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June 2012 Moms
jamiah18
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Wednesday Vent Day!?!!
jamiah18
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Re: Wednesday Vent Day!?!!
Love it!!
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
Oooh I like this idea! Mine's gonna be kinda long...
My vent is over how hard it is for me and DH to find jobs that would pay enough for us to live in our own again. I am in my last year of a PhD program, but finishing from off campus, and he just got his BA in math after 10 really long years of struggling. He's also a first generation college student, so graduating was a really big deal for him! It's kind of like, we worked so hard for so long, got all these loans, and we have nothing to show for it... By the way, I'm not saying any of this in a bragging sort of way - it's just part of the background story.
We moved to my parents' house in another state after DD was born and DH completed his program - we thought that it would be super temporary, just until DD got a tiny bit older and we could find something. I never thought that it would take us this long and that we'd be here as long as we have! I'm so frustrated because I don't even want this PhD - in fact, I wanted to quit the program 2 years ago, but was convinced to stay and try it out a little more. If I had quit, I would have definitely had something by now and we wouldn't be stuck in this situation. I also feel bad for DH because after everything that he's been through to get this BA, it's not even paying off at all.
I do realize that there are people out there who've been looking for a lot longer and have it much tougher. I also realize that we're lucky that my parents could take us in and let us stay until we got back on our feet. That said, I'm miserable here. I get along OK with my family, but we're not really tight-knit or anything, and after 8 years of not living at home this is the last thing that I've wanted. My parents' house is cluttered and messy, but because they can never decide on where things should go, it's impossible to clean up. We're confined to a bedroom and bathroom (the rest of our stuff is in the damp basement and a storage space), so I can barely put out any of DD's things. I feel like it's depriving her of so many things that she could enjoy! For example, I know that she would LOVE a jumparoo or exercauser, but there is no way we could put one out here with the clutter and limited space... There isn't even a convenient doorway to put in a hanging jumparoo! Not to mention that they live in the middle of nowhere on a mountain, and the nearest town is about 20 minutes away. That means that to do anything at all, we have to drive for a total of 40 minutes with a baby who can only handle being up for about 90 minutes in between naps - there isn't even a sidewalk here, so when I take DD on a walk, I just go up and down the road in a big oval! Not to mention the lack of friends or any sort of social circle at all (I also feel like I can't invite any of our friends from the old state here because of how the house looks).
I feel like an irresponsible teenager who had a baby by accident, and not like a 25 year old with an almost doctorate who had a planned pregnancy! I've applied to so many jobs and have only scored 1 interview for a position for which I was way underqualified (and of course didn't get). DH can't find anything either, and it's totally killing us and our self-esteem... I'm really starting to lose faith in my skills and qualifications, and all I can think about from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed is how badly I want one of us to get a decent job so we can get our own place already. Every time the phone rings, I hope so much that it's for one of us, and it never is. I know that EVENTUALLY we're bound to find something, at least one of us, but until then it just really sucks...
Whinesday Wednesday?
I just want to whine about my a/c being covered today. I've been using it as white noise and now I have to find something else. Blah!
I like whinesday Wednesday...
Fortunately, I have nothing to whine about this time. But will be looking forward to participating next week.
I am so stressed about my DS starting daycare on Monday. I had to scramble to find him care due to an unexpected job offer to start right away.
The pay is not great and I'd pretty much be breaking even. But it has potential for the future.
I'm not sure I made the right choice accepting the job.
I just want to do the right thing for my DS...
Anyhow, we had to sell our second vehicle, due to our impending move. I feel trapped in my apartment that I already hate.
You poor thing! I do not think I could handle that. My FIL wanted to stay with us and bring his three lab dogs over that break everything and run around uncontrolled a few months ago. No way!
Since my DH is going back to school and I am at home right now with LO, we don't have any extra money. Our car is going to need a lot of work to pass its inspection, and since it's not that nice of a car we decided to just get a new (used) one when my mom generously offered to lend us some money.
DH was talking to his mom the other day and mentioned that we were looking for a new used vehicle. MIL says, "Oh, you should just get a new car instead of getting a used one, I find I save more money in the long run that way." No shiit, MIL. She knows our situation- who the hell says that???? I should also probably add that over the past few years she has given her oldest son, DH's brother, two houses and two cars. She made DH give her 50$ gas money when he became the first person in his family to graduate university, ever, before she would attend his graduation. She's not my favourite person. Or DH's, for that matter.
Oh, but she totally did help us out with getting a new car, though. She sent us a link to a contest her local radio station was running where they are giving away a new Toyota with the advice that DH and I should each create several new email addresses so we can each enter multiple times a day. She wouldn't enter on our behalf, though, since she was already entering for herself. Thankfully my DH had no trouble responding with a 'thanks but no thanks, we're going to focus our efforts on finding a decent car in our price range instead of pinning our hopes on winning a car.'
I don't expect her to give us money, a car, or a house, but keeping your mouth shut is a lot less condescending than what she does.
My H locked the key to the magnetic cabinet locks in the cabinet. So I have no access to the pots and pans (except a broiler pan, sheet pan, and skillet that were out) or to the pantry. I have no time to go to BRU and get a new key so it's just going to have to stay that way until I get a new one from Amazon on Friday. Dinner should be interesting.
Moral of the story - If you get these kind of locks (which I really do like) spend the extra $8 for the spare key.
Good Luck, Jessie!
My doc also gave me a side eye about not CIO. I won't do it.
Thanks jamiah. Hopefully it all goes well.
I won't do CIO either and I also do not have a magic baby. Try not to let the doc get to you!
First off, I like Whinesday Wednesday idea
Second, is my vent: I'm tired of all the medical bills and on top of that I have to worry about finding a job, i will be unemployed beginning of next year; therefore, I need to figure out what Ins. plan to add baby on from DH's work. Which is stressing me because the plans are soooo darn expensive (like 1k a month) that's insane!!! ugh! anyway that's my vent!
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