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TTC and Stay Sane While Everyone Around Me is Getting PG

chris200mchris200m
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Hello,

The year has come and gone with DH and I TTC. Granted we took a couple "breaks" because the stress got to us, but it has still technically been a year. I know for the past 6 months we have had really good timing with the help of OPK and secretive charting. (DH got too stressed with the charting so he asked I just not mention I'm doing it, but to still do it.) 

It gets stessfull and lonely when I can't talk to DH about this stuff, which is why I've come to the bump! Knowing there are other women out there going through the same stuff is helpful.

Meanwhile, everyone is getting pg. I have 5 friends that either started right before me or soon after. All are pg or have had their babies. I'm so happy for them, well maybe 99% happy and 1% sad for myself let's be honest. It gets really hard though when you have that friend that wasn't even thinking of kids 6 months ago decide a month after you talk to her that she is going to start trying then after 3 months got pg, and then say in your presence "I thought it was going to be so much harder to get pg." She is fully aware how long I've been TTC and while I feel happy for her I also feel like a little sensitivity on her part would be welcomed. 

Any words of wisdom in the bump world to help keep your spirits up while TTC?  

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Re: TTC and Stay Sane While Everyone Around Me is Getting PG

  • QOTRQOTR member
    I don't have any wisdom to share, but wanted to say welcome and good luck!
    Me-41, Hubby-40.
    1st BFP-8/17/12!  Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US.  D&C.
    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
    August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
    Dear Son born 5/28/14
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  • robbensmrobbensm member
    I know it's hard but that's what we are here for.  We are all struggling with those same feelings & frustrations.  But these ladies are great and I don't know what I would do without this board. Welcome!
    Me 39 & suspected PCOS, DH 42. Went off BCP when we got married in 11/11, seriously TTC since 3/12.  Six cycles of clomid = BFNs.  Suspected endometriosis & HSG showed both tubes blocked.  Sept 2013 IVF 5D transfer of two perfect embryos = BFN.  Started acupuncture and taking time off to drop some pounds & get healthier before FET in April 2014.
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  • kmom24maybemorekmom24maybemore
    Just a cyber hug!  Yes comments from others can be very painful- we are keeping our attempts very quiet only a few close friends of mine know.  Achieving a healthy pregnancy is not a test for womanhood but a blessing when I am able to keep it simple like that I do alright emotionally. 
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  • GeekywifeGeekywife member
    I hope that things get better and that your stay with us is short but sweet.
    Anniversary
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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    Welcome! I hope your stay is short, but we ARE a great bunch of ladies with some fabu jokes to make about how much suckage we deal with in this TTC journey.

    Speaking of which, when friends make comments like that to me I ask them if they want to think again about what they are talking to me regarding and then decide if they want to continue the conversation or change the subject. If they continue to talk about how easy it was for them to get pregnant, how I'm just not relaxing, etc. etc., then I let it rip. If they're truly my friend, they'll understand and all will be well again, but if they're just idiots then I've gotten rid of them...

    Anyhow-- we're always here for support!

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  • chris200mchris200m

    Thanks ladies! I really appreciate the warm welcome and the uplifting words!

    I'm giving my DH and I 1 more month before we start with appointments to see if there are any problems.

     Thanks again!  

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  • hopeful247hopeful247
    I feel the same... It's gotten to the point that my friends don't even want to tell me that they are pregnant. It's really hard...
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