New furntiure for DD1 before/after DD2 comes?

Re: New furntiure for DD1 before/after DD2 comes?

• Mama-Bear member

  September 2012

  Is she excited about it?  If she's excited, I personally would wait for after the baby's born that way you can make a big exciting deal that now that she's a big sis she gets new furniture. 

  If she's not excited then do it before so that it's not the baby's fault for making her get new furniture.

  
  GSx1 - 05/13/2013
  GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
  

  

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• jlw2505 member

  September 2012

  I was told by many people and read in books to make the changes at least 3 months before the baby comes.  You don't want your older child to feel like they are being kicked out of their room/crib just because the baby is coming and needs those things.  Even if your child is super excited about the baby and the big kid furniture, it makes sense to have those 2 things as separate as possible.  If the furniture is arriving a week before baby, I would not make the change until later - the baby can sleep in a pack in play or a bassinet for a little bit.  Or you can always put the new room together and ask DD1 if she wants to try sleeping in the new room/new bed but if she says no, don't push it at that point.  Follow her lead but getting it set up is totally fine.  A new baby is a ton of change but moving into a big girl bed is huge as well for your DD.
  

  Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 

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• LoveEeyore member

  September 2012

  I agree, do it later.  She is comfortable, the baby doesn't care if his clothes are in nice furniture or plastic bins. 

  Having a sibling is a big adjustment, but I found when the twins started crawling and getting into her stuff DD was put out by them.  Before they were toys, and cute, and at worst minor nuisances.  But when they started crawling it was shaky as to whether she was going to let us keep them.  Something big like that in your pocket may be a neat way through her adjustment period  to take attention away from the baby and focus on her and only her.

   

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• rspiegel member

  September 2012

  I updated the furniture too, before DS was born.  I ordered it and had to push DH to make decisions, and I am glad we did.  It took 2.5 months to come.  We set up her new big girl bed in December and my DS was born in February.  I really wanted to minimize all the changes.  I feel it helped her to adjust, it helped me because I was nesting like crazy, and after the baby was born, I just didn't have the time.

  

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