I just need to vent!

jadedtaboo · October 2012

So we were so excited to find out at our U/S that we are having a little girl. My husband really wanted a little girl and I love to see his face light up when he talks about her. We told all our friends and family and everyone has been so excited, except my sister, she keeps saying on FB posts and by text message that it could still be a boy, not to get excited, don't paint the room all girly. She got upset with us that we chose to find out what we were having to begin with so I don't know if that has something to do with it. I'm half tempted to spend the extra cash and get a 4D ultra sound just to keep her quiet. Am I just being sensitive?

JuliaBug · October 2012

I would ignore her. Unless you had the tech guess at 13 weeks or so, an incorrect gender determination is very rare. Go ahead and paint the nursery pink.

mamasmurf12 · October 2012

I would ignore her as best as you can. I really don't understand why it bothers her...it's your child. :-/

KD79 · October 2012

If you want a second opinion and got a picture of the genitals, you can post it over on this board:

https://community.babycenter.com/groups/a6925/ultrasounds

The person that runs the board is a board certified ultrasound tech and has 12 years of experience.

It sounds to me like your sister might be jealous or something. If you feel confident, and the tech running your scan seemed confident, then I think that's all you need. I'm sorry your sister isn't being more supportive.

medahm · October 2012

I think you are not being overly sensitive at all. I would be very upset myself. First of all because it's your sister. It's one thing for a stranger to say it but for your sister, it's another. I wouldn't ignore it, I would talk to her about it and tell her how insensitive she is being. You are so far along that I don't see how the U/S tech could be wrong. They can normally be wrong around 12-14 weeks. (That's what happend to my sister) but at 20-22 weeks, I think it's very slim. Does she have kids already? If not, she may not understand that at 20-22 weeks is the normal time when they can tell the sex. Maybe she's heard of people finding out early that it's a girl and then 4 weeks later finding out it's a boy.

But all in all, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you don't feel comfortable doing it, have your DH/SO do it.

lemonadepink · October 2012

I can definitely see how that would get annoying, but I would just ignore her. If she keeps bringing it up, I would just tell her that you know that happens on rare occasions but that you are very excited about your news and what she is describing does not normally happen when you're this far along.

beckajw · October 2012

It shouldn't matter to her. However, she's not wrong to tell you to exercise caution. If they tell you it's a boy, it's almost always a boy. However, I know a couple of people who were told it was a girl and they had a boy. So, maybe she knows some people like that too and just doesn't want you to be surprised/disappointed if that does happen. However, the chances are low. And she should just be happy for you. As for how to take her, I'd just say, "you are right, there is no 100% until the baby is born. However, they are pretty certain. Thank you for your concern."

jadedtaboo · October 2012

Thanks ladies! I'm 22 weeks and the actual OB doctor (he's been doing this for 21 years) is the one that did my scan at 20 weeks and said girl. I know there's always that small chance that it could be wrong but he was very sure, so I'm decorating for a girl

I think it's just jealousy on her part so I'm just ignoring the comments, I know she's not trying to be mean (just annoying). I think part of it was because everyone kept guessing boy, not one person said they thought it was going to be a girl, I was even in shock when the doctor laughed and said oh no that is definitely a girl!

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