October 2011 Moms

My story and Happy Birthday E

Even though I've been on this board for well over a year, it's been too painful to share my story until now.  I am officially divorced now and it feels good to have it behind me. I feel stronger, happier and am able to share without having the pain associated with it.

The past year has been full of anguish and disappointment as I navigated my way through a heart-breaking and complicated divorce from his dad. We legally separated when I was 2 months pregnant. I learned he was having an affair with his nurse (he's a physician) - such a cliche, I know. They now live together in what used to be our house - our dream house with a room we had already designated as the baby's nursery.

Baby E and I have been on our own since I learned about the affair. I went to Lamaze classes on my own, had the baby on my own and am now raising  him on my own. His dad has chosen to visit him only once when he was two weeks old.

My little boy is such a happy, playful and lovable little guy. He's been my  sunshine during all of this. His laughter makes my heart glow. I love him so much and if I had to go through everything all over again just to have him in my life, I would do so in a heartbeat. He has given me the courage to live a truthful and honorable life. He gives me the courage everyday to get out of bed and live life to the fullest.

Happy Birthday to my beautiful little gem, Elan. 

 

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  • Congratulations on your divorce, and Happy Birthday to your handsome Elan Big Smile

    I wish you the best and happiness.

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  • I am so sorry that you have been going through so much, but it sounds like you are a strong woman and an amazing mother.  (( hugs ))  Happy birthday to E!

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  • Happy birthday E!  You are a strong woman and a great mother!
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  • Happy Birthday to your adorable son, Elan. I can definitely see how he would make everything that you have been through worthwhile :-)

    Being able to raise him on your own proves that you are such a strong woman! I admire you for being able to get through the past year with such a positive attitude :-)

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  • Happy Birthday E!

    Sorry about the circumstances with your ex. That totally blows! But it sounds like you are a strong lady and your LO is lucky to have you!! 

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  • Thank you for sharing your story. You are an amazing mom to little Elan. A very happy birthday and congratulations for making it through the first year.
  • Happy birthday and all the best to your LO!  I am so sorry to hear about your divorce, but sometimes it is for the best, as you now have a beautiful little guy and got rid of a toxic big guy. You are a very strong woman to have been pregnant and given birth to your little guy all on your own! Someday you will find a man who is deserving of you and your DS's love. Best wishes to you!
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  • I'm sorry about your divorce and that your ex is not a big part of your DS's life.  Your DS is lucky to have you!  Happy B'day to him!

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  • Your DS's father must be a very stupid man to miss out on having sweet little E in his live. You're both better off without him, and the nurse will be too when he cheats on her someday.

    Happy birthday Elan! 

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  • Happy birthday to your sweet boy! I'm so happy that you are moving ahead with your life and in a good place! You've been through some incredible challenges in the past two years and it is wonderful that you and your LO are doing so well now!
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    Your DS's father must be a very stupid man to miss out on having sweet little E in his live. You're both better off without him, and the nurse will be too when he cheats on her someday.

    Happy birthday Elan! 

    All of this!  You are a wonderful mother and much better without him! I wish you the best and happy birthday to your adorable little E!

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  • Happy Birthday E!

    I am sorry for all you've had to go through this past year. You're a very strong woman and a fabulous mom.  

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  • Happy Birthday Elan! 

    Ariana, so sorry you had to go through all that. As previous posters have said Elan is a lucky boy to have you and you must be a strong woman. I have a couple single moms in my family and I admire them. 


     

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  • Happy Birthday E!

     

    I am of the firm belief that it is better for a child to grow up in a 1-parent household where that one parent is happy than a 2-parent household where both parents are unhappy. 

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  • What a jerk. Congratulations on the divorce and happy birthday E!
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  • Happy birthday to E!  I'm sorry you've had such a rough go, but am glad you seem to have reached a good place where you can move forward.

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  • I'm sorry you had to have so much heartache.

    Happy birthday E and "cheers!" to a bright future for you and your mama!

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  • Congratulations for your sweet little man's birthday.  I'm so sorry for your pain that you had to endure.  I wish I had some eloquent words to say, but I don't other than 'I'm sorry.'  Speaking of cliche's, you reap what you sow and karma is a ***.  He will get his.  However, thank God for him for being your 'sperm donor' and giving you the most precious gift.
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  • Happy Birthday E!!

    You did right by your son and for yourself, this past year might have sucked big balls but you can stand proud knowing that you are better for it.  Sending {{big hugs}}.

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  • Happy birthday Elan!

    You are an amazing woman! You do not need that man for sure...karma will catch him!! 

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  • Happy Happy Birthday to your beautiful baby boy Elan!

    I'm so sorry for what you have had to go through Ariana. I can only imagine how painful your situation must have been. I'm very happy to hear that things have been finalized and you can now look forward to a life you truly deserve. I'm also glad that you decided to share with everyone so that we can be a form of support for you :) I know I definitely need an outlet here as well. (((((big hugs))))) 

  • Any man (and I use that term loosely) who will stoop low enough to have an affair, AND want nothing to do with his son is not worth it to be in your life, Good for you for getting out, and being such a good mommy to E!  Happy birthday little man!
      
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  • I have been a dirty lurker but read your story and it brought tear to my eyes. Not out of sadness but rather pride. Good for you and your son is just as blessed for having a loving and strong mother. Happy Birthday to your little man.
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    Happy Birthday E!

     

    I am of the firm belief that it is better for a child to grow up in a 1-parent household where that one parent is happy than a 2-parent household where both parents are unhappy. 

    100% agree. Happy birthday E and he is lucky to have such a strong mommy!! Thanks you for sharing your story. I was a single mom when my oldest has young, it's hard work, but nothing you can't handle. 

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  • Thank you for the kind words, everyone. I'm so glad you all are here. <hugs>
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  • Thank you for sharing your story, and I commend you as I think you're such a strong woman, inside and out.  Not many women would have the strength and courage that you have in this type of situation.  I hope you and Elan have a great second year with only happy memories and beautiful moments.  Happy birthday to your amazing little boy!

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  • Happy Birthday little Elan! It sounds like you are such a joy to those around you!

    Ariana, it sounds like you have been a strong woman and wonderful mother! You are a shining example to your son of how you can make the best out of a situation and come through tough times. You should be proud of yourself!

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  • Happy birthday and congrats on naviagting this year alone. You're a strong woman!



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