Debate: Drinking during pregnancy? Clicky poll.

ChicagoBulls · September 2012

Prior to getting pregnant I always thought that drinking was completely forbidden for the entire 9 months.

Now that I've been so involved with the boards lately and have been doing some extensive research on all that I need to know about pregnancy, I've come to find out that drinking while pregnant is actually pretty common.

I'm sure it's been discussed on this board before, but I don't recall seeing anything similar lately. So, I figured I'd just get all the comments and concerns from all you wonderful ladies directly.

Now, I know none of you are going to go out and binge drink while pregnant - but when I refer to "in moderation" I mean, a glass of wine here and there, or a beer every so often.

Please give me your input on this issue.

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asuchic · September 2012

I'm on the fence about this one. Too nervous about it to do it myself, but I certainly wouldn't judge another woman for having a glass of wine every now and then.

Edit: typo

ChicagoBulls · September 2012

Also, if you do happen to vote for "In moderation" or "Regularly" could you please try and specify your drink of choice (ex. wine, beer, champage) and how often you feel comfortable drinking (ex. once a week, once a month, once a day)?

Thanks for your participation!

skoogirl · September 2012

I think I'd say "light" drinking as opposed to "moderate" drinking. I think moderate drinking is what I usually do when not pregnant (usually 1 glass per day with dinner). During pregnancy it will be more like 1 small glass every two weeks past 13-14 weeks or maybe a sip of my husband's beer or tasting glass of beer a couple of times a week.

UberBiz · September 2012

I'm a SS, I drank a few glasses of wine when I was pregnant with my DD, but I've been sober since May (my choice, to support my FI, he quit drinking June, 2011) so, if I wasn't sober, I'd probably indulge in the occasional glass of wine, but I definitely won't be now.

cheesecakerunner · September 2012

I picked "in moderation," but I think I'll be on the very low end of that. Before getting pregnant, I drank "in moderation" for a 29 year old woman who love her some beer. Now, I'll be drinking "in moderation" for a nervous FTM, which equates to so far: two NA beers and one tiny sip of champagne at a wedding. I'm just doing what feels right for me.

PansyPants · September 2012

I chose moderate and by that I mean that I have single sips of my husbands beer/wine throughout pregnancy (a sip once a week) and during the 3rd trimester I'll have a half glass of wine every couple weeks and maybe a full glass of wine in the last couple weeks.

My midwife last time said that a glass of wine and a bath when you feel like your body is getting ready for labor can help relax things and let everything get into place.

Poppy715 · September 2012

skoogirl:
I think I'd say "light" drinking as opposed to "moderate" drinking. I think moderate drinking is what I usually do when not pregnant (usually 1 glass per day with dinner). During pregnancy it will be more like 1 small glass every two weeks past 13-14 weeks or maybe a sip of my husband's beer or tasting glass of beer a couple of times a week.

I totally agree with this. I think I may have a few glasses of wine during my later months but no where near moderate for me. I used to have a drink everyday. It was summer and I'm a margarita girl. I was pretty bummed when I had to cut out my favorite nightcap of blended goodness. I'll be totally honest and say I miss drinking more than I thought I would.

JSS1002 · September 2012

I think you need an "undecided" button...

I'm not sure. I think that I might decide to have an occasional glass of red wine, but I also think I might just skip it entirely the whole time.

I'm actually sort of enjoying being booze-free right now, which is amazing, because I"m a huge wine drinker normally.

jenny1980 · September 2012

ChicagoBulls:

Also, if you do happen to vote for "In moderation" or "Regularly" could you please try and specify your drink of choice (ex. wine, beer, champage) and how often you feel comfortable drinking (ex. once a week, once a month, once a day)?

Thanks for your participation!

Once I am past 14 weeks, I will have a small glass of wine or beer once/week or so.

I did so with DD and she's perfect. :-)

skidderdo · September 2012

I guess I was a "light" drinker before, 1 glass of wine with dinner a few nights per week. Never more than 2 drinks at a time.

For now I will sometimes indulge in a small sip of husband's wine (once or twice a week) but nothing more. Probably later in the pregnancy I will feel more comfortable having a small glass of wine on special occasions.

Mrs E in Oregon · September 2012

I work at a winery and thought that I'd be one of those women that might drink on occasion through pregnancy. But I just don't think it is worth the risk. The main problem I have with it is that people are always judging mothers no matter what you do. I don't want to give anyone anything more to dog me about. Then again, I'm at 13 weeks, ask me at 30 weeks and I will probably be sipping a little now and then.

blueandgray · September 2012

cheesecakerunner:

I picked "in moderation," but I think I'll be on the very low end of that. [...] I'm just doing what feels right for me.

This. I'm a 2nd timer, but when I voted for "in moderation", I meant it as a sip of wine from MH's glass, if he happens to have a nice one with a nice dinner on a weekend. In 3rd tri, perhaps I'll be a little more liberal and get my own glass that has a splash of wine to sip on throughout dinner.

So far, I have had miniscule sips of champagne at a wedding and a sip of wine at my grandmother's funeral yesterday - I haven't announced yet, so still fake drinking. I've had 2 N/A beers so far as well, but I wouldn't count those as drinking.

BrittKav · September 2012

I have a glass or half a glass of wine once a week after 1st tri.

branmuffin2112 · September 2012

PansyPants:

I chose moderate and by that I mean that I have single sips of my husbands beer/wine throughout pregnancy (a sip once a week) and during the 3rd trimester I'll have a half glass of wine every couple weeks and maybe a full glass of wine in the last couple weeks.

This. I don't mind having a sip or two here and there but I probably won't be having my own drink. Maybe 1/2 a good seasonal beer though Stick out tongue

xxswebbxx · September 2012

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

KellyM10 · September 2012

I guess maybe I should've put in moderation but I put regularly. I've had a couple small glasses of wine already, but not very often since the m/s has been pretty bad. When that's gone though, I'll probably resume my previous habit of wine when we cook nice dinners at home 3-4 nights a week. I will just switch from 2 liberally poured glasses to 1 small one. I may also have a beer during a football game on occasion, but I think I will avoid liquor.

cvl105 · September 2012

I chose moderately. I'll have a glass of wine or champagne at my brother's wedding next weekend. I'll likely also have a glass at Thanksgiving, Christmas, NYE, etc. Just on special occasions.

cvl105 · September 2012

xxswebbxx:
I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Confused Having a little bit of wine isn't going to harm the baby. You can choose what you want to do, but you don't have to belittle those who decide to have a glass (even with the consent of a Dr). Because I choose to have a glass of wine doesn't mean I make myself more of a priority than my child. Get over yourself.

AnnieJar · September 2012

I didn't have a single drink when I was pregnant with DS well at least once I knew I was preg. This time around I will engage in what I consider moderate drinking for a pregnant lady, a few sips here and there for special occasions. When we went out for our wedding anniversary last week I ordered a glass of red wine and had three sips through dinner. I'll probably do the same for thanksgiving, Christmas and new years dinners. Although only if we are home. I'll be showing by then and I'm not trying to get any side eyes from strangers. So not really drinking, just a taste here and there for special occasions. I dont think I'd be comfortable with much more. I gotta say this time I'm missing the booze, first time around it wasn't such a big deal.

jenny1980 · September 2012

xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.

Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

MsAmeera25 · September 2012

cvl105:
xxswebbxx:
I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!
Having a little bit of wine isn't going to harm the baby. You can choose what you want to do, but you don't have to belittle those who decide to have a glass (even with the consent of a Dr). Because I choose to have a glass of wine doesn't mean I make myself more of a priority than my child. Get over yourself.

I agree with the original poster....why not just wait?? To each its own but I feel very judgy of women who drink anything during pregnancy just because there isn't a safe percentage of alcohol that should be consumed in order for a baby to be safe. So why do it in the first place. But after seeing this polls it looks like I have an unpopular opinion.

asuchic · September 2012

AnnieJar:
I didn't have a single drink when I was pregnant with DS well at least once I knew I was preg. This time around I will engage in what I consider moderate drinking for a pregnant lady, a few sips here and there for special occasions. When we went out for our wedding anniversary last week I ordered a glass of red wine and had three sips through dinner. I'll probably do the same for thanksgiving, Christmas and new years dinners. Although only if we are home. I'll be showing by then and I'm not trying to get any side eyes from strangers. So not really drinking, just a taste here and there for special occasions. I dont think I'd be comfortable with much more. I gotta say this time I'm missing the booze, first time around it wasn't such a big deal.

That's kinda what I worry about too.

merebebe · September 2012

With my last pregnancy I did have a glass of wine at my wedding. My OB said it was fine, and my DH has no issue with it. I also took sips of DHs beer or wine if he had something good occasionally. This time I probably won't have any because I know how much can go wrong. I didn't know much about birth defects or stillbirth last time. But I might change my mind if it could help relax me before labor, I might have a small glass then. I do not judge anyone who has an occasional drink though!

merebebe · September 2012

Oh does having a sip in your mouth and spitting it out count? I did that this time. I was very curious about those bud light lime a Ritas.

cvl105 · September 2012

MsAmeera25:
cvl105:
xxswebbxx:
I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!
Having a little bit of wine isn't going to harm the baby. You can choose what you want to do, but you don't have to belittle those who decide to have a glass (even with the consent of a Dr). Because I choose to have a glass of wine doesn't mean I make myself more of a priority than my child. Get over yourself.
I agree with the original poster....why not just wait?? To each its own but I feel very judgy of women who drink anything during pregnancy just because there isn't a safe percentage of alcohol that should be consumed in order for a baby to be safe. So why do it in the first place. But after seeing this polls it looks like I have an unpopular opinion.

Why not wait? Because I don't believe there is harm in having a few sips here and there. Many Drs will tell you the same. So while you have your beliefs and I have mine...I respect yours. Unlike the PP, who clearly doesn't respect mine and other's who decide to have a few sips.

MsAmeera25 · September 2012

jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.
 Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

 

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.

saintpaulJess · September 2012

xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

It's not that hard. It's just not necessary.

cvl105 · September 2012

MsAmeera25:
jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.
Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.

oh give me a break...because obviously drinking wine as if you aren't pregnant is VERY different than having a few sips here and there. Please.

skoogirl · September 2012

MsAmeera25:
jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.
Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.

This is because in order to get to your baby, the alcohol would have to travel through your stomach, to your liver, and then into the blood stream, and then through the placenta (after first tri) before reaching the baby. A functioning adult liver can process alcohol without it ever reaching the baby. Basically, until you have enough for your liver to not keep up the baby won't get any alcohol. This is roughly the "feel it"/"tipsy" point.

Also, recent large scale epidemiogic studies have shown that light drinking in the second and third trimester have had no association with effects on children through age 5. It even showed that those children had fewer behavioral problems.

MsAmeera25 · September 2012

cvl105:
MsAmeera25:
jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.
 Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

 

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.
oh give me a break...because obviously drinking wine as if you aren't pregnant is VERY different than having a few sips here and there. Please.

Well it looks like you must know the safe magical formula of what is safe and what isn't. Please share :

xxswebbxx · September 2012

cvl105:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Having a little bit of wine isn't going to harm the baby. You can choose what you want to do, but you don't have to belittle those who decide to have a glass (even with the consent of a Dr). Because I choose to have a glass of wine doesn't mean I make myself more of a priority than my child. Get over yourself.

I figured I would get negative feed back because of my opinion but there is nothing to get over. I believe I'm intitled to my opinion just as you are to yours. My intension wasn't to insult or belittle anyone. This is just my opinion (and my reasonings for my choice) as was asked for in the OP. I know Dr.s ok wine/beer in moderation. I just choose not to drink (because of my previous pregnancy, NO risk it worth the health of my child since I was considered a high risk pregnancy since the day I got my BFP) just as you can chose to do what you feel is ok during your pregnancy. It's your body, your baby, your choice. No judgement from me. My post wasn't directed toward you or anyone else on this board. Not everyone is going to agree or have the same points of view.

old_time_girl · September 2012

Soft cheese with your wine anyone?

The day i got my BFP i had 2 Angry Orchard beers at late lunch. I took the test that evening just to prove to DH i wasn't pregnant. Ha.
Anyway, I'm not that worried about it.

I had a few beers and a glass or 2 of wine while pregnant with DS all spread out over the 2nd and 3rd tri. DS is perfect. If i do say so myself.

MsAmeera25 · September 2012

skoogirl:
MsAmeera25:
jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's r a judgy pants.
 Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

 

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.

This is because in order to get to your baby, the alcohol would have to travel through your stomach, to your liver, and then into the blood stream, and then through the placenta (after first tri) before reaching the baby.  A functioning adult liver can process alcohol without it ever reaching the baby.  Basically, until you have enough for your liver to not keep up the baby won't get any alcohol. This is roughly the "feel it"/"tipsy" point.

Also, recent large scale epidemiogic studies have shown that light drinking in the second and third trimester have had no association with effects on children through age 5. It even showed that those children had fewer behavioral problems.

I've heard of this argument. The negative aspect is everyone processes alcohol differently and when I feel tipsy and when I am actually tipsy may also be different. Especially for established drinkers who can tolerate a lot more alcohol than a social drinker etc. Also there seems to be no accounting for height weight etc which also effects alcohol consumption.

cvl105 · September 2012

MsAmeera25:
cvl105:
MsAmeera25:
jenny1980:
xxswebbxx:

I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.
Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

If it's not that big of a deal then why limit it to sips or special occasions why not just keep drinking wine as if you were not pregnant.
oh give me a break...because obviously drinking wine as if you aren't pregnant is VERY different than having a few sips here and there. Please.
Well it looks like you must know the safe magical formula of what is safe and what isn't. Please share :

For you I don't....I'm sure it's different for everyone. As you pointed out in a following post. For me, I know one glass of wine isn't going hurt.

xxswebbxx · September 2012

jenny1980:

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.

Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

Yes if losing a child makes me a "mommy martyr" than so be it. I would never wish that on anyone BUT I would give anything to be that naive again.

I didn't state that a glass of wine would cause FAS. I just don't see the reason of why consuming alcohol while pregnant is necessary.

The point of this OP was to give your input. This is my input. If you would like to drink a glas of wine or 2 or a bottle that is your choice. I'm not hear to judge anyone I was just giving MY input.

I knew my opinion wasn't a popular one, I expected the negative feed back but seriously what is the point of posts like this? Just to be able to read the opinions of people who feel the same as you do? Not everyone is going to agree.

skoogirl · September 2012

I've heard of this argument. The negative aspect is everyone processes alcohol differently and when I feel tipsy and when I am actually tipsy may also be different. Especially for established drinkers who can tolerate a lot more alcohol than a social drinker etc. Also there seems to be no accounting for height weight etc which also effects alcohol consumption.

Oh but you misunderstand. I am describing what I am comfortable with. I am a regular drinker and know that one glass of wine for my size will not cause me to feel typsy, even though by that point I will have a lower tolerance. My doctor agrees. So, that is why it is different than pouring wine into an infant's mouth and why a sip of wine here and there is different than binge drinking.

skoogirl · September 2012

xxswebbxx:

jenny1980:

Everyone loves a mommy martry who's also a judgy pants.

Clearly, you have no understanding of how FAS develops. And having wine while pregnant is so clearly not analogous to giving an infant alcohol. FFS.

Yes if losing a child makes me a "mommy martyr" than so be it. I would never wish that on anyone BUT I would give anything to be that naive again.

I didn't state that a glass of wine would cause FAS. I just don't see the reason of why consuming alcohol while pregnant is necessary.

The point of this OP was to give your input. This is my input. If you would like to drink a glas of wine or 2 or a bottle that is your choice. I'm not hear to judge anyone I was just giving MY input.

I knew my opinion wasn't a popular one, I expected the negative feed back but seriously what is the point of posts like this? Just to be able to read the opinions of people who feel the same as you do? Not everyone is going to agree.

I feel for you regarding your loss but I don't think there is any study that shows an association between light to moderate alcohol consumption and increased miscarriage rates. I don't know that the OP here is being sensitive to your feelings, but I don't like to further inaccuracies of science. I do understand wanting to do everything you can though. It's common sentiment, especially in the U.S.

Angela814 · September 2012

I've had a few sips of alcohol (beer, wine, champagne) while pg. I wouldn't have anything more than a few sips until I was into the 3rd trimester, and even then I can't imagine having more than a very small glass of wine very occasionally. I do miss wine sometimes, but it seems a huge waste to open a full bottle and then have it sit on the counter for a week before it gets dumped out.

hatroopes · September 2012

I miss alcohol more than I thought I would, but it's not just worth it IMO. I definitely judge women who drink while pregnant but to each her own. Also for those arguing that they drank during previous pregnancies, just remember that each pregnancy is different.

popfan · September 2012

cvl105:
xxswebbxx:
I'm not really a big drinker to begin with so I'm not missing anything but IMO I don't see why people can't hold off for 9 months for the sake of their LOs. I guess I feel so strongly about this since I?m a loss mother. I did everything ?by the book? yet my daughter only was here with us for 4 short hours. To me the risk is just not woth it. You wouldn't give an infant a sip of wine so I can't see justifying it while pregnant. Smokers are often asked to quit smoking just as addicts are urged to stop using. Alcohol can be just as harmful as nicotine and other drugs. So I just don?t see why it would be so hard to hold off on the alcohol for 9 months. My LOs health is more of a priority to me than having that glass of wine with dinner. I'll enjoy all the alcohol I want once LO arrives!
Having a little bit of wine isn't going to harm the baby. You can choose what you want to do, but you don't have to belittle those who decide to have a glass (even with the consent of a Dr). Because I choose to have a glass of wine doesn't mean I make myself more of a priority than my child. Get over yourself.

Actually, that's exactly what you're saying. You're not willing to give up something that can harm your baby just because it's something you enjoy. Hate to point out the obvious here, but you aren't in the majority. If you're going to do this, you're going to get judged constantly. You better be ready.

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