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May 2013 Moms
enough
Lets try to keep things positive on here and lift each other up. I have witnessed a ton of high school like behavior and it makes me sad. Try and give people the benefit of the doubt. Everyone here is happy to be pregnant and most likely coming from a good place.
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Re: enough
hitched 5/2009 -- Me 34, DH 39
TTC #1:
dx with POCS 7/2009
TTC on & off since 1/2012
September 2012; Surprise BFP - MC
June - December 2013; Clomid/Femara + Trigger + TI = BFN x 4
April - May 2016; Femara + TI = BFN x 2
July 2016 - December 2016; Gonal-F + Ovidren + IUI = BFN x 3
May 2018 - IVF #1; 8 snowbabies. transferred 1 embryo - CP
August 2018 - FET #1 -- Healthy Baby Boy
TTC #2:
July 2020 FET; beta 1 310, beta 2 1278
Who peed in your Cheerios? In the post I assume you're referring to, the responses were more along the lines of "This is why you received the response you did. Proper netiquette is that you lurk before posting." not "OMG you're awful and horrible and don't you ever post anything again".
Chill.
Or should we all hold hands in a circle and sing "Kumbaya"?
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My BFP Chart
BFP 9/7/12, EDD 5/15/13
MW interview said 5/17/13 and changed back to 5/15/13 after first visit
This thread confuses me.
Where is that Snark Pact when we need it?
I agree.. coming from TTC you can get flamed! That post was nothing. She will be fine.. just put her big girl panties on and go on with her day
hitched 5/2009 -- Me 34, DH 39
TTC #1:
dx with POCS 7/2009
TTC on & off since 1/2012
September 2012; Surprise BFP - MC
June - December 2013; Clomid/Femara + Trigger + TI = BFN x 4
April - May 2016; Femara + TI = BFN x 2
July 2016 - December 2016; Gonal-F + Ovidren + IUI = BFN x 3
May 2018 - IVF #1; 8 snowbabies. transferred 1 embryo - CP
August 2018 - FET #1 -- Healthy Baby Boy
TTC #2:
July 2020 FET; beta 1 310, beta 2 1278
I agree maybe I'm just being too sensitive.
No kidding, of all the boards here this is definitely one of the most tame. And even if not, people are entitled to their own opinions and have the right to tell you if you're being an idiot or overreacting. If you can't handle it, don't participate, it's as easy as that. But being vague and giving everyone a lecture isn't likely to change the internet. It's been this way for a long time.
I think this board is awesome and everyone is so supportive. I am not sure what you are referring to but this post seems unnecessary.
ETA: so I read the post and everyone was telling her the truth and helping her understand why she got that reaction. No one was even that snarky.
We're all hormonal and we all won't get along.
I guarantee it's not going to be puppies and rainbows 100% of the time. Just keep in mind that posts like this will be a dime a dozen: "Can't we all get along?" and "I thought this was a place for support" and we'll be seeing a whole lot of them for the next 8 months. None of them will be received well.
~*~*May 2013 Moms Website*~*~
Anxiously awaiting baby #1! Baby BOY Due: May 30, 2013!
I totally agree with this. I also understand what you're saying in the 2nd paragraph. And I actually think a lot of people responded really nicely to the person who posted the other thread (calmly explaining why her advice would not be well-received). I think OP was referring to the few snarky or sarcastic comments that poster received. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're going to find all kinds of posts on a message board, and you are unlikely to change the way someone else words their posts. So instead of telling others how they should phrase things, just choose the way you want to represent yourself and focus on that. KWIM?
ETA: "You" is not directed at you, nola. I hope that's clear!!
Your right, I am probably being to sensitive. I think it's best that I don't participate if I let things like this upset me.
I would also suggest that you pay attention to the tickers -- a number of the posters were not even from this board. From my perspective it looked like
1) someone posted on board 1, didn't like the results
2) that person posted on our board to complain about the prior board
3) a few people crossed over to the new post to speak their mind and defend themselves
4) you posted a new thread to basically give our entire board a "Shame On You" speech
Shrug it off and move on. Everyone will forget about it next week.
~*~*May 2013 Moms Website*~*~
This. Thanks for writing exactly what I was thinking!
It is hard not to let the BS bother you but it isn't going away anytime soon. You will learn to ignore it after a while, I promise. I hope you stick around the boards can be really helpful especially during the 3rd tri and newborn stage!
I'm on my phone and cannot see tickers. I kind of feel worse now after posting this. Sorry to everyone I offended.
This!
hit.head.on.desk.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Thank you.
I do now, sorry.
Well I know this is about me! I really appreciate this conversation as I felt it was unnecessary to post rude comments. I deleted the thread as I don't need that negative energy around my personal story but I titled it acupuncture success story so if you didn't want to read it then simply ignore but if you we're interested then by all means. I didn't want nor expect congrats from people I don't know, just a thanks from someone or anyone this might have helped or nothing at all. Instead I got sarcasm and big effing deal comments. Just not necessary. I feel this board is extremely positive and helpful as we're all in the same boat and can help ease each others concerns or share in joys. This board should allow you to speak your mind w/o harsh feedback. Nothing nice to say? Just don't say it. Happy and healthy 7-8 months ladies!
This.
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I believe that point has been pounded in and I will not be on this board any longer causing drama.
This
Can't. Resist.
YOU ARE THE ANTAGONIZER FOR DEFENDING YOUR THOUGHTLESS ACTIONS AND BREAKING ETIQUETTE
Oh my gosh, I don't know what happened just now. Sorry.
LOL! Exactly.
Because, the saying just isn't complete without him.
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My BFP Chart
BFP 9/7/12, EDD 5/15/13
MW interview said 5/17/13 and changed back to 5/15/13 after first visit
Honestly, you were not flamed or attacked in your original post on this board. I can't comment as to the OP that you were griping about b/c you DD'd it. You were only informed as to why you received the response you did when posting what you did and how it was done on another board.
Now, it seems that rather than learning from the experience and moving on you're getting all butthurt over it and telling strangers how to conduct themselves on the internet, where they understand that you can't control other people's reactions.
If you're so stressed over all of this, then I suggest you either find another message board (I hear babygaga.com is pretty P&R) or take a break from the Bump.
This board is already very supportive, I'm sorry that you don't seem to see it.
Check out my Team Green baby names! P.S. I'm not serious with any of the names
My BFP Chart
BFP 9/7/12, EDD 5/15/13
MW interview said 5/17/13 and changed back to 5/15/13 after first visit
THIS THIS THIS THIS! IF you didn't want us to read it- then you shouldn't have written it. We are NOT all in the same boat. Some of us have had trouble TTC, some of us have lost babies, and some of us don't enjoy hearing that you basically taunted women who are struggling with things we have/are struggling with. None of the comments were mean. You were mad. We told you why people reacted the way they reacted. You may have not said things to US personally, but when you get mad because your "Hey! Women this IS how you get pregnant" isn't taken well, I take it as a personal attack.
You don't seem to get it. Maybe you never will.
It's incredibly presumptuous to give strangers advice when you don't know anything about their situation. (Over the next several months, lots of us here will vent about annoying comments from strangers about our pregnancies. See "Pregnancy Police" thread from earlier.)
And it's condescending and incredibly naive to believe that you know something they don't.
Unsolicited advice is annoying, period. You will probably get lots of this over the next, well, forever. "Oh your baby won't stop crying? I just rub their back a little and poof, magic, he's all better!"
I get all of that. It took me over a year and a half so it's not like I'm nieve about this orbeing insensitive. When I was on the boards before asking about acupuncture before I did it only a handful of people responded so I was just trying to shed light on it as the information I had seen was vague.
I was just trying to be nice and helpful and was taken aback. No one had to read it as it was clearly titled and if you weren't up for hearing a positive story than don't read it. This got way out of hand as and as this became popular thread we can all be on the same page about keeping everything positive.
How would you feel if outside of your husband and mother knowing the news and you were trying to be helpful to others that you were just received with sarcastic comments.