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GraceInCA · October 2012

Ktrue85:

I understand that it is difficult to read about the losses and the bad days when you're paranoid yourself, but for some reason this post just rubs me the wrong way. The idea of this community is to support one another; not to turn a blind eye when things get bad. Offering support to the women who have suffered a loss is equally as important as congratulating those who have great appointments and ultrasounds. I just didn't like this post as it sounds like you only want to be involved when things are going great for others so you don't have to feel worried for your own situation.

I'm not trying to be a complete jerk, but this is how it truly sounds to me. You do whatever is best for you, though, honestly.

I agree. I think it's better to post sympathetic comments in those threads specifically where women come to announce and discuss their loss. That is the appropriate place to express sympathy and grief.

Also, it's normal and natural to have some worry, but sometimes you have to realize that it isn't about you, it's someone else's pain, let them experience it and stop inserting yourself into their pain.

Also, I feel like something is "off" with the OP's sentiment. It's one thing to be empathetic, but there is something about these threads that I feel like lack authenticity and genuine emotion.

LovestruckAJ · October 2012

GraceInCA:
Ktrue85:

I understand that it is difficult to read about the losses and the bad days when you're paranoid yourself, but for some reason this post just rubs me the wrong way. The idea of this community is to support one another; not to turn a blind eye when things get bad. Offering support to the women who have suffered a loss is equally as important as congratulating those who have great appointments and ultrasounds. I just didn't like this post as it sounds like you only want to be involved when things are going great for others so you don't have to feel worried for your own situation.

I agree. I think it's better to post sympathetic comments in those threads specifically where women come to announce and discuss their loss. That is the appropriate place to express sympathy and grief.

Also, it's normal and natural to have some worry, but sometimes you have to realize that it isn't about you, it's someone else's pain, let them experience it and stop inserting yourself into their pain.

ALL of this, but especially the bold.

Although I know it's not the intention, posts like this come off as, "People suffering the pain of loss is causing ME stress & I don't like it"...

CatBus · October 2012

Junebug060609:
While it's sweet you are so concerned for others losses, miscarriages aren't catchy.

No kidding! Miscarriages will never be as catchy as the latest Lady Gaga song.

sweetbabypea · October 2012

I have to say that I am starting to change my opinion as this thread grows. The feelings OP shared are feelings I have had too, I'm sure a lot of us have, but the post shouldn't be in response to the posts from the women who are suffering a loss. Our fears and paranoia are nothing compared to the sadness they are going through.

ravenclaw1 · October 2012

behapy2day:
notquiteblushing:
Other than the spelling, the twice weekly "I can't stand seeing the loss posts" is so AWy and offensive. Those should just stop.

There have been more than one? Thank goodness I missed those!

AGREED

having been one of those people who had to make that post, I know how annoying/insulting the "I JUST CAN'T STAND THEM!" posts. If you can't deal, then don't read them. These women deserve the chance to say good bye, thanks, and get sympathy.

pinktrojanbride120107 · October 2012

Ktrue85:
I understand that it is difficult to read about the losses and the bad days when you're paranoid yourself, but for some reason this post just rubs me the wrong way. The idea of this community is to support one another; not to turn a blind eye when things get bad. Offering support to the women who have suffered a loss is equally as important as congratulating those who have great appointments and ultrasounds. I just didn't like this post as it sounds like you only want to be involved when things are going great for others so you don't have to feel worried for your own situation.
I'm not trying to be a complete jerk, but this is how it truly sounds to me. You do whatever is best for you, though, honestly.

This exactly! Well said, Ktrue!

kujayhawkgirl · October 2012

OP, your comments are insensitive and you cannot even speak in an educated manner. There are many aspects of pregnancy, and this board is here to share all those experiences. Loss is one of those experiences that happens. It's scary and incredibly sad, but it happens. Perhaps you should take your own advice and come back during 2nd trimester. But then again, loss happens then, too. I guess you're sh*t outta luck.

arkeenan · October 2012

kujayhawkgirl:
There are many aspects of pregnancy, and this board is here to share all those experiences.

Except for those who truly are worried about M/C.

I guess this is not the place to share concerns and worries and get the support they might not have at home or with anyone else.

This board is just for everyone else but "me". (Whoever "me" might be).

What happened to being able to share all the experiences about pregnancy, even the "bad" ones that YOU don't agree with? This board is being filled with crap comments like these that totally ignore being supportive.

if you look back at the previous posts about this same topic, some of the same people on here were supportive. What happened? Hormones?

I'm so fed up with this stupid board. I feel bad for those who post serious concerns and have you all to reply to. I don't care if you agree or not, I'm calling it how I see it. How in the world are people supposed to feel like they can come HERE for support when all people get is criticism about SPELLING! And other equally stupid crap.

Alliebooberz · October 2012

arkeenan:
kujayhawkgirl:
There are many aspects of pregnancy, and this board is here to share all those experiences.
Except for those who truly are worried about M/C.
I guess this is not the place to share concerns and worries and get the support they might not have at home or with anyone else.
This board is just for everyone else but "me". (Whoever "me" might be). 
What happened to being able to share all the experiences about pregnancy, even the "bad" ones that YOU don't agree with? This board is being filled with crap comments like these that totally ignore being supportive. 
if you look back at the previous posts about this same topic, some of the same people on here were supportive. What happened? Hormones?
I'm so fed up with this stupid board. I feel bad for those who post serious concerns and have you all to reply to. I don't care if you agree or not, I'm calling it how I see it. How in the world are people supposed to feel like they can come HERE for support when all people get is criticism about SPELLING! And other equally stupid crap.

GBCB?

arkeenan · October 2012

Alliebooberz:
GBCB?

Does anyone actually take to heart the posts here?! Its seriously just like high school. No one knows how to actually think, just be defensive.

Alliebooberz · October 2012

arkeenan:
Alliebooberz:

GBCB?
Does anyone actually take to heart the posts here?! Its seriously just like high school.  No one knows how to actually think, just be defensive.

I'm pretty sure you're the one throwing insults and getting defensive. Maybe you should ask yourself if getting this upset over the Internet is really worth it.

::plays world's tiniest violin for arkeenan::

notquiteblushing · October 2012

We're going to need something new to happen on this board by lunch time because Sleep

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arkeenan · October 2012

Alliebooberz:
arkeenan:
Alliebooberz:
GBCB?
Does anyone actually take to heart the posts here?! Its seriously just like high school. No one knows how to actually think, just be defensive.
I'm pretty sure you're the one throwing insults and getting defensive. Maybe you should ask yourself if getting this upset over the Internet is really worth it. ::plays world's tiniest violin for arkeenan::

If I had enough time in the day I'd quote every single insult by the posters on this board. I only insult the ones who insult. And yes, it is definitely worth it to me. I don't think OP's should be harassed and mocked, it's not right. If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.

notquiteblushing · October 2012

arkeenan:
Alliebooberz:
arkeenan:

Alliebooberz:
GBCB?

Does anyone actually take to heart the posts here?! Its seriously just like high school. No one knows how to actually think, just be defensive.

I'm pretty sure you're the one throwing insults and getting defensive. Maybe you should ask yourself if getting this upset over the Internet is really worth it. ::plays world's tiniest violin for arkeenan::

If I had enough time in the day I'd quote every single insult by the posters on this board. I only insult the ones who insult. And yes, it is definitely worth it to me. I don't think OP's should be harassed and mocked, it's not right. If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.

Well you can't protect the whole world from mockery, dear. Just ask poor Lukus (sic) in ten years.

arkeenan · October 2012

ncchnat:
arkeenan:
If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.
Please! So now you're some kind of internet white knight? I'm pretty sure that everyone here is an adult who is capable of defending themselves. They don't need someone to "protect" them. What they need to do is grow a thicker skin (you might want to do the same), pull on their big girl panties (again, you might want to do the same), and get a damn spellchecker/stop speaking in text language.

Anyone else notice how it's always newbies who try to "save" the bump?

Maybe it's because the Bump is a false "dream". At first it's a "come here, share your worries and fears and have someone to talk to while doing so". Then reality hits and its just people like you. Sorry if I would really like people to come to a place and not have to be mocked with every thing they say. What's so wrong with that? I'm not saying to hold their hand and say everything will be ok, but to just be straight up with them and not coat it up with junk about how they can't spell.

And for the record, If I didn't have thick skin, I would have crawled in a hole a long time ago, so why don't you get your "big girl panties" out of your crack.

arkeenan · October 2012

Alpine Engaged:
arkeenan:

kujayhawkgirl:
There are many aspects of pregnancy, and this board is here to share all those experiences.

I guess this is not the place to share concerns and worries and get the support they might not have at home or with anyone else.

This isn't a personal blog. If you want to share every experience/concern/thought then maybe you should get a journal.

This is not relevant to my point: A journal doesn't allow you to get feedback and support.

notquiteblushing · October 2012

arkeenan:
ncchnat:

arkeenan:
If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.

Please! So now you're some kind of internet white knight? I'm pretty sure that everyone here is an adult who is capable of defending themselves. They don't need someone to "protect" them. What they need to do is grow a thicker skin (you might want to do the same), pull on their big girl panties (again, you might want to do the same), and get a damn spellchecker/stop speaking in text language.

Anyone else notice how it's always newbies who try to "save" the bump?

Maybe it's because the Bump is a false "dream". At first it's a "come here, share your worries and fears and have someone to talk to while doing so". Then reality hits and its just people like you. Sorry if I would really like people to come to a place and not have to be mocked with every thing they say. What's so wrong with that? I'm not saying to hold their hand and say everything will be ok, but to just be straight up with them and not coat it up with junk about how they can't spell.

And for the record, If I didn't have thick skin, I would have crawled in a hole a long time ago, so why don't you get your "big girl panties" out of your crack.

arkeenan · October 2012

ncchnat:
arkeenan:
ncchnat:
arkeenan:
If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.
Please! So now you're some kind of internet white knight? I'm pretty sure that everyone here is an adult who is capable of defending themselves. They don't need someone to "protect" them. What they need to do is grow a thicker skin (you might want to do the same), pull on their big girl panties (again, you might want to do the same), and get a damn spellchecker/stop speaking in text language.

Anyone else notice how it's always newbies who try to "save" the bump?
Maybe it's because the Bump is a false "dream". At first it's a "come here, share your worries and fears and have someone to talk to while doing so". Then reality hits and its just people like you. Sorry if I would really like people to come to a place and not have to be mocked with every thing they say. What's so wrong with that? I'm not saying to hold their hand and say everything will be ok,
Actually that's exactly what you're saying. If you're going to say dumb, hurtful stuff like the OP did, then I'm going to call you on it. Don't like it, then leave. I would recommend babygaga where the puppies vomit rainbows, the unicorns fart glitter, and they will coddle you along and think every stupid thing that comes out of your head is pure gold.
I, for one, am glad that the bump is full of people like me who don't take crap and mock the stupid (which this original post is. Note I said post, not poster.)
As for my big girl panties, they're fine, thank you very much. If they were shoved up my crack over your BS, I would be dancing around picking an wedgie instead of the pointless task of trying to stop a newbie Don Quixote from tilting at windmills.
I'm done with you now. You're not worth my time, but please, keep alienating everyone here and see how much support you get then.

You sure are good at making comebacks Confused

And don't worry: I'm not looking for support here anymore. I've never gotten any, sorry for feeling bad for those who are still looking for it.

Alliebooberz · October 2012

ncchnat:
arkeenan:
If I'm the only one who'll stand up for them, then I will.
Please! So now you're some kind of internet white knight? I'm pretty sure that everyone here is an adult who is capable of defending themselves. They don't need someone to "protect" them. What they need to do is grow a thicker skin (you might want to do the same), pull on their big girl panties (again, you might want to do the same), and get a damn spellchecker/stop speaking in text language.
 
Anyone else notice how it's always newbies who try to "save" the bump? 

Yes! They also seem to somehow know exactly why thebump was created for support obviously!

Jordan1234 · October 2012

notquiteblushing:
Other than the spelling, the twice weekly "I can't stand seeing the loss posts" is so AWy and offensive. Those should just stop.

This, totally.

OP, it makes me sick to my stomach that someone who IS currently going through a loss right now is trying to make YOU feel better about your worries. If you need to take a break, go for it, we don't need to know about it.

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