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August 2012 Moms
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Am I being a brat?
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SFM: Am I being a brat?
And please tell me if I am. I'm not looking for you go girl or anything. I have these two friends from college, one with a baby two weeks older than mine and one who may be single the rest of her life. We're in our 30's so I guess it may be hard she's not having the same life experiences we are.
She likes to send emails to us demanding we all go out. Last time I explained I hadn't left Howie yet and wasn't ready. We went to brunch with the babies. She said dinner wouldn't work because we'd want to bring our H's and she'd feel like the seventh wheel unless we invited our friend's H's best friend for whom she has a thing. He's not interested.
This time I explained I'm not ready to leave him at night because while he's willing to take a bottle, I don't imagine he will go down easily without me yet.
I also don't want to forfeit sleep and go out after he's down until he is consistently sleeping longer stretches. He's getting there so it's not like I'll never be up for it.
She writes back and says she wants to get on the edge of drunk whatever that means. She also said she has no friends without babies and she didn't realize how no one would want to hang out after they were born.
I realize people do go out after babies but I am just not ready. The nights I get to sleep are still so unpredictable and I don't want to be up all night after watching my friend get drunk. And she's 34. I haven't intentionally gotten drunk since my 20's. It's really not my thing. If it was I still wouldn't be able to get on the edge of drunk...whatever the f that means. I EBF so I'd like to not pickle my baby with my breast milk.
WWYD? Suck it up and go or is she being rude? Few of my friends have babies so I have no idea what it's like friends go through that when I'm nowhere near that stage of my life.
And please tell me if I am. I'm not looking for you go girl or anything. I have these two friends from college, one with a baby two weeks older than mine and one who may be single the rest of her life. We're in our 30's so I guess it may be hard she's not having the same life experiences we are.
She likes to send emails to us demanding we all go out. Last time I explained I hadn't left Howie yet and wasn't ready. We went to brunch with the babies. She said dinner wouldn't work because we'd want to bring our H's and she'd feel like the seventh wheel unless we invited our friend's H's best friend for whom she has a thing. He's not interested.
This time I explained I'm not ready to leave him at night because while he's willing to take a bottle, I don't imagine he will go down easily without me yet.
I also don't want to forfeit sleep and go out after he's down until he is consistently sleeping longer stretches. He's getting there so it's not like I'll never be up for it.
She writes back and says she wants to get on the edge of drunk whatever that means. She also said she has no friends without babies and she didn't realize how no one would want to hang out after they were born.
I realize people do go out after babies but I am just not ready. The nights I get to sleep are still so unpredictable and I don't want to be up all night after watching my friend get drunk. And she's 34. I haven't intentionally gotten drunk since my 20's. It's really not my thing. If it was I still wouldn't be able to get on the edge of drunk...whatever the f that means. I EBF so I'd like to not pickle my baby with my breast milk.
WWYD? Suck it up and go or is she being rude? Few of my friends have babies so I have no idea what it's like friends go through that when I'm nowhere near that stage of my life.
Then and now. How did my boy get so big?
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Re: Am I being a brat?
I lost a great deal of my friend's after giving birth. I am significantly younger (21) but I never expected to just up and lose contact with them. It is tough being the minority, however she may be just venting to you as your friend. Though I do think she is being a bit irresponsible drinking like that. (I think that of any age to be honest.) You are not wrong leaving your baby, do what you are comfortable with.
And a little humor for the situation.
This. I had my daughter at 20. 3 months before I turned 21. I lost allot of friend because they couldn't understand the sacrifice/relationship/parenthood it takes to gave a child. They don't get that sleeping is more important than getting drunk. She's being selfish and not understanding. She'll be alright and needs to find some new friends. If she can't, its not your duty to run yourself ragged for her temporary liquid happiness.
As for going out at night. I just did this. I left at 11:30. Left DS with SO. Got back at 2. I'm so stupid azz tired, but have to stay up and pump. By the time I get in bed the baby will be about ready to wake up. I screwed myself, but had fun.
The thing is, I have other single or child free friends and they are nothing but understanding. They also took a lot of interest when Howie was born. She did not. I'd be more inclined to meet her halfway if she had. I offered to meet early if she didn't want to see my kid. And kid or no kid, I'm so over just drinking to get drunk.