When did you first leave your twins for an evening out?

MelleTX · October 2012

Ok, so I know the girls aren't here yet and no, I am not planning to leave them anytime soon after their birth. In fact, I am pretty sure the first time I leave them with my mom for an evening out will be at 8 months for a football game.

However, I am curious. How old were your kids the first time you left them with a baby-sitter for an evening out?

A friend invited me to the Maroon 5 concert (Adam Levine, drool) when the girls will be 3 months old. I immediately said no, too soon. Now I am wondering if that was a normal reaction or if I will be ready for an evening out at 3 months.

I don't think I could do it. I honestly don't know though.

PurrCrasher · October 2012

I think our babies were about 2 weeks when we went out to a nice long romantic dinner while my MIL watched the babies. We were gone for probably 2.5 hours and honestly, after 2 weeks of babies every second of every day, it was glorious. We missed them but needed a little adult time. I think everyone is different but I suspect you may be ready for a little "me time" come three months. Smile

leapgirl8 · October 2012

5 weeks. It was one of the best nights of my life

April320 · October 2012

I think we first went out to dinner when they were about 3-4 weeks old, and my mom and aunt stayed with them. We first went for a full evening out when they were about 3 months old. We went to a concert. It was great, and it felt really good to be out among adults for a night.

dega9 · October 2012

I was just thinking about the same question! My husband and I would like to see the Rolling Stones concert in December, but the girls will only be about 6 weeks old. I'm don't think I'll want to leave - but then again, it might be a nice reprieve! We have family who can stay with them, so I know they are in good hands, but it just seems too soon.

All these decisions!!

Jen0204 · October 2012

We went out to dinner when they were a few weeks old. It was just around the corner and we were only gone for about an hour, but it was wonderful. From what I've seen on my BMB, I went out WAY earlier and with WAY more frequency then most of the other moms on the board did. For me, having two at once was just overwhelming that I just needed a break. At 3 months I wouldn't have batted an eye to going to a concert and if one of our moms would have stayed with the girls we would have been there in a heartbeat. They stayed with my mom overnight the Friday before we went back to work (~12 weeks). From probably 8-9 weeks on they have spent a few hours at my ILs almost every Sunday so that H and I can run errands, clean, and have a few minutes to ourselves.

When the time comes, do whatever makes you comfortable. If you want a night out, go for it and don't waste one second of it feeling guilty (though if you're like us, the first time you'll call or text a dozen times to check in). If you don't want to go out then don't. But having two is a lot of work, so if you're on a BMB and you see the inevitable "I can't imagine how anyone could EVER leave their babies!!!" posts don't sweat it.

pea-kay · October 2012

The boys had been home for a few days when we were able to sneak out for a few hours to go to a bar near our house. I wanted a beer, dangit!

And then when they were about 6 weeks old, we went out for my birthday.

It's just a few hours! You will need to have some "you" time, for your sanity!

Ruthie04 · October 2012

My mom has been staying with us, so she is completely familiar with the schedule and my expectations for baby care. With that in mind, I am comfortable leaving her with the babies for a really short errand. Since my parents are getting ready to head home, they are encouraging DH and I to go out to dinner. We plan to go to a short dinner on Sunday. It will be hard, but I know we should embrace the oopportunity! I do not think I will be ready to leave them with a regular babysitter for a LONG time, but parents are a bit more okay in my book. Our boys are four weeks old.

Breezy8407 · October 2012

We actually went out for happy hour when they were a week old. My in-laws were here, so we took advantage. We were only gone about 2 hours though and they slept the whole time at that age.

We went out on more of a day-date when they were about 8 weeks old and left them with my Mom from about 1-6.

We haven't had a babysitter that wasn't family yet.

Breezy8407 · October 2012

pea-kay:
The boys had been home for a few days when we were able to sneak out for a few hours to go to a bar near our house. I wanted a beer, dangit!
And then when they were about 6 weeks old, we went out for my birthday.
It's just a few hours! You will need to have some "you" time, for your sanity!

Kindred spirits

Eriksgal · October 2012

Like the week after they were home from the nicu which I know sounds terrible but DH's company had a suite for the Cowboys game and I did not want to miss out on that opportunity. My Mom and her friend watched the babies and it was fine. I would totally go to the concert and if you decide you can't go I'm sure your friend can find someone else to go in your place to see Adam Levine's sexiness!

sweetsugarmama · October 2012

Mine were 6 weeks when they got home from the NICU but it wasn't too long after that. I went out of town when DD was 5 months so I am not one who feels guilty for having adult time, esp with my husband. Happy parents are a good thing.

The only issue I have no is late nights are not the norm. We go out to dinner by 5 and then for a long walk-home to put the boys and ourselves to bed! I'm too tired for a big night out. Last night I went to see David Sedaris and was in bed by 11. I've been tired all day!

laraashleyt · October 2012

PurrCrasher:
I think our babies were about 2 weeks when we went out to a nice long romantic dinner while my MIL watched the babies. We were gone for probably 2.5 hours and honestly, after 2 weeks of babies every second of every day, it was glorious. We missed them but needed a little adult time. I think everyone is different but I suspect you may be ready for a little "me time" come three months.

This exactly!!! And it was much needed. I don't know how I would have felt about a "new" babysitter, but since it was family-- it wasn't a problem at all.

macchiatto · October 2012

I don't remember our first evening out but our first date pp was a lunch for Valentine's Day. They were 5 weeks old. Two of our friends came and watched them for a couple hours; both friends had been coming over about once a week for a couple hours (one at a time) to visit and help out so I knew they were familiar with the boys and especially with that ratio they were in very good hands.

notallisonmarie22 · October 2012

2 weeks for dinner, 3 weeks for dinner and a movie. They are spending the night with grandma for the first time next Friday. 5.5 months old.

Reilly626 · October 2012

4 weeks to celebrate our anniversary. The best thing I did was week 2 go get my hair done and nails done!!! I felt so much better!

MelleTX · October 2012

Thank you ladies. I feel much better. I am still probably going to skip the concert as I am sure I won't be feeling my sexiest yet, but it's good to know it will be normal to want to get out for an hour or so. I'd be leaving them with mom/sister so I would feel completely comfortable with the level of care.

I'll probably start out small by going to the hair or nail salon. I am sure I will desperately need both!

bearfootz · October 2012

Let's see. About a week after they were born? They were still in the NICU but I was out of the hospital and my gf's invited me for dinner where they also had a surprise shower. But the first time DH and I really had a night out was for a wedding when they were probably about two months old. It was a nice break but I was tired and ready to go home by 8:00.

I think you'll be ready for some much needed "me time" by 3 months, but in all honesty I wouldn't do anything where you have to commit to late hours.

tarajayne · October 2012

We took a day trip for our anniversary when they were 3 months old. My mom and aunt watched them.

We just left them with my parents for their first overnight. They offered at 4mo but I wasn't ready yet. Last night was great and caught up on some much needed sleep I think everyone is different when you feel ready or not. You will miss them but you do need a break once in awhile!

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