumed there was a medical reason and left it at that. My family pryed and pryed so I started saying, "I'd rather be sliced open like a fish than to be spread eagle in anquish." This shut them up pretty fast.
Screw everyone else! Do what's best for YOU and YOUR family.
I have NO regrets.
It's not just a c-section thing- I took a lot of crap for my planned vbac, and that was when no one knew I was planning a homebirth. People like to weigh in on other people's decisions, and it doesnt seem that there are many decisions out there that are free from judgement.
If you are happy with your decision, then tell people to stfu. Quit discussing it with anyone- every time to engage them in conversation and try to share your reasons with them, that just reaffirms for them that they have a right to know your reasons and critique them. Just say "This is the decision we have made in consultation with my doctor" and leave it at that. Your body = your choice.
I had c-sections with both my children. My oldest was an emergency C-Section and almost 14 years later I opted for an elective C-Section. I was given the option for a VBAC but I had just read the doctors notes from when I had my older son (had to get them for a OB practice I was trying to get in with) I don't think there is anyway anyone could have convinced me to try VBAC. Oldest DS was stuck in the birth canal and reading how they got him out just did not set well with me.
I have NEVER regretted not giving birth vaginally. I have two healthy sons and I do not think that they have missed that trip through the birth canal.
I also got everyone and their mother's opinion on how my son was born. I had an elective cesarean at 39 weeks and he was right on for size- 9 pounds 5 ounces. If I waited to give birth (and go into labor) naturally, he would have likely been 10 1/2 to 11 pounds.
The cesarean was SO easy, and recovery was simple. I wouldn't change it for anything- and now I am a bit more forward that it is inappropriate for anyone else to assert their opinion about my son's birth outloud
Don't worry! You and your doc decide what it best, and tell everyone else to shove it.
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I am so glad this was brought up. My doctor made the decision with me having a c-section and I am more than OK with this. It just makes sense- healthy baby is the most important thing.
I find it so amazing the horrible comments & judgement that are cast on c-sections (elective or not).
Not to mention those looks you get like you are a bad Mom or something.
You rock it out with your decision and know you are supported here!
This. Though I had a hospital VBAC. Tons of flack. People just seem to think that you didn't do your research on how to birth your own child and they feel it is their responsibility to weigh it. Annoying. I'd suggest you just don't discuss it with them or say, "Thank you Dr. (insert name) for your medical opinion."
I cannot stand that! It's your body, your uterus, your baby! how YOU decide to bring him into this world is you decision. As long as you have a beautiful healthy baby, who cares whether he came out your hoohaa or a c-section. I cannot stand those women & men that feel so self righteous to actually debate and question & insult your decision.
I had a c-section with my first, and I currently have the option of doing a Vbac or a RCS....and right now i'm leaning more towards RCS, just because my first was a big boy, and this one is already measuring big - they actually changed my due date!
If you & your husband did your research, spoke about options with your doctor and feel 100% confident with your choice, then don't worry about others opinions. Next time someone asks & they don't like your choice, politely tell them their opinion isn't going to change your mind & you would rather not hear it if it's negative.
This. I'm trying for a vbac this time around (but also re-reading up on csections just in case!) and everyone has an opinion on that too! Because "you are going to die and your baby is going to die if you plan a vaginal birth over a repeat csection"! I think people just want to hear their own voice chatter, no matter what you decide. Ignore them as best as possible.
Here's the universal rule when it comes to pregnancy and birth: You are always going to be wrong according to "the experts".
If you chose a RCS, you are missing out on the birth, you are taking the easy route, it's not necessary...
If you chose to VBAC, you are risking your baby, your life and not thinking clearly.
If you go unmedicated, you couldn't possibly understand how painful it will be, you are going to regret it, you will cave and beg for drugs...
If you go medicated, you are missing out on a "natural birth".
No matter what you chose, someone will always have to add their two cents. (And BTW, they are ususally over charging.) I orginally wanted a VBAC for my twins. People gave me side-eye and said I was crazy. I would regret it. It's too risky. After talking to my doctor and discussing my health, we decided that a RSC is the way to go. Now some people are saying that I didn't give a VBAC a chance, that recovering from a CS is going to be hell with twins and a toddler, that I would regret it. See, no matter what you chose, you are going to be wrong. Just tell the "experts" to bugger off and mind their own business.
Kissimi21 said it perfectly! Everyone has an opinion to contradict whatever a mom does.
I had really strong opinions about what moms should do until I became a mom and realized I didn't know jack about any of it. Thankfully I kept my mouth closed about my opinions before, because I would be calling all those moms to apologize now!
Know you are doing what is best for you and your baby and screw everyone who thinks they know you and your body better!
Just ignore those people...you are doing the right thing putting the safety of your baby first! Screw everyone else!! My son was 11 pounds when he was born...he was measuring 10 pounds on the growth ultrasound. So those estimates can be off either way...I am SO thankful I had a c-section! There's no way in hell that was happening!
Just try to ignore anyone who is being judgemental.
"Follow your heart for you will be judged anyways." Eleanor Roosevelt