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November 2011 Moms
Chan4dra04
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Hi, Ladies! Took a break to sleep-train and now I'm back! :)
Chan4dra04
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Hi, everyone! I?m inching my way back onto The Bump after a much needed va-k.
DD was a great sleeper from 7w til about 5m when she got sick for 2m. It seems we started some bad habits around that time by letting her co-sleep with us. While that might work for other families, it was clear that it wasn?t working for us. She couldn?t sleep longer than an hour or 2 at the very most. I was nursing her every 1-2 hrs around. the. clock. We were all miserable and DD was a cranky baby during the day. We needed to do something.
Being on TB all day every day since her birth has given me so much support, confidence, and ideas and guidelines and and and?.it doesn?t stop. I have received an invaluable amount of help and I cannot be more thankful. But, just like everything, too much of a good thing can sometimes be maxed out. I noticed that I was taking some information as ?law? or letting some peoples? experiences cloud my judgment on what things to apply to my own family. Different things work for different families at different times. I was so hung up on 9-10m not being a good time to sleep train. Sure! Maybe not for everyone but, we were exhausted and DD was suffering from not getting more than an hour of sound sleep. So, that?s what led to my hiatus. I needed a break from TB to reset my own thinking and judgment and make my own decisions. It was my fault. I got caught up in trying to do the right thing at the right time that everyone else was doing that I put off sleep training because I didn?t want to traumatize or scar my kid. I wasn?t thinking for myself and I was scared to fly solo on this. But, what we were doing wasn?t working. I was a slave to my kid and it was clear she needed more from us than around the clock care. She needed sleep.
We tried the Ferber method and the first night she cried for 1 hour, with us visiting during the allotted intervals. She woke up 3 times during the night and I only fed her/picked her up once. THIS WAS HUGE, because remember, she was waking up every 1-2 hours to nurse/cry/whine/sit up/flap her arms/sigh obnoxiously/you-name-it. The second night, she cried 25 min again we went in at intervals, but she fell asleep and then woke up 2x and fed once. Now wait?the third night she went down for bed and cried 8 min., and woke up 3 times but self-soothed all 3 within a few minutes and slept in til 830!!!!!! That was a huge turning point for us. Since then, she wakes up 1x at night about half the week and the other half she STTN til 8-815.
We feel like a brand new family. DD is SO much happier, there is such a difference in her personality. She is rested and playful instead of clingy and whiny. I?m so proud of her. Heck?I?m proud of us. It was hard to step away from TB and go solo on this. I wasn?t sure I could do it. TB provides so much, it was almost hard to parent without it as a first time mom. But, we did it and we survived with such success. I learned that I can receive support and guidance but it?s up to me to make my own individual decisions even if it goes against the norm. Ultimately, we are all so much happier now and I feel like I can return to TB a better mommy and with more self-confidence.
Thanks for reading, ladies. I?m gonna catch up on some posts, but here?s DD?s current stats.
She?s still a peanut; about 20lbs.
Has NO teeth?.anyone else in the same boat?
Started crawling the last week of July, but doesn?t take any steps.
Still only says ?mamamamamama?, but no other consonants. Just sounds like ?ahhh? and ?ooooohhh?.
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Re: Hi, Ladies! Took a break to sleep-train and now I'm back! :)
Glad you were able to figure out your DD's sleep! I know what you mean about TB making you overthink things, and feel like you're not doing things right, but, like you said, you gotta do what your gut says and I'm really glad it worked out so well for you!!!
My DD is a little peanut too, just over 20 lbs, but only 27 in, making her 25% for height! She's my little teapont....short and stout!
BFP #2 March 2011, Baby Girl born November 2011!!!
I'm glad you're back! And so fortunate to have a better sleeping baby. Things are still a little rocky here. I've got a heck of a peanut, LO is probably only 16 pounds, if that. And not a single sign of a tooth yet.
She's officially a walker now, 2 days ago she got brave and now she'll just stand there or take 5 or 6 steps.
She's also a talker. Mommy, daddy, doggy, yucky, egg, cup, hi, get it, you name it.
Glad to have you back! Not too much has chagned around here.
You're success with sleep training now gives me hope. We did it with my DD at a year and I feel like I will be doing the same with my DS for weaning. I was getting cold feet reading about the separation anxiety they go through at this age and how it's not recommended. It went very smooth with my DD so I'm hopeful that it will be just as smooth with DS.
On the sleep training. Glad it worked out! The thing with avoiding this age is due to separation anxiety. Most people that try and fail at this time fail due to bad timing and blame it on the method. Usually it's not that the method is bad, it's that the timing was bad. If you tried and succeeded, well, hooray! I'm pretty sure we won't be doing any sleep training this time aside from just respecting baby sleep needs as best we can.
DD is < 17 lbs. She was 16.9 lbs the last time she was weighed (a couple weeks ago)
She has 4 teeth now. 2 just appeared this weekend.
Not crawling, just scooting
She babbles like crazy! Definitely saying mama and dada with purpose now.
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Thanks for the welcome back!
RedCamaro: Seriously, DD was the worst sleeper ever. Like I said, she still wakes up about half of the week, and most nights she has a couple to a few crying episodes where she cries in her sleep and it only lasts a minute or two. I think she is just going to be a terrible sleeper. I feel bad saying that, it's not like I wish that for her, but that's just my guess. If she can make progress, I have high hopes that yours will too.
I swear DH was probably so sick of hearing me say that "we're in the SA phase" because I warned him every two seconds that SA was the probable cause of whatever we were going through around the 9-10m mark. It was why I didn't want to sleep train because I didn't want to cause her unneccesary emotional trauma or pain if SA was already in full force. But, I just had to look at it this way: she was physically suffering during the day from never getting more than an hour or two of sleep. We had to try something. So we did. But, really, it was hard to go out on a limb and try this myself knowing that it could not be an optimal time. I questioned myself as a parent. DH and I rocked like mental patients on the couch that first night while she cried between intervals. We were in physical pain. lol. But, even that first night showed such success that we were so proud and convinced we did the right thing.
I don't think I mentioned this before, but DD wouldn't even lay down in her crib before the sleep training. She had stopped falling asleep during nursing, and would only go to sleep if DH laid down in our bed with her. Which meant, DH came home, ate dinner with us, then laid down with DD and that was all that I saw of him for almost 3 months. DD wasn't allowed to have baths because it wound her up too much - she LOVES the water! So we had no bedtime routine. Now...we eat dinner, she gets a bath and she nurses at 8pm every night and is laid down completely 'drunk'-drowsy. It's WONDERFUL!
Valerie: Short and stout - TOO CUTE!
Kaeldrasmom: Glad to hear that Kaeldra doesn't have any teeth. I'll tell Sofie she's not alone!
I'm sure she'll appreciate it! But holy cow - can't believe she is saying all that! WOW!!!!!!!! Whatta talker you have!!! It must be so fun to hear.
Gracefulruby: You know, you had posted a few times about how you did CIO with DD and that really helped me with my own decision to sleep train. While different methods work for different families and different children at different times, it helps to hear about other families' experiences that maybe I might not normally consider. I was afraid of the CIO but after the first night of Ferber, we were convinced we did the right thing because she responded so well to it. Just wanted to say thanks for sharing your experience.
Smilari: Yes! The SA was the reason why I steered clear of ST. I was just so afraid of causing her more anquish since she already tends to have a personality that already includes a bit of clingy-ness. But for the chance that it would work, we had to try. I would have felt horrible if it caused more problems, but I guess that's a bit what parenting is sometimes: trial and error. Sometimes it's a bit heartbreaking when you realize you shouldn't have or should have done something different. But, thanks for giving us all a guideline to reference such as these types of phases!!!!!