Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
VeniVidiScripsi
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Re: For those of you that got pregnant while still breastfeeding...
My supply tanked. I was still pumping at work twice daily and was barely getting 2oz at each session. I had one PP AF and when it didn't show up the 5 weeks later I POAS.
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My supply had been low so I tried the pineapple juice method. It has helped. And I had one PP AF too, so I guess I'll just wait and see it comes again.
Thanks for replying!
My supply has also decreased, but we are slowly weening so it wasn't a huge deal.
I knew because of the walls of exhaustion that would hit me and the crazy dreams I am having even during short naps.
No problems with my nipples.
my nipples got sore and she was nursing longer and more often. I had no issues with supply and at her age she was normally done in 10 min (both sides total).
I remember I was eating a ton and on a whim took a test....I was almost 3 months pg when I found out (after hometest went in for ultrasound).
I never had AF and was on the mini pill.
Have you tried oatmeal to increase your supply?
I did try the oatmeal but I didn't find it helped as much as the pineapple juice.
Thanks everyone for the responses, I'm gonna wait and see if AF comes in a few days, if not I'll try a home test.
Not pregnant while BF'ing but started experiencing a LOT of tenderness adn supply loss when AF returned while BF'ing.
Time to POAS to put your mind at ease.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
This!! I am a little tender if she dream nurses too long though! Also I have major hip pain when pregnant (even the early weeks!!) so that made me test!!
This!! I am a little tender if she dream nurses too long though! Also I have major hip pain when pregnant (even the early weeks!!) so that made me test!!
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I actually had RLP (and yeah, turned out I was only 4 1/2 weeks along, but it was unmistakable!). That coupled with the fact that I was not using BC, having sex with my H, and had had a pp period led me to believe I might be pregnant. And I was/am!
I knew when I POAS
but I had my first suspicion when DD2 suddenly self weaned, as I had read before that pregnancy can change the taste of breast milk and some babies don't like the change in taste.
With DD1, I got my first pp period a little after 11 months. DD2's first birthday came and went with no sign of AF. When she suddenly self-weaned 2 weeks later, I started getting suspicious. I decided to wait until she was 13 months to test and lo and behold, the test came back positive. Based on my dating ultra sound, I would have been a little over 3 weeks pregnant when DD2 self-weaned, so I guess my milk-changed-taste theory could hold true.