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August 2011 Moms
+Jasha+
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To go or not to go......
+Jasha+
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DH's step dad got remarried this summer (DH's mom passed away a few years ago), and he and his new wife are have a reception type event early December.
We received the invite in the mail yesterday and my first reaction was "Um.... really? They've waited this long and they chose December?!??" They got married in August. I'm due on the 17th of Dec, and our scheduled RCS is Dec 11th. So basically I'm going to be pushing 9 months pregnant. Then I saw where they were having it, one of our favorite restaurants that's kinda pricey, and we don't get to go often because it's about 45 minutes to an hour away.
DS is invited, and I'm assuming it will be held in the side room that is designated for such events so it's not like we would have to struggle to keep him on his BEST behavior. Having my mom (or anyone else) take him isn't an option because the party is on a Sunday afternoon, at a location that is 45-60 minutes away and my mom is 30 minutes in the other direction.
DH saw the invite and the day and said "nope, we aren't gonna make it." Then he looked at where it was and said "mmmm The Lakehouse...."
FTR his step dad has been pretty cool to us and always includes us in their get togethers, and considers DH his son, and DS his grandson. We do our best to make it out to see him (now them) but it doesn't happen often.
So would you go to a fancy dinner/reception at 38w pregnant, and bring your 16 month old along?
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Re: To go or not to go......
Yeah I didn't mean to come off like it would, but I think it came off that way anyways. It won't play a factor in our decision, but it's definitely difficult for a pregnant lady to ignore the possibility of yummy food. LOL
Unfortunately if we RSVP I'm guessing they will have to pay for our dinner whether we show up or not. So I would hate for them to pay for 3 unused dinners KWIM?
I think it's funny that I can't remember what 38w pregnant felt like and it was just over a year ago.....
Same here. Unless they are paying for your food or something and then your last minute decision might end up costing them. In that case, I'm afraid I would decline. But otherwise, I would give them a tentative yes. I'm sure they'll understand.
The invite is a formal wedding type invitation, and includes an RSVP card so yeah they would be paying for us. I guess that's what's got me hung up, really wanting to go, but worried that I won't be able to make it because I'm feeling SO pregnant, and feeling terrible that they would be paying for dinner for us that we don't get to eat.
Agree with homediva. And since SFIL knows your situation, maybe he could hold off until a couple days before the event to get a more definite confirmation from you? While my wedding RSVP request on the invitations was a couple weeks before the wedding, the venue didn't need me to provide the final head count until the day before the wedding, when we dropped off the final payment.
Also, it might be nice for you and DH and DS to do something fun and fancy before you have a newborn in the mix. And since there will be a lot of family there, you might get a little break from watching him so you can enjoy your yummy dinner
IF you really think you might want to go, I suggest calling them and asking what the restaurant policy is. Like HomeDiva mentioned, some places are fine with only a 24 hour warning (my wedding venue was). So definitely check with them before RSVPing.