lets talk 'push presents'

RunningwithPearls · September 2012

My H has lots of present ideas that he can give me for my birthday, Christmas or when the baby comes, or a random Tuesday. His choice.

kelsea1031 · September 2012

TeamK07:
cheesecakerunner:
In defense of push presents:
I thought I was anti-push present because it seemed materialistic and weird, but I'm actually very pro-push present. MH and I give and get gifts for our families for no reason a lot - it's just what we do. We celebrate everything - first day of grad school, one month of knowing I'm pregnant, married for 1045 days - so of course having a healthy new human is a big deal This family will deserve something nice, like a new canoe.
I dunno, in our family, we look at something (like a ring or a piece of furniture) and like being able to say "I got that from X, when I Y'd."
Same here.
Also, to the people who are saying they would never pick it out or ask for something ... Are you registering for shower gifts? Or having a baby shower?

I think there is a big difference between saying "here, buy me this exact thing I picked out" and registering for options that people may or may not buy you.

As for the push presents, I'm a no. The fact that my H and I have brought a new little person into the world is gift enough for me. I think the name is ridiculous too. (I had a c/s, no pushing there!)

lala30 · September 2012

I never really thought them as "push presents" but DH gave me a new watch with DD 1 and a laptop with DD 2. Both were a surprise, maybe he talked to another guy about buying your wife a gift. I appreciated both of them. Not expecting anything with then 3rd, maybe a night nurse?? ((sarcasm))

mypalbabs · September 2012

Aww, finally something the board can disagree about!

I explained push presents to my partner and asked if she wanted one. Her response: "That's a real thing? Like an actual, real thing?"

bionic4me · September 2012

Interesting! This topic came up recently.

Our due date is one day after our 2 year anniversary. DH keeps teasing me that he planned it this way, so he will never have to remember our anniversary again. Honestly, he is a big tease and not being serious at all.

Just the other day, he was teasing me again and said that he won't need to buy me an anniversary gift as we will be focused on baby instead. So, my response was, "Fine. Instead of an anniversary gift, you can buy me a push present." That got him to stop teasing me

Bink720 · September 2012

I don't know if it really counts as a push present. But DH has been building a pandora charm bracelet for me over the last 3 years. Each time we have a big life even or go on a big vacation he gets me a charm to add. Sometimes it's something as small as a heart charm for V-day and others it's to signify something significant like our anniversary. When DS was born he got me a charm of a little baby to add. So next time I know I'm getting a charm and he said I could go ahead and help him pick it. That way I have one to represent each of our children. Ours are more like "life event presents" though.

tcfreedom · September 2012

TeamK07:
cheesecakerunner:
In defense of push presents: 
I thought I was anti-push present because it seemed materialistic and weird, but I'm actually very pro-push present. MH and I give and get gifts for our families for no reason a lot - it's just what we do. We celebrate everything - first day of grad school, one month of knowing I'm pregnant, married for 1045 days - so of course having a healthy new human is a big deal This family will deserve something nice, like a new canoe.
I dunno, in our family, we look at something (like a ring or a piece of furniture) and like being able to say "I got that from X, when I Y'd."
Same here.
Also, to the people who are saying they would never pick it out or ask for something ... Are you registering for shower gifts? Or having a baby shower?

Nope. I'm not having a shower. This is our 6th, and even though we got rid of anything years ago I feel weird or greedy asking our family to buy things when we purposefully got pregnant again. It's just me. We will buy what we need for LO and have a little party to introduce our family to baby about a month after birth.

lifesadance · September 2012

I got my gorgeous son as my reward for all that hard pushing. Big Smile

I know that "push presents" are commonplace on these boards but I don't actually know anyone IRL that has done them, actually. I'm also not very materialistic and would never ask for anything or even want anything -- if DH bought me some expensive gift I'd love it but part of my mind would think about what else we could have done with that money -- I'm pretty frugal and practical.

tmrchi · September 2012

I'm anti push present due to my frugalness (frugality?). I'm not a big gift person though. Most of the time gifts are something practical. Like our anniversary gifts to each other were furniture for our house, or splurging on a painting, or a trip. I normally even encourage potted plants instead of cut flowers so I can keep them longer or plant them in the yard. Instead of using the money for a diamond anniversary band like most my friends have done, we'll be using the money to extend my maternity leave.

I do like the idea of buying something to eventually pass down to the child, but I just can't imagine splurging like that.

kjesmer · September 2012

I think if ur dd wants to get u a gift for any occasion and he does it of his own free will then that's great. I personally would never ask for a gift. A loving supportive dh and a happy healthy baby are all I need.

magnoliasonfire · September 2012

This is honestly the first time I've heard of a push present. I can see how it's a special gesture if unasked for and received, but I will agree with many other posters that a healthy baby will be present enough. I will certainly never bring it up to DH.

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