lets talk 'push presents'

drtarajp · September 2012

Are you planning on receiving one? Have you talked to your sig other about this concept? Did you receive one with your first baby (if applicable)? What do you want? OR do you think the whole idea is selfish?

I talked to my husband about this whole concept today, and he seemed on board with my idea- but we will see if he follows through! I am asking for new wedding bands (one for above and below my e-ring). Nothing too extravagant, but i have had my heart set on these bands for a while now. I figured this is the best time to do it!

KrisM86 · September 2012

My daughter was my "push present.". I didn't want anything else other than my husband's full support during labor and delivery, which I got. He was amazing.

Casie13 · September 2012

I LOVE the idea of a push present! DH is very good at surprises and spoiling me, so he's definitely on board.

I'm not sure if I should suggest anything to DH or not. I feel like it will be less special if I pick out my own push present.

ChicagoBroad26 · September 2012

I got one when I had Ava, but I didn't ask for it. H got me a diamond "A" pendant. Are "push presents" silly? Yes. Is it nice to receive one? Yes. Just my two cents

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TeamK07 · September 2012

I do get them, but it is not a surprise and my husband and I actually go together to pick it out after the baby is born.

We decided that I would get a ring for each of our kids that have their birthstone in it. The rings will eventually be passed down to our daughters or future daughter-in-laws.

marybeth811 · September 2012

My husband got me a ring with DS's birthstone (combo push present and Christmas gift) and I do love it! IMO a very sentimental gift, though DS is the greatest gift of all. And maybe, just maaaaaaaaaybe, if I like my future daughter-in-law, I will pass it along to her someday

tondraluv · September 2012

DH is on board with the whole "push presents" idea and even has a few ideas already. I'd love a Tiffany's charm bracelet with the baby's birthstone or a locket but I havent suggested anything. DH would want a tattoo that represents the baby or something of that nature. It will be a combo to include our wedding anniversary.

MikesGirl22 · September 2012

DD was born the day after our first wedding anniversary in November. For Christmas that year DH got me the diamond earrings I had been wanting for years as a combo push/anniversary/first Christmas as a Mommy gift. Totally unexpected but very much appreciated!

cheesecakerunner · September 2012

My birthday is in March, so I'm dropping hints for a combo big gift - a canoe. He'll enjoy it too, so it's kinda a whole family gift. We'll just have to see how the budget looks then.

mollyskywalker · September 2012

I don't believe in them. DS was born in January so I made sure to ask for a treadmill for Christmas to help me get back into shape. I jokingly referred to it as my "push present."

MechanicMama1 · September 2012

Since I had a really terrible delivery and wound up getting knocked out during a c section.. When I came too my dh was not very supportive and wound up hating him the rest of that day lol... I realized a little later he was probably just really scared but any way, maybe a "push present" would have made me feel that he apricated what I had gone through to have this baby. And how he didn't really do anything... Idk just a thought. Also if he acted apricative that would have worked too

hfuhr22 · September 2012

mollyskywalker:
I don't believe in them. DS was born in January so I made sure to ask for a treadmill for Christmas to help me get back into shape. I jokingly referred to it as my "push present."

I'm with you, I think they're silly. I think getting a baby out of the whole ordeal is "push present" enough!!

SammieLou88 · September 2012

Hubby and I talked about it and he agreed that I'll get one for our last child - I want "the girls" lifted back up to where they're supposed to be.

+RBL+ · September 2012

My 'push present' will be holding my baby in my arms and finding out the sex.

I think the idea is kind of silly and would never bring it up to my H. If he buys something on his own, great. If not, hopefully I have a healthy baby and that is all I can ask for.

WorkinWeezel · September 2012

I didn't get one, and I don't want/need one. I torture my husband over the fact that my sister got one both times and didn't even "push" (C-Sections, not that they are easier, just don't have to do with pushing) and I pushed out a almost 9 pounder and got nothin' but a kid out of it.

Of course I'm just kidding and, like I said, don't want/expect anything.

Thanks

ETA- I ended this like an email because I'm at work hahaha sorry, no need for the "thanks" I guess!

TnArichmond · September 2012

+RBL+:

My 'push present' will be holding my baby in my arms and finding out the sex.

I think the idea is kind of silly and would never bring it up to my H. If he buys something on his own, great. If not, hopefully I have a healthy baby and that is all I can ask for.

I agree with you. I think it is silly. Like really, your baby isn't enough of a gift?? I would never ask for one. I have never even heard of "push presents" until this post.

Murraydog · September 2012

KrisM86:
My daughter was my "push present.". I didn't want anything else other than my husband's full support during labor and delivery, which I got. He was amazing.

100% this!

cvl105 · September 2012

ChicagoBroad26:
Are "push presents" silly? Yes. Is it nice to receive one? Yes. Just my two cents

haha I agree.

I got a beautiful pair of diamond hoop earrings before Callie was born that were a combined Christmas/Bday/Push present. So it wasn't really a push present, but he said he included it. haha

JenW3611 · September 2012

We have so many other things we're saving for that I'd feel silly asking DH to buy me something as a reward for giving birth. I think it's sweet if the husband, unprompted, decides to do something memorable (pendant with the child's initials, mom necklace, cute diaper bag, etc) but I too roll my eyes when I hear people telling their husbands to get something. But, then again, I didn't want gifts to each other on our wedding day either. lol I wouldn't mind flowers or something in my room, but that's it.

Besides--our anniversary is the month before our due date, and mother's day will be soon after--he'll have plenty of other opportunities to buy me a gift for other reasons! lol

tcfreedom · September 2012

I have to admit I am confused. I've never heard of a push present. By reading responses I assume it's some kind of gift you ask for as a reward or thank you for labor? Is that right?

That has to be the oddest thing I've heard of - sorry. I've never known anyone who got jewelry during labor. Or anyone who asked for it either. Maybe it's not something that's done where I live.

I hate the expectation of gifts. DH and I rarely exchange gifts that aren't handmade. Last year at Christmas he made me stepping stones for the garden. This year I believe he's plotting to build new planters or an arbor. LOL I can't see him brining those to the hospital!

cRAYzyinalabama · September 2012

Personally, I like the idea of a push present, but im not going to ask for one. If DH figures it out then ill be ecstatic but odds are he will be clueless... I mean if you know your getting whatever you asked for is it really a present or just another purchase? I think it should be sentimental...but then again would anyone like to drop a hint to my hubby? Lol what can I say, everyone loves presents!

Angela814 · September 2012

Personally, I think it's a ridiculous concept. I didn't receive nor did I need a present when either of our girls was born.

JuneBugsMommy · September 2012

The idea of a push present annoys me. At the end of labor all I wanted was a healthy baby that would leave the hospital with me.

UberBiz · September 2012

yeah I get the sentiment, but it seems odd to "plan" to get one, or even ASK for one. I hate asking for presents. If I have to ask for it, I may as well buy myself something I want. That's what I tell FI all the time. If I know exactly what I should be expecting, then it's not really a gift. I didn't get one for my last baby (my ex was a drunk and his birthday was the next day so, ya know, mother of his child hurting in the hospital having just gone through major abdominal surgery isn't really as important as getting drunk on his birthday. Phft.) and I don't really expect one for this one, though I'd hold out a little more hope from FI than I did with my ex. lol.

keyourtnee · September 2012

I'm sure my DH has no idea what a push present is, and I would never tell him or make him think I expected a present. I would rather use the extra money for a babymoon or something.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · September 2012

Meh. I think it's nice if the dad decides to get the mom a present, but I wouldn't push the idea on my husband.

drtarajp · September 2012

just to clarify- for awhile now, my DH and i have been discussing my new bands. we were going to get them at some point in the near future, so we figured at the time of baby's birth would be the best time. It would signify not only our marriage (1 band) but also the birth of our first born (2nd band).

and i think i speak for all of those ladies that would appreciate a 'push present' when i say that of course the baby is the most joyous gift one could ask for. i just thought that went without saying...

iuprae · September 2012

My DH thinks it is a silly idea and I agree but do always appreciate gifts!

BUT I have been looking at rings with DS birthstone for 2 years and he still hasn't produced that one! So nope not expecting anything.

big_noise · September 2012

JuneBugsMommy:
The idea of a push present annoys me. At the end of labor all I wanted was a healthy baby that would leave the hospital with me.

This.

principessa81 · September 2012

When I had Tony, my husband asked if there was anything I would like as a present. I told him "a giant margarita." He showed up the next day with a bottle of expensive tequila and the rest of the makings for a margarita. I was the happiest woman alive! Big Smile

Mis+Shapes · September 2012

My DH is the worst.gift.giver.EVER! I didn't even mention it to him.

cheesecakerunner · September 2012

In defense of push presents:

I thought I was anti-push present because it seemed materialistic and weird, but I'm actually very pro-push present. MH and I give and get gifts for our families for no reason a lot - it's just what we do. We celebrate everything - first day of grad school, one month of knowing I'm pregnant, married for 1045 days - so of course having a healthy new human is a big deal This family will deserve something nice, like a new canoe.

I dunno, in our family, we look at something (like a ring or a piece of furniture) and like being able to say "I got that from X, when I Y'd."

tobejesskoz · September 2012

I can't stand the term "push present" it just sounds stupid.

I would never ask for or expect something, and it was not something that we discussed beforehand. With that being said, dh did get me a a necklace that I had admired after dd was born. It was completely on his own though, and greatly appreciated.

Bbelle88 · September 2012

With my daughter my husband bought me diamond earrings. But I will say my due date with her was our 1 year anniversary and my birthday was 4 days after she was born - so there were other reasons for a present.

This time I have a feeling he'll get me something again but he in no way is expected to - I'll be happy with that little baby in my arms...nothing compares!

rayofsunshine99 · September 2012

I think it's weird.

alber2am · September 2012

My son was my "push" present. My husband was so wonderful through it all, I didn't expect anything else from him. On my first mother's day though, that was a different story

Ready4theParty · September 2012

CoffeeMonster19:
If my h wants to get me something on his own, great. But I roll my eyes at a couple of my friends who have picked out jewelry and told their husbands to buy it for them.

This. We have friends who are due two weeks after us, and she has a huge right hand diamond ring picked out for when she gives birth.

TeamK07 · September 2012

cheesecakerunner:
In defense of push presents:
I thought I was anti-push present because it seemed materialistic and weird, but I'm actually very pro-push present. MH and I give and get gifts for our families for no reason a lot - it's just what we do. We celebrate everything - first day of grad school, one month of knowing I'm pregnant, married for 1045 days - so of course having a healthy new human is a big deal This family will deserve something nice, like a new canoe.
I dunno, in our family, we look at something (like a ring or a piece of furniture) and like being able to say "I got that from X, when I Y'd."

Same here.

Also, to the people who are saying they would never pick it out or ask for something ... Are you registering for shower gifts? Or having a baby shower?

heddy79 · September 2012

keyourtnee:
I'm sure my DH has no idea what a push present is, and I would never tell him or make him think I expected a present. I would rather use the extra money for a babymoon or something.

I completely agree. DH and I are planning a spa babymoon that we will both enjoy. Even though I'm carrying our child, DH does an amazing job of taking care of me and bends over backwards to make me happy. I can't imagine being so focused on myself to ask my husband for a gift for having our baby. A child is the greatest gift you can ever recieve.

demmie326 · September 2012

I have never wanted one and have never gotten one. I personally would be upset if DH bought a push present. We have joint accounts so it would be like I was purchasing something for myself.....we don't make large purchases without talking to each other. I would also like to see the money go towards something that would benefit our family.

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