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Here again. =/

Well I wasn't expecting to be back to this place. I was told back in May that I had a blighted ovum and shortly after started spotting. I tried to miscarry naturally and it didn't work. I had to have a d&c anyways. 

I was so excited in August when I got my next bfp. Things were going so well. At 5 weeks I saw the babies heart beat fluttering away. Everthing seemed to be great. My next ultrasound was scheduled for 10/26. I was thinking this past week that maybe things were going to work this time because I had gotten to week 12 without any problems this time. I thought surely since I'm almost to the second trimester everything would be ok. But I started spotting the day before my ultrasound. I was in the er for 5 hours and they couldn't hear a heart beat. They said my hcg had risen since my last blood test but not as much as they would like it to have risen. After my exam they said it didn't look like I was physically trying to miscarry. But then at my ultrasound the next day there wasn't a heart beat. It was so awful. As soon as the picture popped up on the screen I knew something was wrong. You could see the little baby but it was laying so still. It stopped growing at 9 weeks. You could see my uterus contracting on the screen even though I couldn't feel it.

What makes this more awful for me is I was in the er at 9 weeks. I had a bad feeling and my body felt weird from the bottom of my abdomen up to my neck. I felt like that for two days. The er docs couldn't find anything wrong with me and said maybe I just had indigestion.  But they couldn't hear a heartbeat then either. So I feel like maybe that day was the moment I lost my child and didn't even know it. 

 

I'm so depressed. The doc that performed my d&c this time isn't my normal doctor since my normal doc was in Florida on vacation. But he told me that he thinks I need to wait at least a year before trying again......I don't understand why a whole year. I've been wanting to have another child for over a year and a half now. The thought of having to wait a whole other year to try breaks my heart even more because I want this so badly. 

 Has anyone else had their doctor tell them to wait a whole year?

I'm going to my doctor tuesday and will definitely ask him about ttc again. I'm terrified this will happen a third time because I don't even know how to deal with it this second time.

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  • I'm so sorry you find yourself here again.

    As far as waiting a year, assuming there were no complications, it's an absurd thing for a doctor to tell you. I'm not one to ever say go against doctors orders but definitely get a second opinion. One to three cycles is normal wait time when there are no complications. Sometimes women are told to wait 6 months to a year if a molar pregnancy is suspected but then they also have to have monthly lab work. If he didn't mention that then I think he's just being ridiculous honestly. Try not to be upset about that part. I think your regular doctor will tell you 1-3 cycles.

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    I'm so sorry you find yourself here again.

     

    As far as waiting a year, assuming there were no complications, it's an absurd thing for a doctor to tell you. I'm not one to ever say go against doctors orders but definitely get a second opinion. One to three cycles is normal wait time when there are no complications. Sometimes women are told to wait 6 months to a year if a molar pregnancy is suspected but then they also have to have monthly lab work. If he didn't mention that then I think he's just being ridiculous honestly. Try not to be upset about that part. I think your regular doctor will tell you 1-3 cycles.

    (((hugs)))

     

    This. Definitely wait to talk to your normal doctor. Hopefully they can provide more answers. I'm sorry you're going through this and wish you all the best. 

     



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  • I googled the whole year thing, and haven't found anyone else who had a doc tell them that. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks a whole year sounds too long. With my first mc my doc suggested 6 months because he was worried about molar pregnancy since I had a blighted ovum. I only wait 2 cycles though. I didn't have any problems getting pregnant this time. I didn't have any complications this time or last with the d&c. I'll definitely talk to my doctor about it though, I already had an appointment for this tuesday so hopefully he will have something better to say that 1 year.

     Another thing though, my mom seems to think I am having trouble because prior to ttc I had mirena for a couple years. I had it taken out in March and wait 1 cycle before we started ttc. Anyone think that might be a contributing factor? I know my doctor will probably say no. 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss! I did not have to have a D&C so I am not really helpful with anything like this. But having to wait one year seems like a really long time. I would try to get a second opinion on that!
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  • So sorry about your loss.

    After my MC I was told to wait 2 months. We ended up waiting for 7 months are are just now trying again. Talk to your Dr. and ask him why you need to wait that long.

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  • I am so sorry for your loss ((hugs)).  I hope that your doctor can answer your questions.

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  • I am so, so sorry for your loss :(  I agree with PP that waiting a year seems a bit extreme and you should definitely get a second opinion.  I have no idea about mirena but it's worth it to bring that up to your doctor as well.  Good luck to you. 
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  • So sorry for your loss. HUGS.

    I agree that a year seems too long. Talk with your doc for sure.

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  • I am sorry for your losses and everything you are going through.  Definately talk to your doctor because 1 year seems very long.  You usually hear 1-3 months, depending on the doctor.
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