Can a 9-month old throw a temper tantrum?

MommyWannaB10 · November 2012

So, lately DS will cry and scream if I do something he doesn't like or take something away from him he shouldn't have (like tv wires or an empty bottle he wants to scuk on, but he'll thow up when he gets too much air). I don't like that he screams, but I don't want him to become a spoiled brat who gets what he wants either.

What do you all think? How can DH & I stop it?

Shawnee11507 · November 2012

I think so, DS throws them on the regular for some time now- especially if I am taking something away from him. He cries/screams, throws himself, and will hit/kick and one time bit me. I just tell him NO and then give him something that he can play with.

fredpuma · November 2012

I try to remind myself that right now Kitty doesn't have other ways to communicate [language] so if she is pitching a fit it's not the same as a two year old doing it. She also doesn't understand concepts like 'that will hurt you,' 'i said no,' or 'you have to wait three minutes.'' When she understands those things and can respond my reactions to her tantrums will also evolve, but for now I try to redirect her if I can. Instead of taking away the wires, I give her something else and move her so she's still entertained. Right now it's not really the behavior that is a problem [exploring her surroundings] it's the risk involved, which she doesn't comprehend. So I try to focus on minimizing the risk instead of worrying about her behavior. Yanking a wire out of her hands is the same as taking away a toy from a two year old and her response is appropriate because she doesn't understand that it's off limits.

MommyWannaB10 · November 2012

fredpuma:
I try to remind myself that right now Kitty doesn't have other ways to communicate [language] so if she is pitching a fit it's not the same as a two year old doing it. She also doesn't understand concepts like 'that will hurt you,' 'i said no,' or 'you have to wait three minutes.'' When she understands those things and can respond my reactions to her tantrums will also evolve, but for now I try to redirect her if I can. Instead of taking away the wires, I give her something else and move her so she's still entertained. Right now it's not really the behavior that is a problem [exploring her surroundings] it's the risk involved, which she doesn't comprehend. So I try to focus on minimizing the risk instead of worrying about her behavior. Yanking a wire out of her hands is the same as taking away a toy from a two year old and her response is appropriate because she doesn't understand that it's off limits.

We have tried to do the best we can with making sure there are things he can't get at. I have been taking it away, saying "no" and then moving him to one if his own toys he can play with. That has been seeming to work. My mom & grandma got me thinking abou the tantrum thing because he did it at my grandma's house and she had to comment...my family HAS to voice their opinion on everything.

MommyWannaB10 · November 2012

Shawnee11507:
I think so, DS throws them on the regular for some time now- especially if I am taking something away from him. He cries/screams, throws himself, and will hit/kick and one time bit me. I just tell him NO and then give him something that he can play with.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!

Shawnee11507 · November 2012

What was their comment?

I agree with Fredpuma- it's not like a two-year-old tantrum. DS can't otherwise communicate yet. When I re-direct him he is usually fine within 2-3min.

I do think DS is going to be "strong-willed" though... but I am hoping it is just because he seems mentally advanced (obviously far beyond his verbal skills). He is extremely observant, notices every. single. little. thing. and loves to look around/people watch.

mkarns · November 2012

MommyWannaB10:

Shawnee11507:
I think so, DS throws them on the regular for some time now- especially if I am taking something away from him. He cries/screams, throws himself, and will hit/kick and one time bit me. I just tell him NO and then give him something that he can play with.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!

Add me to this list.

MommyWannaB10 · November 2012

Shawnee11507:

What was their comment?

I agree with Fredpuma- it's not like a two-year-old tantrum. DS can't otherwise communicate yet. When I re-direct him he is usually fine within 2-3min.

I do think DS is going to be "strong-willed" though... but I am hoping it is just because he seems mentally advanced (obviously far beyond his verbal skills). He is extremely observant, notices every. single. little. thing. and loves to look around/people watch.

Oh, she said something about terrible two's at 9 months. That's my grandma though. DS also likes to observe things and finds the smallest things to play with on his toys. He's got some soft toy that crinkles that has a tag on it, so he sits and "studies" the tag with his fingers.

And people watcher, that's DS to a T. We go to swimming lessons and he watch what all the other kids are doing and at the mall, he looks around at all the busy people. It's cute to watch him watch everyone else!

Jeanine88 · November 2012

Yup I think so! Austin arches his back every time we do something he doesn't want us to do- change his diaper, put him in the stroller, car seat, or high chair. Basically, anytime we contain him. He seems to be getting better, but it's the only way he can express his displeasure, so I try not to get too upset.

jmccall79 · November 2012

Yep, Ian does it. He hates getting his diaper changed, or his clothes changed. He throws down, slings his head back, and cries like he's being killed. I firmly tell him NO, after telling him a time or two, I will swat his leg, no flames please! It gets his attention, and he stops.

sparks2987 · November 2012

Add me to the temper tantrum list.

Emily tightens her jaw and shakes and holds on tight to whatever we are taking from her...this is followed by a high pitched scream and kicking followed by a cry.

I usually know it is coming and distract her before the meltdown is in full swing...trade whatever she cant have for something she can play with, I explain why she cant have it although I know she doesnt understand but I want to be in that habit. She has started to respond to "no" and will stop in her tracks when I say it but usually continues behavior right afterwards so I know that is when it is time to step in and remove from the hazard and distract.

mkallen · November 2012

My guy does if I redirect him after he gets into something he's not suppose to. He understands "no no" bc he looks right at me when I say it, but continues on his way. I treat it like sleep training, just don't take it personally. If your baby is crying with no tears then the baby is mad not upset.

sunnyday016 · November 2012

Those aren't real tantrums

DS will cry when we take something away from him that he's not supposed to have, or if I tell him no. I usually will have another toy ready to "replace" what I'm taking away, and that seems to help.

jmccall79 · November 2012

sunnyday016:
Those aren't real tantrums

What makes you say they're not "real" tantrums?

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