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Holiday Vent

ambrlynn8ambrlynn8
in December 2012 Moms

I went to post this earlier, then decided not to, but I'm getting increasingly frustrated. How about we stop frustrating the pregnant lady? She's quite hormonal.

My dad threw a fit because I wanted to have Thanksgiving at our house this year, assuming we are not in the hospital. It's just that he has a cat that's really fuzzy and her fur is everywhere in the house, and she's cute and all but she sends me into a wheezing, coughing, asthmatic fit after half an hour because her fur is like engrained into the couch. If I could take benadryl, I would, but I'm allergic. I can't take my daily allegra like I used to prior to pregnancy because it's category C. So, I just prefer to have Thanksgiving at our house. Plus, he's always complaining that we don't invite him over to our house. He's throwing a fit about it, though. And when I said that we wouldn't be coming over regardless if the baby has been born already, he made this big stink about how we don't want to spend Thanksgiving with him. OK. I invited him to our house. What is wrong with that?

Then, he throws a fit because I'm not making a turkey. DH and I are both vegetarian, and DS will fill up on mashed taters and all the trimmings regardless. I just don't see why I should make a 20 lb turkey for one person, and then send him home with it. It seems silly. I said I would cook everything else, and he can bring some turkey for him. We always bring our tofurkey to his house, so I don't see how this any different. My son usually eats either turkey or tofurkey, he's not picky.

Then he asks me who all is coming over for Thanksgiving (because he's told everyone in the family to F off). Seriously? We don't even have a table, because we set up the nursery in the dining room until we move to a bigger place... and he's worried about who I'm inviting? Actually, you know what, I thought I would invite the entire extended family, including all of the people you told to F off to come into our tiny 2 bedroom apartment that has NO TABLE. Yes, I think that'd be swell, because I want to make Thanksgiving as chaotic as possible.

Ok, so he agrees to come over for Thanksgiving right when I'm about to tell him that he can just spend Thanksgiving at home, then, and we'll have our own Thanksgiving if it's such an inconvenience to drive 20 minutes to our house. Then, he demands Christmas be at his house... There are TWO families here. My in-laws are flying out December 23rd to see their first blood grandchild (DS was from a previous relationship), and I imagine they'll be wanting to spend Christmas with him... They usually don't come out for holidays and only come out once a year since they're on the other side of the country. I think we will be spending Christmas with them, no? Is that unreasonable? I can't make everything about MY family and MY traditions. That's not fair to DH or to the children. Hello.

Am I just being a hormonal you-know-what?

 

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Re: Holiday Vent

  • SingleMom31SingleMom31 member
    My SO and I just moved into our first house together and really want to spend the holidays here we're a new family and would like to start having our own traditions. My family is seriously outraged that I don't want to travel to where they are, which is 3.5 hrs from our hospital... Inviting them here isn't enough bc they'd have to stay in a hotel since we don't have enough room for all of them. I finally said that we're staying put and if they wanted to see us, they knew where to find us. That might make me a youknowwhat, but I don't care.

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  • jo4janetjo4janet member
    You're not being a hormonal beeotch, your dad is being a pain in the a$$. You need to do what you feel is right for your new family. It sounds like he has his own issues to deal with and you should try to involve yourself with them as little as possible since you will be having so much on your plate in the next month!!!
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  • Greg&KellyGreg&Kelly member
    We are due 12/31, and we pretty much told everyone that we will be doing Thanksgiving and Christmas at our place.  Everyone is welcome to come over, or not, no hard feelings either way.  We just don't want to be away from home and the hospital if anything happens.  Even though it would only be 30 minutes away or so, we just feel that we are more prepared for anything, and that I will be more comfortable, if we are at home.  We've been fortunate and everyone has been very understanding.
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