divorce is looming if dh does not get with it

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

He just made a bottle of water for ds. cause his mommy said my ds had hard poops due to dehydration. I told him water can kill him. He doesn't believe me. He also wants to feed him 8oz a feeding so he can sttn. Cause his sister said to feed him 8oz. WTF does he care if ds sttn. HE DOESNT GET UP WITH HIM! Stupid fvcker!

blondie3379 · December 2008

Eek.

murphyec · December 2008

He is a month and a half old and DH thinks he can eat that much? AND that is has the capacity to sttn? Wow, he needs to start reading some baby books!

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

ds and i are locked in the master suite. I am not talking to him.

CHS2005 · December 2008

There is a story floating around in the news today about a mother who was watering down her baby's formula (to make ends meet) and it almost killed him. Not to be too dramatic - but you can always show him that. Too much water is really bad for babies...

Bunamama · December 2008

That is really messed up, I'd be LIVID! Mama's boys suck!

lucyjeanne · December 2008

they did have a story on the today show where a baby had water poisoining. the mother couldn't afford formula so she watered down the feedings to stretch the formula. the baby had seizures. yikes. i did give my dd sugar water (pedis rec) and it worked, but now i would think twice. scary.

Amberli · December 2008

Ugh, I'm sorry. I can definitely relate. We have had the same arguements about the amount per feeding brought on by his mom and sister.

He really is nothing like I thought he would be with a lo.

lmdbww · December 2008

OMG. I'm so sorry!

I hate when IL's interfere... Boo on IL's.

BabyMenzel · December 2008

maybe instead of locking yourself in your room with ds, you get yourself some references and talk with him about it.....NICELY.....

LittleMamaB · December 2008

While I would be upset, he can't learn if you don't teach him. Hell, we have two and my husband is still clueless about some things. You need to be clear with him that YOU are the child's mother, not your MIL, and let him know that he should always run things like that by you first. Give him time and opportunities to learn. Getting pissed off and locking yourself and his child (yeah, his child too) in a room will not solve a single thing.

*parrothead* · December 2008

I saw that story on the news too. So sad. The mother was watering down the formula because she could not afford to buy more. The doctor interviewed said that one more hour without medical care the baby would have died. You should tell that to MIL.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

BabyMenzel:
maybe instead of locking yourself in your room with ds, you get yourself some references and talk with him about it.....NICELY.....

that would work if he was an adult. but what his psycho mommy says goes and how dare i question it.

Cin.NJ · December 2008

The story about the mom watering down the formula is scary. ?Isn't that what WIC is for? ?My sister had WIC when my niece was born because she didn't make much money...its sad when you hear how some people abuse the system and others don't use it when they should.

?Oh - and as far as your DH goes - remind him that you are the baby's mother. ?

?My MIL asks questions about why or why not, but mostly because she's curious about how things have changed. ?I'm lucky that she let's me be the mom without interference.??

LittleMamaB · December 2008

Cin.NJ:
The story about the mom watering down the formula is scary. Isn't that what WIC is for? My sister had WIC when my niece was born because she didn't make much money...its sad when you hear how some people abuse the system and others don't use it when they should.

From what I understand she had WIC. The baby was going through more than what they gave her. She even asked them to up the number of cans they gave her, but they wouldn't.

PMJacobsen · December 2008

divorce? really? wow.

BabyMenzel · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
BabyMenzel:
maybe instead of locking yourself in your room with ds, you get yourself some references and talk with him about it.....NICELY.....

that would work if he was an adult. but what his psycho mommy says goes and how dare i question it.

ok then sit in your room like a little 12 year old instead of the adult you think you are

LittleMamaB · December 2008

This post is getting fun...lol.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

BabyMenzel:
SoMdGirl83:
BabyMenzel:
maybe instead of locking yourself in your room with ds, you get yourself some references and talk with him about it.....NICELY.....

that would work if he was an adult. but what his psycho mommy says goes and how dare i question it.
ok then sit in your room like a little 12 year old instead of the adult you think you are

thanks i will its better then fighting with an infant in the house

PMJacobsen · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
BabyMenzel:
SoMdGirl83:
BabyMenzel:
maybe instead of locking yourself in your room with ds, you get yourself some references and talk with him about it.....NICELY.....

that would work if he was an adult. but what his psycho mommy says goes and how dare i question it.
ok then sit in your room like a little 12 year old instead of the adult you think you are

thanks i will its better then fighting with an infant in the house

methinks there is more than one infant in the house...

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.

yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

Joes_love · December 2008

seriously? you're locked in a room refusing to talk to him and HE'S the one that's not an adult?

riiight. and yeah, it's his kid too. you don't agree with what he tried, so you talk to him about it. he has the right to raise his child too.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.
yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?

PMJacobsen · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.
yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

ok. i get that. you made it sound like divorce was the answer to the water prob

*parrothead* · December 2008

you're kinda crazy, huh?

How did your marriage work before you had a baby? When you would fight before, did you lock yourself in a room?

Ash123 · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
SoMdGirl83:
PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.
yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.
thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?

Uhh... When you come on here posting about a bottle of water and trying to get a baby to STTN, and never once say something about an anger problem, wtf are we supposed to assume?

breezey2323 · December 2008

It sucks when you post for support and you get zee flames...

DHs suck sometimes. I don't know the whole story, but if he's at all reasonable, then maybe when you calm down you can talk to him about it...sometimes a little info goes a long way. Your DS is a cutie, btw!

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

PMJacobsen:
SoMdGirl83:
PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.
yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

ok. i get that. you made it sound like divorce was the answer to the water prob

i think water is the straw breaking the back. i know ds is his, but when ds cries unstopable like they do sometimes and he has ds. He yells but he says I am not yelling AT ds I am just yelling. Well that does not work for me. I have ds all day and I never yell, at DS or in general. I handle it. HE CAN'T handle it.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

Ash123:
SoMdGirl83:
SoMdGirl83:
PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.
yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.
thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?
Uhh... When you come on here posting about a bottle of water and trying to get a baby to STTN, and never once say something about an anger problem, wtf are we supposed to assume?

next time I will post the whole story... sorry.

lvisser · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
SoMdGirl83:

PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.

yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?

her horse seems to be a high as the rest of us thinking that talking about divorce might be a little rash....

Tell him how you feel. My DH has said before that "well, my sister does this with her kids" and I told him that, while that is fine for her kids... its not for ours. He dropped it.

EDIT - and if he really is throwing/punching things, then maybe some couseling would be a good idea?

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

breezey2323:
It sucks when you post for support and you get zee flames...

DHs suck sometimes. I don't know the whole story, but if he's at all reasonable, then maybe when you calm down you can talk to him about it...sometimes a little info goes a long way. Your DS is a cutie, btw!

Thanks! So is yours. Look at all that hair. DS is losing his. Sad

SarahTx5701 · December 2008

I just have to say it can't be good for your marriage to throw around the D word.

I would take a step back, relax and try to speak rationally with him. He needs to be taught. Call the pedi and have the pedi give your suggestions for constipation. Then tell your dh what the pedi suggests. I bet it won't be water.

I hope you all get the help you need.

love.love · December 2008

is this the same DH that supported his mother when she let your DS cio for a long while? If so, your husband needs to seriously get a clue and start listening to you, his wife and mother to HIS child, before he keeps siding with his mother and ruining a future with you and DS. If this is the same DH (I think it was your post?) I'm so sorry you have to deal with yet another ridiculous situation your husband has put you in, you don't deserve to deal with all of this, nor these flames.

SarahTx5701 · December 2008

If he is yelling when ds screams then maybe your dh needs some help in coping. or needs to spend more time with ds so he knows how to handle him and calm him down.

Of course you can handle it, you're his mommy and with him 24/7. I bet your dh doesn't hear or deal with his screaming hardly ever.

My dh used to get very frustrated too, but I don't step in to rescue him and he's figured out how to calm ds himself and he feels so good abut himself now!

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

lvisser:
SoMdGirl83:
SoMdGirl83:

PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.

yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?

her horse seems to be a high as the rest of us thinking that talking about divorce might be a little rash....

Tell him how you feel. My DH has said before that "well, my sister does this with her kids" and I told him that, while that is fine for her kids... its not for ours. He dropped it.

EDIT - and if he really is throwing/punching things, then maybe some couseling would be a good idea?

yes he really is. yesterday it was a coffee mug and soup bowl because I did not empty the dishwasher before he got home. I will admit I didn't get much done yesterday but DS is off his nap sleeping schedule for some reason.

SarahTx5701 · December 2008

SoMdGirl83:
lvisser:
SoMdGirl83:
SoMdGirl83:

PMJacobsen:
divorce? really? wow.

yes since ds has been born dh has changed he is angry. he throws stuff and punches walls he never did that before. my son will not grow up with that.

thanks for judging me when you don't know the whole story, how high is your horse?

her horse seems to be a high as the rest of us thinking that talking about divorce might be a little rash....

Tell him how you feel. My DH has said before that "well, my sister does this with her kids" and I told him that, while that is fine for her kids... its not for ours. He dropped it.

EDIT - and if he really is throwing/punching things, then maybe some couseling would be a good idea?

yes he really is. yesterday it was a coffee mug and soup bowl because I did not empty the dishwasher before he got home. I will admit I didn't get much done yesterday but DS is off his nap sleeping schedule for some reason.

holy moly. That is scary if he is throwing stuff for that reason. You need to get him some help. Please make sure you and your son are safe. I'm so sorry it's that bad.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

love.love:
is this the same DH that supported his mother when she let your DS cio for a long while? If so, your husband needs to seriously get a clue and start listening to you, his wife and mother to HIS child, before he keeps siding with his mother and ruining a future with you and DS. If this is the same DH (I think it was your post?) I'm so sorry you have to deal with yet another ridiculous situation your husband has put you in, you don't deserve to deal with all of this, nor these flames.

Yes his MIL believe in CIO. I don't not at any age.

SoMdGirl83 · December 2008

SarahTx5701:
If he is yelling when ds screams then maybe your dh needs some help in coping. or needs to spend more time with ds so he knows how to handle him and calm him down.

Of course you can handle it, you're his mommy and with him 24/7. I bet your dh doesn't hear or deal with his screaming hardly ever.

My dh used to get very frustrated too, but I don't step in to rescue him and he's figured out how to calm ds himself and he feels so good abut himself now!

I am trying trust me. I love my DH but I love my DS too and I have to protect my DS. DS gets upset adn DH hands him over so hes not used to DH. DH needs to handle him more. I have him 24/7. Thats fine with me. But he wanted this baby so he needs to help. I wanted him too and I love him but its supposed to be a 2 person job.

PMJacobsen · December 2008

"yes he really is. yesterday it was a coffee mug and soup bowl because I did not empty the dishwasher before he got home. "

that is a serious issue.

lvisser · December 2008

PMJacobsen:

"yes he really is. yesterday it was a coffee mug and soup bowl because I did not empty the dishwasher before he got home. "

that is a serious issue.

Agreed... get his ass into some couceling. (why cannot I spell that right?!)

BabyMenzel · December 2008

PMJacobsen:

"yes he really is. yesterday it was a coffee mug and soup bowl because I did not empty the dishwasher before he got home. "

that is a serious issue.

he does this and you want to protect your ds, yet you will NOT stand up to him?

i either call mud or a really stupid person....

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