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victoria+james
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She said what!?
victoria+james
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Got blindsided today when a friend asked when DH and I were going to have kids. I just said "when the time is right for us." She looked me dead in the eye and said, "oh my God, is he shooting blanks or are you the problem?" I didn't even slap her, talk about self control!
I'm starting to wonder if DH and I should have put off the wedding until we decided to start a family and maybe even until after being KU. I'm feeling so judged for not having kids ever since we got married, and its not like I don't want them... right now!
I'm starting to wonder if DH and I should have put off the wedding until we decided to start a family and maybe even until after being KU. I'm feeling so judged for not having kids ever since we got married, and its not like I don't want them... right now!
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Re: She said what!?
what a #/
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I got married in November, and when I went to a family event in July I had a cousin tell me that they (him and his wife) were surprised I wasn't KU yet because I loved kids. Yes, I love kids. I want kids. But I'm still in school, and don't even have time for a pet!
Hahaha! I may have one made :
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I hadn't seen her in a few months... Come to think of it, she nay not see me for a few more.
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That's ridiculously rude. I don't know what the deal is with marriage = imminent babies. I was 22 and engaged, and a family friend asked when the wedding was. I said in July, and she said, so we should be expecting a baby around April, then? My dad was standing right there, too and it was super awkward.
I get the - "you're so good with kids/you love kids so you're obviously having them right away, right?!?" comments. I love the "mind your own uterus" response....
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Even if it turns out we are infertile, which we won't know until we try... I don't want to discuss my husbands sperm with her, and she just refered to me being a problem. Why would I ever open up!?
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It's hard to believe that someone would say something so rude. I agree with pp that you probably will need to address how out of line that comment was with your friend.
If this happened to me, that first line would have read "Got blindsided today when a former friend asked..."
Rude and unacceptable. I have had to put my mother in check more than once, not because she asks but because of her outwardly vocal disapproval with our timetable and choices.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
My husband's aunts were asking when we were going to have a baby the NIGHT OF MY WEDDING! My dad was asking when he was going to get some grandkids before the wedding even happened.
Also, the guy at the corner liquor store asked me the other day how long my husband and I have been married and when I told him three years he started grilling me on why we don't have kids yet.
I guess people assume you only get married so that you can get KU.
We got married in September 2011, and we've been together since January 2006.
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When I got married we registered for some bedroom stuff for my step daughter who was 3 at the time to make her feel included in everything wedding. Well apparently those items were seasonal because a few weeks later those items turned into onesies, pacifiers, and bottles. Those were some fun phone calls after that! Lol! We had one aunt who called and asked if the whole wedding was because I was pregnant...yeah...lol we had to not so politely tell her after trying to convince her for 30 minutes that if we were pregnant that's not how we would have told the family! Lol!!