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Interstate Adoption Attorney

Lucky&LolaLucky&Lola
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It's been years since I posted on here and my goals have definitely changed!  Last time it was about TTC, but now it's about adoption.  A friend of mine in another state called last week and has found herself in a situation where she cannot keep the baby and asked DH and I to adopt it.  She just found out she's pregnant and hasn't even been to the dr yet.  We are holding off on getting an attorney until after she has her appointment, but my question is this....Is it better to get an attorney in my home state or in the state where BM lives?  I've heard it both ways.

Thanks!!

 

P.S.  Can someone tell me how to edit my signature at the bottom?  I've totally forgotten!

TTC #1, Cycle 22 - Jan 2009 IUI , Femara & Follistim: 7/21/09: BFN Multiple rounds of Clomid June 2012: Decided to move on to IVF after 3 more rounds of Clomid Sept 2012: Got a call from a friend asking us to adopt her baby
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Re: Interstate Adoption Attorney

  • crene84crene84 member

    I am working on a same state adoption with an attorney and he recommends we get an attorney to represent the e-mom as well.  If she was in another state, we would've gotten an attorney in her state to represent her.  Of course our attorney is near us.

    Congrats and good luck!

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    imageLucky&Lola:

    P.S.  Can someone tell me how to edit my signature at the bottom?  I've totally forgotten!

    Click on your avatar.  Then click on "edit my signature/avatar" and it will bring up a box where you can change it.

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    Get one in each state. GL!
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  • Lucky&LolaLucky&Lola

    Well crap, the cost just went up!  Just when I thought I had it figured out!

     

    TTC #1, Cycle 22 - Jan 2009 IUI , Femara & Follistim: 7/21/09: BFN Multiple rounds of Clomid June 2012: Decided to move on to IVF after 3 more rounds of Clomid Sept 2012: Got a call from a friend asking us to adopt her baby
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  • IRRIRR member
    I think it depends on the state the BM lives in and your state laws for the Intercompact.  I recommend the BM's state since we just had to fire our lawyer for messing stuff up.  Our new lawyer is in the BM state and hopefully things will now go smoothly.  GL.
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  • bhead81bhead81 member
    I would get one in both states.  We lucked out as we are finalizing in the same state that B was born so we only have to have one but if we were going to finalize here in AZ we would have had a second lawyer here.
    Brenda & Phillip married 10/10/09 

    After 6 years of failed cycles, we were blessed with our little man through adoption. 
    B born 1/3/2012. Adoption finalized 12/27/12

    Back  on the IF crazy train...
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    imageLucky&Lola:

    Well crap, the cost just went up!  Just when I thought I had it figured out!

     

    Welcome to the wonderful world of adoption fees

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