Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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. I know that it isn't the end of the world- some of my friends kids had them and everything went fine. But, I'm still really upset about it. I think if he wasn't a preemie I wouldn't be taking it this hard but after being in the NICU and all I just really wanted things to go smoothly from here on out. Yes, that is totally unrealistic- I know. I'm just still really dealing with him coming early so everything feels like a big thing. It's not 100% yet but his PT said today that she would be surprised if he didn't get one.
Re: Helmet
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Is it for plagiocephaly? Forgive me for posting if it's not. My daughter wore one for 4.5 months, she was born with torticollis due to positioning in the womb. She favored one side for the first few months of her life and subsequently developed a flat spot. We also did PT.
I was torn up about her having to wear one. But I'm SO glad she did! You'd never know she had a flat spot now. Well, as a mom I can still see a very minor spot but no one else would ever be able to tell. There was an adjustment period of about a week where it affected her sleep and then she was fine. I don't think she ever noticed she was wearing it after that. We were allowed to take it off 1 hour a day. If she saw it sitting there while it was off, she would pick it up and bring it up to her head like, "put this thing back on!" I think as a result of this she loves wearing hats
If your LO is going to wear it in the winter months, that's lucky- those things can be very hot & sweaty. They make really cute designs now too.
Yes, you will get stares in public which is hard for a mommy to bear. But you will know you are doing what's right for your LO in the long run. Now when I see a mom with a baby in a helmet I make a point of talking to them; I felt so bad being the mom with the kid in a helmet and the few moms I have approached have been really eager to talk.
GL!
Both my twins wore helmets earlier this year. We started noticing the flatness about 6 weeks after they came home. At that point we tried doing things to keep it from getting worse such as stopping use of the Rock N Plays and increasing tummy time. They HATED tummy time and would scream every time I tried so needless to say that never went very well. Any how, after about 2 months of that our pedi finally referred us to the helmet place and they recommended the DOC band for them. I was upset too about it too and felt guilty about it. However once they got the helmets my feelings about it got much better.
They only needed them for 6 weeks because they grew so fast. It was a big improvement in short time and their heads look great now! The biggest pain in the process was having to come once a week for adjustments. Otherwise you and baby get used to them really quickly. The place we went to encourages you to start the process around 6 months for the best and fastest results. My boys were about 5 months adjusted when we started.
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