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April 2013 Moms
heddy79
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Are your husbands attending your OB appts?
heddy79
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My 12 week exam is next week and they're only going to weigh me, check my bp, and use the doppler to hear the heartbeat. We've already had 2 u/s which he attended, so I'm not sure he needs to come. Although, I'm so afraid of hearing bad news that I'm kind of afraid to go alone. What are you hubbies doing?
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Re: Are your husbands attending your OB appts?
Married since 8/7/10
the only reason hubs saw one of the three is because it was in the ER when I was bleeding back on week 5. it was the weekend and he travels... im secretly hoping he starts looking for something where he will be home at night (he mentioned it already)
Truth. FI hates being in a doctor's office anyway, so unless he gets to see a u/s, there's no sense in him sitting there for nothing.
BFP 6/28/12 EDD 03/07/13 MC 4w5d 07/03/12
BFP 07/30/12 EDD 04/09/13
My husband came to some of the first ones we had for my daughter and then stopped because things were going well and he just sat there for most of the discussions (about heartburn, constipation, etc:)
This time as long as things continue to go smoothly, he will only be coming to the U/S.
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
During my first pregnancy, my husband attended every single one of my appointments except maybe one or two.
During my second pregnancy, he came to my first appointment to hear the hb on the Doppler and he was also there for the ultrasounds.
This time, I don't think he'll be coming to any of my regular appointments. We've already had 2u/s and he's seen the hb, so hearing it on the Doppler doesn't have the same importance to us. He will be coming to the NT scan and the anatomy scan for sure, though.
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BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
My husband is coming to all of them. Listening WAY too closely to the dr then trying to keep an eye on my eating, physical activity, sleeping, and vitamins. It's cute and obnoxious all at the same time.
He is not being domineering or controlling. He's just overprotective in a big manly motherhen kind of way.
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H has come to all of my RE appointments so far. We will play it by ear for my OB appointments. I would like him to come, but if it's really just going to be a weight/measurement check I don't think H needs to come along.
I need H there if I have blood taken because I don't do well and want him to drive me home.
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Only ultrasound appts. When I was pregnant with DS he also came to the appt where we heard the heartbeat for the first time, and then he came to a couple at the end as well, when we were hoping to find out I had made some progress/was showing signs of labor as well.
This time I have a doppler at home already and I've found the heartbeat every day since Sunday, so he's heard it, and he won't be coming to my 10 week appt. It's more trouble to bring him along honestly and appts other than u/s appts are pretty uneventful (Pee in a cup, take BP, listen for HB, ask if there are any Q's then leave). It's much easier to just schedule it when it works for me/my work schedule and just go and not have to meet up with him. After the first tri I'll be switching to a practice that's across the street from my office building.
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+1. Also, I don't need him to see my weight. I'm happy keeping that bit of our marriage private.
Monday will be my second appt, and the first we can hear the heartbeat. DH and maybe DD will both come just to hear it. Then he won't go again with me until the ultrasound the find out our gender :-)
Even though his schedule is very flexible, I plan to only bring DH to the ultrasounds, and maybe to a few appointments near the end, if I feel like I need the support.
However, I have a question for Canadian moms out there - how likely is it that my regular family doctor will listen for the h/b at my regular monthly appointments? Since this is my first pregnancy, it is being treated as completely uncomplicated. I'm sure DH would like to be there if the doctor is checking for a h/b.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
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Mine came to all but like 2 for my first pregnancy. It was nice to have him there and share in the excitement. I should mention though that he is a nurse and only works 3x a week so it's not like he had to ask off from work to come (which made it possible - if he had to take off work, he'd have come to fewer).
This time, he came to my u/s appt last week and will probably only come to the anatomy scan. Otherwise, I don't see him trying as not much goes on.
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Another reason I love my doctor's office. The scale doesn't have visible numbers. There's a wire that's connected to a handheld screen that the nurse holds. No one at all can see it but her. It's a beautiful thing!
As for the OP. DH will be at any u/s, and came to most of my ones in my last month with DD, as I had some complications. For the most part, though, he'll tag along if he has the time, if not, I don't worry about the boring ones.
With dd dh came to 1st two - 1st we had an u/s, 2nd we heard the heartbeat, the anatomy scan and the last two just to see how everything was going.
This time he went to the 1st appt, the only one so far, he's coming to the NT scan, and as long as everything is ok he will probably do the same as last time.
I'm not planning on my husband coming to my appointments other than ultrasounds. I had my first appointment last week and they did an ultrasound on the spot. I felt bad that he wasn't there but I sent him a picture of the baby immediately and he was happy and didn't seem to mind.
This is definitely not his first rodeo. He did come to the majority of my appointments the first time around but I think he knows the drill and doesn't ask to be there. Also, I don't see the point of him missing work to see how much I weigh.
That's what I told DH. He would probably come to every appt if I wanted him to, but that is a lot of time off work.