Really hard night! :'( (pg mentioned)

HayleyBaker1122 · September 2012

So, today was a great day. I had so much fun with my DH and our friends and family just hanging out. Then tonight when I got home I saw an email from a good friend. She basically told me that she's been dreading telling me that she's pregnant. She really didn't want to tell me, but was worried it'd get to me soon and she'd rather be the one I hear it from. She was very sensitive and sweet and apologetic and kind, and she's the one person outside of my family that, when she heard about my m/c cried really hard right with me.

I'm so happy for them, but it's just so painful. I have 3 friends and a cousin who were pregnant right around the same time as me, and now one of my best friends too... i cried for so long and my DH just held me and said he was sorry. I wasn't mad, or upset, just hurt and confused about why this whole thing had to happen to me.

I'm sure you all relate and have had similar situations, but I didn't imagine how hard it be finding out one of your best friends is pregnant right about where you would have been... so, a great day turned into a very hard and painful one. I'm so sorry to all of you ladies who have also had to go through this pain! It sucks there's so many of us that can relate.

I'm so grateful to have you guys to talk to and read about your days. You're all so encouraging!

Love you guys!

xconf143usionx · September 2012

I'm so sorry

I dread unexpected phone calls from friends and family for exactly this reason. Sometimes I just ignore the call and tell them to text me instead. It's much easier to hide my pain and act happy for them when they can't hear my voice. It doesn't seem fair that for some people this is happy and completely not scary experience, and for us the thought of pregnancy has been changed forever. We are no longer able to be naive, or 100% excited about the subject anymore. Whether it be a friend's pregnancy or our own. I'm so sorry such a great day turned out so sh!tty. Life has a way of doing that to us. It sounds like your DH is very supportive, and your friend is very sensitve toward your feelings though. Just hold your head up, and remind yourself that that will be you someday. Focus on the positve and do something nice for yourself over the next few days.

MeganS313 · September 2012

((HUGS)) It's always hard to hear someone elses exciting news when yours was ripped away from you unexpectedly.

LAMCH1980 · September 2012

hugs I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. I am glad that your friend was sensitive in her delivery of this information. It was nice that she cried with you during your loss. She is a good friend!

jbg23 · September 2012

I'm so sorry you have had such a hard night.

ashleyelizabeth23 · October 2012

That is very hard. I miscarried in May at 8 weeks, and my best friend waited until she was several months along to tell me. WHen she called to tell me, I could hear in her voice that she was afraid to tell me, cause she thought I'd be upset. I of course was ecstatic for her, but it is so hard to be happy and sad at the same time. So many mixed emotions........It's even harder when the pregnant friend got pregnant on a whim, when I've been TTC for over a year. But God has a plan greater than our own plans........

asglover514 · October 2012

huge hugs That sucks. pg warning I skipped a baby shower today only to have the pg friend show up at my house later

ETA: 1 bump move sucks it took out my stars!

2 Know the feeling of why me all to we. So many people around me get pg and some are just those people who don't deserve kids or are just terrible people or this stupid friend of a friend who acts like she's 15 all the time. I'll openly admit I am a little bitted but its just something that hurts to be around

LLPtobe · October 2012

I'm so sorry honey. Big, squishy (((hugs))) to you!!

Littlar · October 2012

Hope you are having a better day today! I know how hard that is. You want to be happy for them but at the same time it is hard.

AmeliaKris · October 2012

Sorry. I know the feeling.hugs!

Ktbug613 · October 2012

MeganS313:
HUGSnbsp; It's always hard to hear someone elses exciting news when yours was ripped away from you unexpectedly.

this. So sorry

Ktbug613 · October 2012

MeganS313:
HUGSnbsp; It's always hard to hear someone elses exciting news when yours was ripped away from you unexpectedly.

this. So sorry

Ktbug613 · October 2012

MeganS313:
HUGSnbsp; It's always hard to hear someone elses exciting news when yours was ripped away from you unexpectedly.

this. So sorry

Ktbug613 · October 2012

MeganS313:
HUGSnbsp; It's always hard to hear someone elses exciting news when yours was ripped away from you unexpectedly.

this. So sorry

TheatreStar86 · October 2012

Well it sounds like she's a very sweet and close friend, so obviously you're happy for her. Unfortunately, it seems like being happy for someone doesn't make it sting any less for you. I'm sorry you had to deal with that pain and I hope you're feeling better. ((hugs))

mama2j · October 2012

I'm really sorry. It always seems when you want something the most everyone around you is getting it. ((hugs))

BritsyB8 · October 2012

(((hugs))) I am so sorry. It is always hard to hear about people we know being pg, but with close friends it always seems to be the toughest. My best friend from college and my best friend from high school are both due this month. My first due date would have been a couple of weeks ago, so they would have been right behind me. I am so conflicted because I am so thrilled for them and I truly AM excited. But then the next minute it makes me want to cry. I hate that we are all here.

HayleyBaker1122 · October 2012

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm feeling better today. It's been tough, all I can do is hope I'll be able to be pregnant along with her at some point soon. (Don't we all hope that? heh)

RedPhoenix625 · October 2012

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I know the feeling you describe all too well and am sad for you. I'm dreading the same email from two of my closest friends. One who I know will try for a second soon and lap me, and another who's a newlywed and "hasn't been trying NOT to get pregnant." I will be happy for them, and I will love their children, but holy hell it hurts.

Huge hugs coming your way.

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