Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: What did you wear?
We Made A Wish....
And You Came True!
All of this.
I've had 2 c/s and didn't want to worry about getting stuff all over my own clothes and then having DH wash them when we got home. They brought me a gown whenever I asked for one and usually brought an extra just in case. I stayed 4 nights with both deliveries and never wanted to put on my own clothes.
I wore the hospital gown, but they did let me wear my own cute slippers in the OR - so at least I had that ! I HATE the pictures of me from LO's birth day - I was so freaking puffy and bloated from the IV meds, my makeup wore off, and I was so drugged from surgery, honestly they are the worst pics of me ever taken (the hospital gown was the least of my issues, LOL). Additionally, the only guests we had on day 1 were my parents, so the whole looking good for guests didn't matter to me. Lastly, TMI, but I bled quite a bit on the first day and wouldn't have wanted to get anything on my cute outfits.
That being said, 2 days later we took our hospital professional pics and I was able to get up, take a shower, and put on a half way decent outfit. The bloat had gone down quite a bit, and I actually LOVE these pictures of me and LO. If I do a RCS, I wouldn't worry how I look on Day 1 - it's going to be a crappy day no matter what. Focus on bringing cute pajamas to wear after that.
That's actually what I love about our first pics with the girls. Nothing staged or phony. It's exactly what happened and it wasn't pretty but I love them.
I wore jeans and a tshirt to the hospital for a regular appt and ended up with an emergency c/s, so I didn't have anything with me. DH ended up bringing some sweat pants and a tshirt, but I wore the hospital gown most of the time. I was so out of sorts I didn't really care. Next time I will probably bring a nice night gown to wear that is conducive to nursing.
You'll probably have to wear the hospital gown in the OR.
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
GSx1 - 05/13/2013
GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
Some people don't care if they look like death warmed over in pictures or at the hospital, but if you want to look pretty, go for it! I'm having a scheduled c-section and my doctor told me I could wear a designer gown. I am having the c-section on a Friday morning and plan to wear the gown as long as possible, or the rest of that Friday if I can manage it. I don't expect it will get too dirty.. it will be pushed up while they perform the c-section.. but even if it does, oh well. I may shower later that day or wait until the next morning, then I will change into comfy pajama-type clothes. Other reasons to want a nicer gown:
1. I don't want my ass exposed, sorry.
2. Hospitals are cold. I'm due in November, so it will be cold outside, cold inside the hospital. The gown I bought it quite large, so the sleeves hang down to about my elbows and I'm covered all the way to my mid-calves too.
Anyway, just do what you want to do as long as it's allowed. One piece of clothing isn't going to make too much of a difference. You throw it in the washer, you let the washer run, and if you're feeling too lazy to throw it in the dryer, you can hang it on a hanger and let it air dry. I don't see the problem.
DH-34-MFI-motility+morphology.... Me-32-Hypothyrpid+LPD
7/8/11: Clomid100mg+Ovidrel+IUI#1=BFN
8/2/11: Clomid50mg+Ovidrel+IUI#2=BFFN
8/25/11: Follistim50iu+Ovidrel+IUI#3=BFP!!!!@14dpo
Beta#1 9/8 - 251 Beta#2 9/15 - 1622 Beta#3 9/22 - 12674
1st U/S; heard one beautiful HB of 129 - 9/29/11
OB visit; HB of 166 - 10/13/11
2nd US; HB of 163 - 10/18/11
A/S - 12/9/11 - It's a perfect healthy BOY!!!!
Our miracle baby boy - born 5/24/12
Once I was up and showered I wore maternity yoga pants, pretty nursing tank and a comfy cotton robe. As for first photos after a failed induction, 28 hours of labor and an unplanned C section- I looked pretty battle weary but deservedly so.
BFP #1 2-8-09 Natural M/C 6w1d 2-19-09
BFP #2 5-28-09 C/P 6-1-09
BFP #3 10-30-10 Natural M/C 12-8-10
BFP #4 1-16-12 EDD 9-18-12 Stick baby stick!!
this and honestly... Your not gonna give an s what ur wearing when u see your baby and feel the pain.
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i wanted to get one of these:
https://prettypushers.com/products.html
but now that im possibly having a c-sec Im not sure its worth it...I plan on bringing yoga pants, socks, slippers and nursing tops to hang in post surgery...